Hope Out of the Darkness

Shell Pavlis

On a path to help stop suicide, Shelley Pavlis volunteers with AFSP (American Foundation for Suicide Prevention) in Orange County, CA as a Board Member, Project 2025 Champion, and Talk Saves Lives presenter. Follow Shell as she navigates her way through the world of suicide prevention, discusses how to help those who are affected by suicide, and talks to other volunteers who share their stories of survival or lived experience in order to help others. read less
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Teen World-Changer, Shannon Monet, on Bullying, Suicide, and Peer Support
29-03-2022
Teen World-Changer, Shannon Monet, on Bullying, Suicide, and Peer Support
How does bullying affect the mental health of kids and teens? Shannon Monet candidly explains how the words of her classmates affected her, some of the choices that helped shape her emotions, and how she regained her own sense of power and purpose to help others. You won’t want to miss this 15-year-old’s perspective on mental health, her suggestions for making mental health advocacy more effective, and some amazing insights. If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help About Shannon: Shannon Monet is 15 years old. Shannon is extremely focused and desires to make a positive impact on today’s, and the next, generation. Shannon has found her value and purpose. She believes no one should be left alone, or feel alone. She wants her story to help the lost find their identity. She believes everyone has their unique purpose and should work to walk in that purpose. There are many suffering from suicidal thoughts, depression, anxiety, fear, and more. Her goal and purpose are to use her voice through social media, graphic design, and capturing visuals on YouTube. She has an incredible and undying love for people and wants to be a light in this very dark world. Timestamps Shannon’s experience with being bullied in schoolOur choices can shape our emotionsRecognizing your own power and purposeThe importance of a strong support systemMaintaining your own mental health while helping othersHow can we make mental health advocacy more effective?The #duckduckhope origin story Links Connect with Shell Pavlis: AFSP Board Co-Chair, Project 2025 Champion for Orange County, CA Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell Connect with our guest, Shannon Monet: https://shannonmonet.com/ Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/shannonmonetpage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmonet_/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/ShannonMonet_ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeDTawZn3hAMouWIFmQm8RA LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannon-monet-b66a7521b Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/ Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness: http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Part 2: Mental Illness and Police Officers with Blue Wives Matter
23-11-2021
Part 2: Mental Illness and Police Officers with Blue Wives Matter
Retired Police Captain Robert Sweaza and his wife, Kristen, are my guests in Part Two of Mental Illness with Police Officers, where we discuss mental illness and how it relates to law enforcement officers. Kristen and Robert are the founders of Blue Wives Matter, a nonprofit dedicated to providing support for the families of fallen law enforcement officers. In this conversation, we talk about the particular challenges of mental health and suicide prevention education in law enforcement, the mental health stigma as it relates to first responders, and what goes into supporting the families of fallen officers.   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   About Blue Wives Matter:   Blue Wives Matter was founded in 2017 after the untimely death of Fountain Valley California Police Officer Rick Nilos. Officer Rick Nilos dedicated his life to helping others, as a police officer and a US Marine. It was in his death that Blue Wives Matter became inspired to help the families who are left behind. It is our mission to provide the support that families need in their time of loss and grief. We support families no matter the cause of death.   Blue Wives Matter has provided support to over 100 widows and widowers. Support has been provided financially and emotionally. This year we plan to offer mental health grants for those in need while dealing with grief.   Blue Wives Matter also honors the children of officers who have died through the Patches of Honor Program. Each month, these children receive police patches in the mail. Patches are donated from agencies and officers all over the world. As the children build their patch collection, they feel connected to the law enforcement community.   Timestamps •Why are retired first responders at a high risk of suicide? •The surprising level of support for the families of fallen officers •Law enforcement agencies can handle the aftermath of suicide better •What is stopping first responders from seeking help with mental wellness? •How Blue Wives Matter provides support to families •Recognize when you need help and ask for it •Robert's advice for proper self-care: separate yourself from your work   Links   Connect with Shell Pavlis:   AFSP Board Member, Project 2025 Champion for Orange County, CA Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell   Connect with our guests, Robert and Kristen Sweaza: BlueWivesMatter@gmail.com RSweaza206@gmail.com Blue Wives Matter website: https://www.bluewivesmatter.net/ Copline: https://www.copline.org/ Concerns of Police Survivors (C.O.P.S.) https://www.concernsofpolicesurvivors.org/ Survivors of Blue Suicide (SBS): https://www.survivorsofbluesuicide.org/ Blue H.E.L.P. : https://bluehelp.org/ Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org   Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental- health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/ Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness: http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Part 1: Mental Illness and Police Officers
09-11-2021
Part 1: Mental Illness and Police Officers
