Life After The Military

Hosted by Lee Elias and Howie Cohen

Life After The Military is a podcast series focusing on veterans and members of the military community transitioning into civilian life. Tune in to hear their stories, advice, and how they navigated through challenging times. read less
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Operation Mend with Dr. Jo Sornborger and Dana Katz
16-03-2023
Operation Mend with Dr. Jo Sornborger and Dana Katz
In this new episode of Life After the Military, Lee and Howie speak with Dr. Jo Sornborger and Dana Katz about the work they do with the Operation Mend Program at UCLA Health as part of the Warrior Care Network. Doctor Sornborger currently serves as the Executive Director of the UCLA Health Operation Mend Program. She is a certified clinical psychologist who has associated herself with UCLA  Health for over fourteen years.Dana Katz is the Director of Community Engagement and Buddy Programs for the UCLA Operation Mend Program. Dana has worked with this program for over fifteen years. The Operation Mend Program is a partnership between UCLA Health and the United States military. In this episode, learn from Dr. Sornborger and Dana Katz how this program provides advanced surgical and medical treatment, comprehensive psychological evaluation and support, and intensive treatment programs for symptoms to post-traumatic stress and traumatic brain injury for service members, veterans, and family members. Show Notes1:32 Dr. Jo explains her involvement in Operation Mend.4:28 Dr. Jo Expands on the Resilience of the military family.8:49 The scope of Operation Mend’s Care11:45 Dana Katz shares her experience being with Operation Mend for 15 years and the organization's origins with her family.18:28 Dana and Dr.Jo discuss the community of buddies and warriors that Operation Mend has built.22:57 Lee shares an anecdote about meeting some of the Band of Brothers.36:53 Dana talks about sourcing “Buddies” for Operation Mend and the Importance of Warriors to seek help.48:00 Howie Delves into the “Deadly Gap”.58:54 Lee calls to action! “You are not alone”.1:10:00 How our guests practice mental fitness in their lives.
Military Spouses, Serving Others, and The Emotional Rucksack
02-03-2023
Military Spouses, Serving Others, and The Emotional Rucksack
In this new Pivotal Moments Media Charlie Mike Channel episode of Life After the Military, Lee and Howie speak with Richelle Futch.Richelle is a Marine Corps Veteran, current special operations military spouse and advocate for military employment, preventative mental health care and reform. She has worked with members of congress on policy reform and has been invited to the White House on behalf of her work and advocacy efforts. An accomplished 4x published author, Richelle printed more than 10,000 copies and sold thousands of digital editions of her workbook Unpacking Your Emotional Ruck. In this episode, Richelle shares her experience as she transitioned from her active-duty tour by pursuing her undergraduate degree and working as a court appointed special advocate who provided the voice for children in the foster care system. Richelle emphasizes the importance of focusing on and serving others. Richelle discusses the work she does with youth by using didactic training techniques to help them understand and overcome their challenges. Richelle also describes the work she does with military and first responder families. She talks about the family system and how each family member can be successful in our stress filled society today.Richelle masterfully describes the work she does with families to build resilience and their ability to overcome adversity. Richelle talks about the work she did that led to the development of her workbook, Unpack Your Emotional Ruck.Richelle shares about the challenges she faces as a spouse as she and her husband prepare for his transition out of the military.Show Notes2:14 - Richelle takes us through her transition out of the military and her advice for those going through it today5:41 - Richelle talks about redefining purpose8:54 - Lee and Richelle dive into serving others17:25 - Richelle explains what it means to meet people where they are at33:20 - Howie & Richelle discuss the importance of allowing children and teens to experience hardship in order to better prepare them throughout life41:58 - Richelle explains what unpacking your emotional ruck means 50:08 - Richelle discusses her husband’s upcoming transition out of the military and how they are preparing for it57:08 - Richelle discusses how she practices mental fitness
Passion: When Curiosity Meets Community
16-02-2023
Passion: When Curiosity Meets Community
