15-03-2021
Paul Kachoris: Navigating life's transitions as a man
I'm joined by Dr. Paul J. Kachoris, MD. Paul has been a psychiatrist for over 50 years working with children, adolescents and adults and still runs a private psychiatric practice. Since 1990 he has been involved with men's work co-leading men's weekend retreats with Victories of the Heart. His professional interests are men's studies and retreats, neuroscience, humanities and writing poetry. Paul is a father of two sons and one daughter and a grandfather of 5 grandsons and 4 granddaughters.In this episode we're going to tackle how we develop as men and specifically, what tasks do we need to experience and navigate as we get older. This know as the male developmental schema. We'll focus a bit more on the "mid life passage" that occurs between 35-50, when we tend to go through different mid-life crises. This show will provide an overview of what emotional needs men have and need to fulfill. Here are a few of the topics we covered:What is Victories of the Heart and why did it change his lifeHow fear got in the way of Paul having deeper connectionWhat happened after his first men's retreatHow men's work helped him become a better psychiatrist and therapistWhat has happened with men's movements over the last 30-40 yearsHow culture and media program archetypes of men into usHow traditional views of masculinity have created isolation and lonelinessWhy shame slowed the men's movementThe tyranny of the playgroundWhat is the male developmental schema?How Paul developed his own schema based on the work of several authors and researchersWhat is the midlife passage that happens between 35-50?What are some of the triggers that cause men to seek help?How Paul navigated his midlife passageDo we have to wait for a crisis to wakeup and change?The warrior, the lover, the magician, and the king archetypesHow the archetypes show up in everyday life and how they've changed for Paul over timeWhy we have to take care of what's between our earsMentioned on the showVictories of the HeartIron John by Robert BlyManKind ProjectRobert Moore - King, Warrior, Magician, LoverCarl JungErik Erikson - Childhood and SocietyGeorge E. Vaillant - Triumphs of Experience - The Men of the Harvard Grant StudyThe Seasons of a Man's Life by Daniel J. LevinsonThe Midlife Passage by James Hollis############# Show Notes #############Spread the word about men's mental health by sharing with a friend, subscribing, and liking the video. You can also get more plugged in across our other channels.Weekly Tips, Resources, and New Shows Website: https://www.mandateshow.com/Follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Email Adam: hi@mandateshow.com