We're welcoming Joseph Reid back to the Hope Out of the Darkness Podcast. Joe is the founder and executive director of BrokenPeople.org and Author of Broken Like Me: And Insider's Toolkit for Mending Broken People, which he talked about during Episode 5. In this episode, Joe talks about the relationship between insight, compassion, and law enforcement. Recently, he had the opportunity to speak to law enforcement cadets in cooperation with The Cardinal Group, who got a little more than they bargained for with Joe's speech, and how he hopes to help future law enforcement officers understand how to respond to mental health crises both with the public they serve and themselves.   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   About Joe:   Joseph Reid has had a passion for loving and helping people from a very early age. He is the founder and Executive Director of Broken People, an international mental health peer support group. He is also very active as a peer support specialist and family advocate with NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness), the nation's largest grassroots mental health nonprofit organization.   He is extremely passionate about following God's direction, loving and serving his wife Melissa of 24 years, and trying to keep up with his four awesome grown kids. He currently oversees several brilliant writers on his website's blog that can be found at: www.broken-people.org Joseph has created a practical and easy-to-use scale for measuring your everyday mental wellness. He provides good tips on journaling and how to make your practice more enjoyable for those of us who are uncomfortable with the concept of journaling in general. In his book Broken Like Me: An Insider's Toolkit For Mending Broken People, Joseph acknowledges connections as vital to healthy mental health and shares how he builds and nurtures his own friendships, approaches isolation, and evaluates taking risks.   Timestamps:   What happens when the career you've trained for won't work for you?Identifying your emotions and what they're telling youHow Joseph is helping future law enforcement officers understand mental healthStatistics about law enforcement officers you may not knowSelf-care is important in order for you to have the capacity to help othersCelebrating failure as the opportunity for future successesWhy building trust is important, especially for police officersAre mental health first responders a good idea?How we can prevent suicide by firearmsTeaching your friends how to help you weather a mental health stormComing up next on Hope Out of the Darkness   Links Connect with Shell Pavlis:   AFSP Board Member, Project 2025 Champion for Orange County, CA Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell   Connect with our guest, Joseph Reid:   Website: https://www.broken-people.org/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josephereid Book: Broken Like Me: An Insider’s Toolkit for Mending Broken People https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B095JG9D4Z/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-countyhttps://bewelloc.org/ Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org   Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/   Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/   University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/   Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support.   American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org   Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness:   http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Integrative Treatment for Suicidal Thoughts and Mental Wellness with Britten Devereaux
26-10-2021
Integrative Treatment for Suicidal Thoughts and Mental Wellness with Britten Devereaux
Integrative Treatment for Suicidal Thoughts and Mental Wellness with Britten Devereaux There is much more to mental health than a person's feelings. Sleep, diet, relationships, and screen time all contribute to a person's mental well-being. Britten Devereaux explains how and why she and her colleagues treat the entire person, along with the patient's family to achieve lasting relief from mental health struggles. Her compassionate approach not only has produced amazing results but also helps her feel hopeful each and every day. If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help About Britten: Most recently, Britten changed her focus from subacute residential care to outpatient care based on families consistently seeking more flexible service scheduling. It grieves her heart to see people settle for status quo when the is a wild and free life just millimeters away. Her personal story is one of determination and leaving what doesn't work behind. Completing her Master of Science in Addiction Counseling concurrent to a role as Clinical Supervisor, then Managing Director, Britten ensures patients are treated with dignity and that care is tailored, time-bound, and specific. "Individual mental health is the axis point to family stability, marketplace innovation, and overall wellness." As a Licensed Advanced Drug and Alcohol Counselor, Britten has her MAC from the National Certification Commission for Addiction Professionals and is committed to see staff and patients reach the goals they did not believe possible. You will often hear her talking about Pacific Solstice being the leading force to change the landscape of psychiatry. Combining services, neurological, social, and psychological, she educates families to move from scarcity and deficits (what she calls a wasteland) to psychiatric care that is collaborative and strengths-based (what she calls a capital city). "This ultra-personal space of the service sector demands innovation and hospitality. Given over time, generations, not just individuals, live a different narrative... one of courage, health, and connection." The integrative approach uses more, not lessWe heal together and learn togetherSome of the treatments offered and how they work togetherEnding the stigma within families facilitates healingHow MeRT works and what it can doThe effects of screen time on mental healthHealing veterans: isolation, Afghanistan, and the warrior mentalityPreventing ER visits for mental health crisesIt all starts with sleepThe little things each day add up to hopeful Links Connect with Shell Pavlis: AFSP Board Member, Project 2025 Champion for Orange County, CA Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell Connect with our guest, Britten Devereaux: Pacific Solstice Integrative Clinic: https://pacificsolstice.com/ Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/ Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness: http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Hope, Healing and Arts