In this new episode of Life After the Military, Lee and Howie speak with Sergeant Major (Retired) Topaz Navarro. Presented by Pivotal Moments Media’s Charlie Mike Channel.Topaz shares the importance of being curious, vulnerable, and fearless as he learned to use LinkedIn to find his voice and establish his network to help with his transition planning and execution.Learn from Topaz as he describes his passion for helping others through his business, Escape Velocity Academy, where he teaches others to become intrinsically motivated to find the overlap between curiosity and community.Topaz highlights the work he does with Work Play Obsession All In Foundation to help others deal with challenges they may have with their mental fitness. Topaz defines his concept – authentic happiness – to help transitioning veterans find their meaning and purpose in their post-military life. He beautifully describes our need and desire to find and experience micro-flow states in all we do.Learn how Topaz strengthens his mental fitness by taking his MEDSS (Mindfulness, Exercise, Diet, Sleep, Social Interaction) every day.Show Notes1:28 Topaz gives an overview on his transition out of the military.11:40 Topaz expands on the focus of the Escape Velocity Academy 13:15 Where curiosity intersects with community, you will find purpose/passion19:45 The Origin of the Escape Velocity Academy name and its services22:51 Howie explains what “Mile 62” means in relation to building good habits26:06 Topaz explains the influence that “ The Second Mountain has had on his work33:10 Topaz opens dialogue on the role of mentors v. coaches39:30 Topaz elaborates on Work Play Obsession and his role as a connector to other non-profits47:35 Lee explains the importance of finding community 54:12 Topaz expands on “purpose” and finding it through authentic happiness1:04:09 Topaz talks about taking his M.E.D.S in maintaining his mental fitness
Helping Military Spouses Find Stability
02-02-2023
Helping Military Spouses Find Stability
How do you handle unexpected adversity? Despite preparing and planning for the transition to civilian life, there was an emotional toll Teresa Shick’s family did not expect. The devastation of leaving their military life and the family they built caused an identity crisis that shook them to their core. Military spouse and founder of the Pillar Foundation, Teresa Shick, shares insight from the challenges of her life after the military with Howie and Lee on this Charlie Mike episode. The community aspect of military life is very important to their family; which led Teresa to create her own in Texas. After serving as an Ombudsman at the Naval Special Warfare Development Group alongside her husband, Teresa founded The Pillar Foundation to provide a support network to newly transitioned military wives into the civilian world. Her dedication to our country's military families and spouses is unwavering. Replacing the purpose these men and women have post-military is pivotal for the healing and growth in their new lives. Teresa is a voice for all military families and a resource that deserves to be shared with all. Show Notes00:30 - Introductions02:00  - How do you and your military spouse prepare for your transition? How did it go and what did you learn?07:45 - The importance of community camaraderie, and the particular kind you find within the military10:00 How did you overcome a loss of identity and purpose after leaving the military?13:45 - Teresa on founding the Pillar Foundation and the importance of being able to find a great community17:30 - Teresa on the important roles of the military spouse, the importance of teamwork for a successful transition,  and resources available to help families and spouses transition and settle into life after the military31:00 - How naval special warfare shapes family communication, and lessons learned from training and preparations34:15 - How and why Teresa started the Pillar Foundation 43:00 - Lee gives his book titles46:15 - Teresa is asked what she does to maintain her mental fitness
The "We" to "Me" Mindset Flip with Jose Velazquez
19-01-2023
The "We" to "Me" Mindset Flip with Jose Velazquez
