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"Those who cannot remember the past are doomed to repeat it" - George Santayana // I've always wondered what life was like for those who grew up in a world before the one I knew. My curiosity led me to have these, I think, frank conversations with some exceptional people. For all the criticism that African men & women sometimes get for being emotional recluses...here we speak freely about life, romance, music, art and heritage. read less
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Age 2 Age - Mr & Mrs Olaleye (Part1)
19-01-2024
Age 2 Age - Mr & Mrs Olaleye (Part1)
My guests in this episode are Mr & Mrs Paul Olaleye. The short story is that I met them at a 3 year launch of Puff Puff Ministry which is a fantastic business run by their daughters. I performed at one of their events and from there we scheduled a time to meet and have this conversation. Since then I can't tell you how instrumental Uncle Paul has been to the life of this podcast. How supportive and encouraging he has been. On this we speak about their marriage, about raising 5 girls, about migration, about business, music, and everything inbetween. The entire conversation was so long that its going to have to be split into 2 episodes. Thatā€™s how good it was. For more about the podcast: https://www.linktr.ee/age2age If you have any questions or comments about any topics in this episode please email: age2agepodcast@gmail.com Please like, share and subscribe to the podcast wherever you're listening in. Thank you šŸ™šŸ¾ 00:00:00 - Introduction 00:05:00 - Early Memories and Occupations - Mr. Paul's father's influential career at the British and French Bank in Nigeria is discussed. - The impact of parents' stories on Mr. Paul's upbringing, education, and life choices is highlighted. 00:10:00 - Upbringing and Family Dynamics - Insights into Mr & Mrs Olaleye's childhood, family dynamics, and early experiences are shared. - Their relationship with his mother and societal pressures are discussed. 00:15:00 - Cultural Differences in Nigeria - The conversation delves into cultural disparities between Northern and Southern Nigeria, particularly regarding women and marriage preferences. - The challenges faced in the education system during the late '70s are outlined. 00:20:00 - Childhood Incidents and Lessons - Anecdotes are shared, including a childhood incident of wanting to attend a specific school. - The importance of seizing opportunities and having faith in the unknown is discussed. 00:25:00 - The "Corridor Effect" and Parental Reflections - The concept of the "corridor effect" is explained, emphasising the unpredictable consequences of actions. - Reflections on raising daughters and recognising each child's unique gifts are shared. 00:30:00 - Raising Children and Gender Neutrality - Thoughts on raising children, gender-neutral parenting, and marriage advice are explored. - The emphasis on character development, decision-making skills, and respecting children's choices is highlighted. 00:35:00 - Importance of Character Building - The speaker underscores the significance of building strong character and decision-making abilities in children. - The role of conversations with children in their growth and the challenges they face are discussed. 00:40:00 - Parental Influence and Career Aspirations - A conversation with the their daughter about career aspirations. - Reflections on remembering the positive aspects of parents' lives and their influence. 00:45:00 - Evolving Cultural Beliefs - The changing attitudes towards gender roles and cultural beliefs are discussed. - The impact of modern life, economics, and the internet on parenting is explored. 00:50:00 - Generosity and Nurturing Talents - Reflections on his father's upbringing and its influence on his generous nature. - Balancing conflicts in relationships and recognising each child's unique gifts are emphasised. 00:55:00 - Consequences of Confrontation - Reflections on the consequences of confrontation and the importance of avoiding unchecked emotions. #podcasts #age2age #theolaleyes