12-10-2021
Hope, Healing and Arts
The arts can have a profound effect on a person's mental health and can offer a place of hope and healing to many people. Dylan Russell and Jake Blair, Aunt and Nephew, tell us about how the arts offered a safe place to express their emotions after losing their family member to suicide. Dylan is the Director of Education and Outreach at Laguna Playhouse in Laguna Beach, CA and discusses Laguna Playhouse’s program for teens and young adults, talks about some of her favorite teaching experiences, and explains very well how and why art is such a great healing tool. Jake is pursuing his master’s degree in Social Work at the University of Denver after working with people who were struggling with mental health issues and substance abuse motivated him to become better educated about how to help people who are struggling. He shares his story of healing through music, what he learned working in the acute residential treatment center, and how mental health caregivers can avoid burnout.   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call:   Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   About Dylan:   Dylan is a director, educator, new play developer, and community engagement specialist whose passion for interactive storytelling has influenced her work with schools and organizations such as Laguna Playhouse, American Conservatory Theatre, Berkeley Repertory Theatre, Oakland Public Schools, Jewish Community High School, and TheatreFIRST.   Dylan envisioned, created, and leads the OUR STORIES program at Laguna Playhouse, which utilizes generative theatre practices to combat stigma, create awareness about mental health, and amplify the voices of youth and young adults ages 16-25. Dylan was recognized as a KNX Hero in 2020 for her work on Our Stories and the program was a recipient of the Biller Family Foundation COVID-19 Social Impact Theatre Innovation Award 2021.   About Jake:   Jake is currently a 27-year-old grad student at the University of Denver where he's studying to get his Master’s degree in Social Work. Before moving to Denver, he was living in San Francisco where he was a counselor at an acute residential treatment center, helping those with mental health conditions and substance abuse issues who were just getting out of crisis situations. Professionally, he's worked with many folks that have had suicide attempts and deal with chronic and acute suicidality as well as having personal history surrounding the topic of suicide.   Timestamps   • Meet this week's guests, Dylan Russel and Jake Blair • How Jake used music to process grief • Art allows people to experience their emotions with others • Laguna Playhouse has created a program that is a safe space for people to share their stories • How sharing your experiences with others is a powerful healing tool • Starting a conversation by exposing your own vulnerability and emotions • What it takes to be a good arts teacher • How can mental health workers avoid compassion fatigue? • Make the time to connect with others   Links   Connect with Shell Pavlis:   AFSP Board Member, Project 2025 Champion for Orange County, CA Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell   Connect with our guests, Dylan Russel and Jake Blair:   Laguna Playhouse https://lagunaplayhouse.com/ Our Stories https://lagunaplayhouse.com/education-community-engagement/our-stories/ Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/   Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support.   American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org   Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness:   http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Hell on Earth, Faith, and Science with Jared Diehl
28-09-2021
Hell on Earth, Faith, and Science with Jared Diehl
Jared Diehl is the host of the Louder Now podcast and this week he joins Shell to have the important conversation about mental health and faith. Jared talks about his upbringing with a supportive mother, an abusive father, a life shaped by faith, and how all of that impacted his mental health. He talks plainly about his experience with bipolar disorder, the struggle to find the right balance of medications and when it was appropriate to have faith in medical science as well as religion. If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help About Jared: Jared is almost 36 years old and lives in La Verne, California. He is a regular patient at Tri-City Mental Health services and gives back to the community by sharing his testimony and struggles with mental illness. He participates in a program called Courageous Minds. Jared also works with the National Alliance of Mental Illness sharing his story with In Our Own Voice and Ending the Silence. He also hosts his own podcast called Louder Now. Jared also likes to write poetry, play hockey, run, watch movies, and make videos related to helping people with their mental health. He also loves his church in downtown Pomona and serves regularly. He is also in the process of developing a mental health support group for his church community. Timestamps Jared shares his childhood experiencesWhat sleep can tell you about your mental health statusHospitalization, medicine, doctors: what worked and what didn'tBeing afraid of going to hell, while living through hellHealing isn't immediateFaith and medicine don't have to be in oppositionShell's personal experience with faith and mental healthIs suicide a sin? What do you do when your church makes you feel bad about a family member's suicide?The complicated relationship between body chemistry, experiences, and mental healthYour bravery will have a positive impact on othersIt's impossible to stay in the same place forever. You will get through it. Links Connect with Shell Pavlis: AFSP Board Member, Project 2025 Champion for Orange County, CA Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell Connect with our guest, Jared Diehl: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jared-diehl-b78b0b11b/ The Louder Now Podcast: https://www.podpage.com/jared-diehl-the-louder-now-podcast/ The Beginning Again on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rLJ8CDKW10 Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/ Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness: http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Breaking Free From the Silence of Suicide with Michelle Anhang