In this new Pivotal Moments Media Charlie Mike Channel episode of Life After the Military, Lee and Howie speak with Sergeant Major (Retired) Jose Velazquez.Jose provides invaluable insights into his military transition preparation and execution.Jose wisely advises transitioning service members to apply the skills they learned in the military to own and execute their transition. Jose shares the importance and value of eliminating debt to lower the stress of the transition period. Jose also describes the invaluable role that his spouse played in their steps to execute their transition. With his wife taking part in all transition briefings and classes, she brought a perspective to the process that really helped Jose plan more effectively. Jose also shares the importance for him to seek a post military role that enabled him to find purpose and value in what he wanted to do in broadcasting and teaching. Jose and Howie describe the value they received by completing the Leader Transition Institute course “Changing Focus from We to Me” and highly encourage all transitioning service members to take this course.Jose expands on the importance of finding and using mentors to leverage their lessons learned. When he decided to pursue his entrepreneurial spirit and start his own business, he leaned on several mentors to show him the way. Although struggling with some mental health challenges resulting from leading men and women in combat, Jose candidly shares the value of seeking and asking for help and being there for others when they need someone to talk to. Show Notes:2:00  Jose discusses his personal transition out of the military 10:15 Howie discusses the value of reducing debt to create breathing room during transition 12:51 Finding purpose and fulfillment after the military15:18 Jose elaborates on becoming an entrepreneur20:31 Discussion around “Owning the Process” of transition and asking for help.36:49 Jose explains the Leadership Transition Institute and going from “WE” to “ME”45:39 Howie expands on his experiences transitioning and the tools he finds value in today55:01 Lee Discusses helping yourself before helping others1:01:45 Jose describes his mental fitness journey 1:15:20 Jose shares a personal story about reframing his experiences through a redefinition of strength
Life After the Military: Brad Thomas
09-06-2022
Life After the Military: Brad Thomas
What is your identity - how do you define yourself? What is most important to you? What can you do to stay true to your authentic self?In this week’s Pivotal Moments Media Charlie Mike Channel episode of Life After the Military we talk with a combat veteran, 5-time Bronze Star awardee (one with a “V” Device for Valor), and former Ranger and Delta Operator, Brad Thomas.In this very candid, open, and transparent discussion, Brad shares how he balanced his role as a combat veteran with his role as a rock musician. A lover of music since his childhood, Brad never let his time in uniform completely define him. He always saw himself as a creative artist - whether writing and playing music or working on combat development projects to bring new, innovative equipment to the battlefield to make his combat colleagues more safe and more effective.In this episode, Brad discusses-Staying true to yourself while serving in the military-Encourages veterans to see more in themselves than just their identity in a uniform-How he conceived of and patented body armor to help his battle buddies-Putting himself and his family first in his the decision-making process -Giving back to the community from an intentional place-How the late 80’s - 90’s rock era influenced his love for music and his career as a musical artist-How his veteran rock band, Silence and Light, contribute directly to charity through their music sales-The importance of contributing to the community and maintaining your mental healthShow Notes:00:00 Howie and Lee introduce Brad Thomas, a five-time combat medal recipient and founding member of the all-veteran rock band Silence and Light1:53 Brad shares his perspective on military service and self-preservation9:45 An origami gift was developed into an innovative combat gear solution, eventually earning Brad a US patent for special ops armor12:55 The conversation shifts to the importance of keeping a sense of community, including how Silence and Light's music directly benefits military charities16:48 Brad discusses his earliest memories and connections with music, and how the band formed22:57 Brad explains how the American grunge rock sound from the late 80s to mid-90s became the soundtrack to his life during active combat duty25:51 Lee brings back a favorite game, giving a new title to Brad's potential autobiography; the conversation shifts to selflessness28:20 Brad explains the flow state he and his bandmates achieve when making music, and how it serves as a crucial form of therapy30:54 Wise words about finding what keeps you mentally fit33:32 Howie discusses survivor's guilt35:13 Lee adds the final book title and closes the show
Life After The Military: Don Gleason & Matt Scherer; Military Transition Roundtable
12-05-2022
Life After The Military: Don Gleason & Matt Scherer; Military Transition Roundtable