14-09-2021
Breaking Free From the Silence of Suicide with Michelle Anhang
Professional Certified Coach Michelle Ahnang knows very well how not allowing yourself to grieve can hurt you far after you've lost a loved one to suicide. 15 years ago, Michelle's husband killed himself. Their family decided not to tell people the truth about his death for some time, which made Michelle's healing process long and arduous. In this episode, she talks to Hope Out of the Darkness about the words that got her attention and helped her decide to get herself well, then turn her experience into a platform to help others with their own mental health challenges.   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   About Michelle:   Success is a strange thing. It’s never a linear path, but a collection of events and our reactions to them. What we do with what we are presented is up to us. It makes sense then that our success is also up to us.   My path has not been a linear one, as so many of us have experienced. Growing up with emotional abuse in a constrictive house my sense of worth and worthiness were eroded, obscuring my identity. I learned that in order to be safe, I must become invisible and silent. I lived by others’ expectations, never realizing my own. I remained this way into adulthood, my marriage and new motherhood.   But then the unthinkable happened.   My husband of 12 years, my best friend, died by suicide. With two young children to look after, I shifted into survival mode without ever processing my own grief, confusion and anger. Meanwhile, my husband’s suicide lingered over me, the stigma stripping me of my ability to speak the truth of both him and what happened. I remained shame-driven.   Climbing out of silence.   I lived that way for over ten years, until I was no longer able to carry this backpack of shame and guilt and silence. I was forced to confront everything--my childhood, my husband’s death, and my identity as a widow, all while raising my two beautiful children alone. I started going to therapy and began the hard work of healing and discovering who I was. I learned that my voice was stronger than silence and that I was more than the singular events that brought me to this place.   The true me.   It’s from these experiences that my coaching practice was born. Throughout my healing and discovery process, I learned what it meant to guide others living with mental health challenges, and the lethal impact of stigma and silence.   This is what I do:   I help strip the silence, shatter the stigma, and get you on the path to becoming who you truly are. I work to support families faced with mental health challenges, individuals who are ready to stop their own cycle of self-sabotage, and professionals struggling with balance. This is my mission.   I hold a BA in Psychology from York University, am a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), and a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC). I am Mental Health First Aid certified through the Mental Health Commission of Canada. I am also trained in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction and Mindfulness Training for Emotional Resilience, and am an active public speaker and educator.   I’m an avid lover of dance, reading and general decompression. My sons, Eric and Zack, are my world, although they love to roll their eyes at me, particularly when I’m dancing.   Timestamps   ⦁ Michelle's husband's struggle with mental health ⦁ The after effects of her husband's suicide and the lie that made it worse ⦁ Finding the motivation to heal and the therapy she needed ⦁ It's alright to be angry ⦁ How has the stigma faded over the last 15 years? ⦁ Coming clean and working through it together ⦁ Being mindful about moving toward healing ⦁ Setting boundaries about your comfort level ⦁ What we can all do to help end the stigma ⦁ We are in control of our mental health: things you can do daily to improve your mental health ⦁ Mental health first aid - the CPR for mental health ⦁ How to use your phone Notes app to give yourself a boost   Links   Connect with Shell Pavlis: AFSP Volunteer, Advocate, Event Sponsor, Give Back Partner Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell Connect with our guest, Michelle Anhang: (647) 886-4616   Connect with Michelle Anhang: www.michelleanhang.com BOOK ONLINE https://calendly.com/michelle-anhang Follow Michelle on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/michelleanhangcoaching Follow Michelle on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/michelleanhangcoaching/   Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/   Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org   Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness: http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Brilliant Things Abound: How Art Can Open a Dialogue About Mental Health
07-09-2021
Brilliant Things Abound: How Art Can Open a Dialogue About Mental Health
Professor Tony Vezner, head of the Theater Department at Concordia University, talks about this fall's show, Every Brilliant Thing. This one-man play gets the conversation about suicide started using humor, an intimate venue, and audience participation to tell the story from the point of view of a child of a suicide survivor as he catalogs everything that someone would want to live for. AFSP will have an information table plus a post-show discussion after every event to keep the conversation going and end the stigma of mental health issues.   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   Timestamps:   Making the discussion about mental health relatable through artHow art contributes to your mental well-beingHelping to start the conversation about mental health on campusThe novel that brought mental health treatments to light in the Victorian eraRespectfully and safely depicting a controversial storyTony and Shell share some of their "brilliant things"   Links:   Get your tickets to Every Brilliant Thing at https://www.simpletix.com/e/every-brilliant-thing-tickets-73036 Connect with Shell Pavlis: AFSP Volunteer, Advocate, Event Sponsor, Give Back Partner Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell
The Journey Through Loss with Michael Puldy
31-08-2021
The Journey Through Loss with Michael Puldy
Every person's journey through the grief of losing a loved one to suicide is unique, but it doesn't have to be lonely. In 2009 Michael Puldy's first wife ended her life. Michael talks about how he used his life experience with mental health challenges in his family to support his three sons and make his way through life after loss, the frustration of not being able to find people who had gone through similar experiences, and how he now helps others who have lost loved ones to suicide through their own journeys.     If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call:     Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help     Michael Puldy, CEO of Puldy Resiliency Partners, has a thirty-plus-year career dealing with disasters, crises, and crazy adventures. In his business life, he has helped hundreds of companies navigate through business disruption, computer infrastructure failures, and data loss, caused by a broad brush of reasons including human mistakes, natural disasters, and all-out cyberattacks. Through work, adventure travel, and in everyday life, we face and confront risk every day and in all sorts of unexpected ways. Sometimes the experience is amazing, and sometimes we see the darkness that exposes the core of what makes us human.   Michael Puldy is a technology executive, photographer, writer, and world traveler. Between travels for business and pleasure, he has visited over 45 countries across Africa, Asia, Australia, Europe, and the Americas. He is also the author of The Millennial’s Guide to Business Travel: Lessons from the Next Generation of Road Warriors.  He has an incredibly impressive resume of travel including visiting all 50 states, 50 countries, has flown 3 million air miles, and is a member of the Circumnavigators Club.     Timestamps     Michael's books   Michael's story of losing a loved one to suicide   How to support children who've lost a parent   Applying the skills you have to manage your own crisis   Sharing your experience together makes everyone stronger   Finding resources to help you after losing someone to suicide   If a person is suicidal separate them from their firearms   Tips for helping children through loss   What hope looks like     Links     Connect with Shell Pavlis:     AFSP Board Member, Give Back Partner   Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties   shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Feeling They’ve Been Heard…Emergency Management with Scott O’Donnell
17-08-2021
Feeling They’ve Been Heard…Emergency Management with Scott O’Donnell
Clinical Therapist and workplace safety expert Scott O'Donnell gives valuable insight into the value of making others feel heard. He offers advice on dealing with patients in crisis, anxious family members, and fearful staff, as well as ways to mitigate workplace violence - before the de-escalation stage. Scott also discusses his strategies to create a healthy environment for patients, visitors, and staff, and explains how he uses all of his experience to enhance his employee preparedness workshops to lessen fear and anxiety in the workplace.   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   As a Clinical Therapist and workplace Safety and Security expert, with 25 years experience, Scott specializes in creating "Peace-of-Mind" and a happier workplace environment. Scott has developed employee safety, "Active Shooter", workplace violence, security and conflict resolution programs that create a workplace culture to bring out the best in your employees. He's also an expert in Emergency Management, certified by FEMA and Homeland Security in internal and external disasters, specializing in incident command. Scott's seminars, workshops, breakout and coaching sessions create healthy working environments that promote a safe, secure, culture to enhance employee, customer, patient, teacher, staff and student peace-of-mind. He's an expert in Health Care Safety and De-escalation of employee, patient and visitor conflicts in Health Care facilities, Educational institutions and Workplace environment. As a Clinical Therapist Scott's body of work covers Bi-Polar, Anxiety, Depression, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Addiction, Chemical Dependency, and specialize in Childhood Trauma. He uses his skills and expertise in these areas to improve individuals lives and also enhance his workplace programs. He has also trained staff to work safely with patients in Behavioral Health Units (Lock-down Units).   Scott's "Active Shooter" protocol and employee preparedness workshops prepare your employees to respond appropriately in an age of escalating gun violence. His workshops can lessen the fear and anxiety from the daily reality that we live in an ever present environment of workplace violence.   Timestamps   The process of hospitalization: assessment, evaluation, and placementListening to someone is different than making them feel heardSpecial procedures for lockdown units protect patients and staffHow to see the warning signs and be approachable to someone in crisisTraining for active shooter scenarios in the hospitalShare and report to lessen workplace violenceWhat leaders can do to mitigate fear in their workplaceBeing in service to others can have a positive impact   Links   Connect with Shell Pavlis: AFSP Volunteer, Advocate, Event Sponsor, Give Back Partner Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell Connect with our guest, Scott O'Donnell: Contact Scott at (858) 531-0777 to discuss current issues and how he can be of help to you, your company, or organization Concordia University, Irvine, CA Discounted tickets to see Every Brilliant Thing September 10,11,18 at 7:30 September 12,19 at 2:00 pm Listen to Shell and the Director and Theatre Professor, Tony Vezner, describe this play about mental health and suicide, and get a special discount code. https://www.simpletix.com/e/every-brilliant-thing-tickets-73036
Forgive Yourself and Take Charge with Jennifer Sandowsky
03-08-2021
Forgive Yourself and Take Charge with Jennifer Sandowsky
Host: Shell Pavlis Guest: Jennifer Sandowsky   Jennifer Sandowsky literally wrote the book on exploring the role of unresolved emotions so that we can shine the light of forgiveness on ourselves to liberate us from the victim inside. In this candid interview, she highlights the importance of advocating for yourself, understanding all courses of available treatment, and using a tool like her Mental Health Life Report. Jennifer gives great advice on how to have an open dialogue with your health professionals and daily practices for your own empowerment to heal.   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   Jennifer Sandowsky grew up in New Jersey with a mother, brother, and aunt who all had schizophrenia. An extremely chaotic upbringing, along with frequent disputes with her Father, was followed by the tragic deaths of her closest friend at the age of 14, "when she was hit by a car and dragged to her death in front of Jennifer," and the murder of her grandfather at the age of 16. She was also expelled from high school and placed in a facility for "emotionally troubled youngsters." Years later, her life improved, and Jennifer graduated from college with a B.A. in Psychology, then went on to have a long career in pharmaceutical sales, selling both antidepressants and antipsychotics. Through Forgiveness Jennifer and her father have established a very close and loving relationship.   Jennifer approaches mental health through "journeys" of oneself in ordinary life events that we can all connect to, yet in a casual and inviting manner. Unlike other systems that offer a more linear or scientific view, this approach helps to break down the “good, bad, and ugly” within us all.   Timestamps   00:00 Introduction 2:20 The Secret Chamber helps you release harmful feelings and start healing 5:52 How Jennifer's Mental Health Life Report helps you empower yourself to grow 13:41 Is "pro-information" different than "anti-medication"? 15:26 Make sure you understand the Black Box Warning 23:43 A first-hand account of medication and mental health 27:40 Why you should examine the risks and benefits of starting and stopping medications 30:58 How to have an open conversation with your doctor and advocate for your own health 36:50 Jennifer's tips on keeping yourself healthy   Connect with Shell Pavlis:   AFSP Board Member, Treasurer, Project2025 Champion, Give Back Partner Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell   Connect with our guest, Jennifer Sandowsky:   Get Jennifer's book here: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1703418484?pf_rd_r=1A7GDEV16BE9YMVTQQG8&pf_rd_p=5ae2c7f8-e0c6-4f35-9071-dc3240e894a8&pd_rd_r=eb28fa55-9608-4511-b263-97b21dd2a5c3&pd_rd_w=Ae3Qm&pd_rd_wg=8ilCc&ref_=pd_gw_unk Get the FREE Mental Health Life Report here: https://mailchi.mp/1caf9ca60d72/freementalhealthlifereport?fbclid=IwAR0fPYRMlwVa6C7YVw_CEd90NTxeY-D4Mtmnv-gmaKNqxR3P-zdo5lQvALI   Jennifer’s Email: thesecretchamberofforgiveness@yahoo.com   https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county https://bewelloc.org/ Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/   Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support.   American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org   Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness:   http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com   Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness   Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Joseph Reid on Making Strategic Vulnerability a Social Norm to Help People With Their Mental Health
20-07-2021
Joseph Reid on Making Strategic Vulnerability a Social Norm to Help People With Their Mental Health
Host: Shell Pavlis Guest: Joseph Reid   A support group allows members to exchange personal experiences and thoughts, coping methods, and firsthand knowledge about mental health. A support group can bridge the gap between your own coping strategies and the need for emotional assistance for many people. A person's connection with a doctor or other mental health staff may not give enough emotional support. Groups made up of family, friends, and others who have had similar experiences may be a strong and influential tool for meeting your emotional needs and helping you through even the most trying times.   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call:   Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   Joseph Reid has had a passion for loving and helping people from a very early age. He is the founder and Executive Director of Broken People, an international mental health peer support group. He is also very active as a peer support specialist and family advocate with NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness), the nation's largest grassroots mental health nonprofit organization.   He is extremely passionate about following God's direction, loving and serving his wife Melissa of 24 years, and trying to keep up with his four awesome grown kids. He currently oversees several brilliant writers on his website's blog that can be found at: www.broken-people.org   Joseph has created a practical and easy-to-use scale for measuring your everyday mental wellness. He provides good tips on journaling and how to make your practice more enjoyable for those of us who are uncomfortable with the concept of journaling in general. In his book Broken Like Me: An Insider's Toolkit For Mending Broken People, Joseph acknowledges connections as vital to healthy mental health and shares how he builds and nurtures his own friendships, approaches isolation and evaluates taking risks.   00:00 Introduction 2:11 Joe's background 3:47 Explanation of Joe's mental health scale 9:31 Being able to apply tools to one's own reality 11:38 Importance of keeping a journal 15:38 Importance of friendship and knowing "when to fire a friend" 18:06 Advice on how to help friends in crisis 29:23 What is the project Broken People? 34:17 Advice on how to support your own mental health   Connect with Shell Pavlis:   AFSP Volunteer, Advocate, Event Sponsor, Give Back Partner Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties  shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell   Connect with our guest, Joseph Ried:   Website: https://www.broken-people.org/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josephereid  Book: Broken Like Me: An Insider’s Toolkit for Mending Broken People  https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B095JG9D4Z/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0  https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county  https://bewelloc.org/ Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/   Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support.   American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county  Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer  Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate  National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org   Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness:   http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com   Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness   Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Warning Signs of Suicide and Shell’s Story
06-07-2021
Warning Signs of Suicide and Shell’s Story
Shell Pavlis, the Creator and Host of Hope Out of the Darkness, is a suicide loss survivor. She shares her personal story about how she was affected by suicide and the warning sign of suicide, as presented by the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention. Shell also explains a bit about AFSP’s Talk Saves Lives Program and how individuals or groups can sign up to schedule a Talk Saves Lives Presentation.   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call: Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741   Here are the warning signs and risk factors: https://afsp.org/risk-factors-protective-factors-and-warning-signs   Sign up here for a Talk Saves Live presentation as an individual or reach out for a private presentation for your group. This is the Standard Presentation, but you can select any program you want or any chapter, by changing the pull-down menus: https://afsp.org/calendar/?program=Talk%20Saves%20Lives:%20Standard   As Ambassador for Project 2025 for the OC Chapter of AFSP, Shell talks about the 4 key areas that AFSP determined where the highest number of lives could potentially be saved the fastest: Firearms, Healthcare Systems, Emergency Departments, and Corrections Settings.   Are you having thoughts of suicide? https://afsp.org/im-having-thoughts-of-suicide   What to do when someone you know is at risk: https://afsp.org/what-to-do-when-someone-is-at-risk   Practical Information for immediately after a loss: https://afsp.org/practical-information-for-immediately-after-a-loss   Get Help: http://afsp.org/get-help General information about Project 2025 https://project2025.afsp.org/   Host: Shell Pavlis AFSP Treasurer, Board Member, Orange County Chapter AFSP Give Back Partner Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell   Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support   American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county   Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer   Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate   National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education   DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org   Connect with the Podcast, Hope Out of the Darkness http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com   Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness. https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness   Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Safe Marketing and Media Consumption for Those Affected by Suicide
22-06-2021
Safe Marketing and Media Consumption for Those Affected by Suicide
If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call:   Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   Host: Shell Pavlis Guest: Marie Cradle   Online social media is now as ubiquitous as it is inextricable, especially as it has grown integral to every facet of our daily lives. Suicide, attempted suicide, and purposeful self-harm have all increased as a result of this increase in social media use, particularly among adolescents. According to several studies, greater use and exposure to social media platforms predicts an increased likelihood of undesirable consequences such as bullying and may lead to suicide.   Here are some suggestions for using social media in a healthy and productive manner.   Follow people and things that bring you joy.Unfollow unhealthy accounts.Support and connect with others in real life.Reduce your screen time.Take an extended break away from social media when needed.   Marie Cradle joins this episode of Hope Out of the Darkness to talk about the dangers of social media and offers tips and tricks on how to become more conscious of when you’re starting to develop toxic and potentially harmful behaviour. She shares some of her favorite self-care practices and urges people to design their own self-care routine, both on and off line, to help improve their mental health.   Marie also shares the various challenges of trying to reach people through social media and how AFSP has found success by using social media marketing. AFSP is working to not only bring awareness to suicide prevention, but also reach people who might be in need and don’t know where to look.   00:00 Introduction 1:15 How did you get involved with AFSP? 3:25 What's your social media background? 6:18 The challenges of reaching those at risk 8:57 How to use social media in a healthy way 15:05 Upcoming AFSP programs 19:40 Suicide prevention hashtags 24:02 AFSP top Events 25:11 What is the Out of the Darkness Walk 32:57 Your go to suide prevention and mental health resources 35:29 Listener Question   Connect with Shell Pavlis:   American Foundation of Suicide Prevention OC Board Member, AFSP Give Back Partner Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties  shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell   Connect with our Guest:   Marie Cradle, America Foundation of Suicide Prevention, OC Board Member cradlewrites@gmail.com marinarena.com IG: @marinarena_web   https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county  https://bewelloc.org/ Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/   Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support.   American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county  Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer  Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate  National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org   Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness:   http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com   Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness   Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
The Importance of Taking a Human, Empathetic Approach to Nonprofit Fundraising
08-06-2021
The Importance of Taking a Human, Empathetic Approach to Nonprofit Fundraising
The Importance of Taking a Human, Empathetic Approach to Nonprofit Fundraising   If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call:   Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   Host: Shell Pavlis Guest: Cindy Bowman   Fundraising necessitates thought. It’s sometimes referred to as "development work" and is very relational. Community building, communication, effusiveness, enthusiasm, cheerleading, optimism, sincerity, and the capacity to establish and execute plans are all part of how the AFSP approaches raising funds to make a difference in people’s lives.   The AFSP hosts several events in support of suicide prevention year round. They bring individuals together from all walks of life who wish to help prevent suicide in their communities. Chapters are energized by families and friends who have lost loved ones to suicide, vulnerable persons, mental health professionals, clergy, educators, students, community/business leaders, and many others.   Cindy Bowman joins this episode of Hope Out of the Darkness to talk about the approach the AFSP takes when organizing fundraising events and the many different programs and events the AFSP offers throughout the year. Cindy also shares her experiences with taking an empathetic approach when meeting people. She reminds us of the power of asking the simple question, are you ok?   00:00 Introduction 1:27 How did you become connected to the AFSP 3:23 The challenges of raising funds for  nonprofits 5:31 Who else is supporting AFSP 6:29 Talks Saves Lives 8:54 AFSP Events in support of suicide prevention 16:06 The power of asking, are you ok? 22:02 healthy terms to use surrounding suicide  23:34 The benefits of sponsoring a non profit if you’re  a business 28:02 Suicide prevention resources 29:01 Self care tips for a healthy body and mind 29:45 Listener Q&A   Connect with Shell Pavlis:   AFSP Volunteer, Advocate, Event Sponsor, Give Back Partner Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties  shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell   Connect with our Guest:   Cindy Bowman, America Foundation of Suicide Prevention, OC Board Member cindy.afsp@gmail.com   https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county  https://bewelloc.org/ Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/   Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support.   American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county  Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer  Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate  National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org   Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness:   http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com   Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness   Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com
Words Matter
08-06-2021
Words Matter
If you are in crisis or know someone who is...please call:   Suicide Lifeline at 1-800- 273-8255 or text the word “help” to 741-741 http://afsp.org/get-help   Host: Shell Pavlis Guest: Nancy Cooper   Suicide is the tenth most common cause of death in the United States. Each year, over 45,000 Americans die by suicide, averaging 123 suicides each day. According to a 2014 assessment, despite the high risk of suicide in the United States, around 40% of people with mental illnesses do not seek medical help. One of the main reasons why people don't seek help, according to researchers, is stigma.   Suicide is a sensitive subject that should be handled with care and respect. It's not simply about being politically correct. Whether we're having a conversation, talking to someone who has lived experience, or writing about the problem in a professional situation. It all boils down to saving lives.   As our knowledge and awareness of suicide grows, so must our approach to discussing it. To help us be more aware of our own language choices, Nancy discusses the power of a solid support system and surrounding yourself with loved ones, the correct terms those around you can use to better communicate and help, what not to say and where to find suicide prevention resources.   00:00 Introduction 2:34 The language of suicide prevention 5:18 Using the correct terms when speaking about suicide prevention 7:33 The power of a solid support system 10:46 Ways to show support 12:27 What not to say  16:30 being the chapter chair of AFSP 19:44 Duck Duck Hope 23:34 Suicide prevention resources 25:57 Listener question 27:27 Self tips for loss survivors   Connect with Shell Pavlis:   AFSP Volunteer, Advocate, Event Sponsor, Give Back Partner Realtor® Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties  shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com All Shell’s Social: https://linktr.ee/shellseeshell   Connect with our Guest:   Nancy Cooper, America Foundation of Suicide Prevention, OC Chapter Chair ncooper1011@gmail.com   https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county  https://bewelloc.org/ Council on Aging OC https://www.coasc.org Children’s Hospital of Orange County https://www.choc.org/mental-health/ Hoag Hospital https://www.hoag.org/about-hoag/community-benefit/hoag-programs/mental-health-services/ University of California, Irvine https://counseling.uci.edu/services/   Let’s Stop Suicide. Mental Health for All. Suicide Prevention. Suicide Support.   American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Orange County, CA: https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county  Become a Volunteer https://afsp.org/chapter/orange-county#volunteer  Advocacy https://afsp.org/become-a-suicide-prevention-public-policy-advocate  National Alliance on Mental Health https://nami.org/Support-Education DiDi Hirsch Mental Health Services (LA & OC) https://didihirsch.org   Connect with Hope Out of the Darkness:   http://HopeOutoftheDarkness.com   Record a Question about mental health or suicide to be answered on an episode of Hope Out of the Darkness: https://www.speakpipe.com/HopeOutoftheDarkness   Want to be a guest, or have an idea for a discussion you want to hear? Email Shellpavlis.afsp@gmail.com