Do you want to know a secret to success?Do you want to follow a principle of the most successful people in the world?Are you familiar with Napoleon Hill and his book Think and Grow Rich?Ever hear of the Mastermind Principle?If you are a transitioning veteran or know any, you will get so much value from this week’s episode of @pivotalmomentsmedia’s @charliemikevets channel podcast #lifeafterthemilitary with our guests and Air Force veterans Matt Scherer and Don Gleason - two highly successful veteran entrepreneurs who serve as the President and Vice President of the Military Transition Roundtable (MTR).This veteran service organization  applies one of Napoleon Hill’s principles of success: the Mastermind Principle. It simply states that if you want to achieve a level of success, you must surround yourself with people who have already achieved that level of success.In the episode, Don and Matt explain how transitioning veterans will increase their transition success and lower their stress by doing the following:Taking control of your transitionNetworkingEnrolling in higher educationFollowing through with connectionsResearching companies and working to understand how their profits are made, and how your position fits into that equationMatt shares why doing the following will increase your transition success:Joining non-military groupsVolunteering in the communityFinding out the kinds of people you like to work withGaining technical skills in the military pre-transition/using LinkedIn to connect with people with those same skillsLearn more about the MTR:The DISC personality assessment to startHow the group helps veterans understand what they want when searching for a new jobHow having an accountability partner produces a staggering 500% uptick in the probability of reaching a goalSocial Media Links:LinkedIn:Don Gleason:https://www.linkedin.com/in/don-gleason/ Matt Scherer: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattscherer/Twitter:Don Gleason: @DonGleason15Matt Scherer:@Matt_schererThe Military Transition Roundtable:https://militarytransitionroundtable.com/Scherer Communications: https://sherercommunications.com/Achieve New Heights, LLC: https://achievenewheights.com/
Life After The Military: Colonel (Retired) Kirby Watson
21-04-2022
Life After The Military: Colonel (Retired) Kirby Watson
Do you want to learn the lessons of what to do and what not to do IOT to have a low stress and highly successful transition from the military to the public or private sector?Did you say “YES?Then check out the newest @pivotalmomentsmedia @charliemikevets #lifeafterthemilitary podcast with Army Colonel (Retired) Kirby Watson!Kirby is one of the finest, most authentic, and genuinely caring leaders that our co-host, Howie Cohen, EVER served with during his 27+ year military career!Kirby spent 33 years as an Army Signal Officer and candidly discusses everything he did right and wrongwhat he did wrong while transitioning - overscheduling interviews, not focusing on one area of need, not properly informing colleagues of the transitionwhat he got right - focusing on finding a good team, taking advantage of the TAP program, being honest about his health state, sourcing colleagues and job applications and honest company reviews through his LinkedIn network, carefully preparing for interviewsDiscusses how he transitioned out as a veteran by taking the initiative to seek out mentors and carefully going through each step leading up to the job search processHowie, Lee and Kirby implore listeners toBe honest about medical needs during the transitionPut yourself and your needs (and the needs of your family) firstConnect with colleagues on LinkedIn and extensively research positionsFocus on team building rather than resume buildingKirby also shares advice and guidance for veterans looking to enter the government contracting space and what mental fitness means to him Social Media Handles:LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirby-watson/FaceBook/Meta:https://www.facebook.com/kirby.watson.102Iridium: https://www.iridium.com/
Life After The Military - Dr. Crystal Redding
31-03-2022
Life After The Military - Dr. Crystal Redding
Interested in learning how a clinical psychologist supports the premier military counterterrorist unit in the world?Want to learn how a clinical psychologist saved the life of a senior officer?If you answered yes to these questions, then listen to/view this powerful @Pivotal Moments Media @Charlie Mike Channel episode of the #Life After the Military podcast with Dr. Crystal Redding.Crystal is a clinical psychologist who supported the Joint Special Operations Command, America’s premier counter-terrorism force.This episode focuses on how Dr. Redding treats super highly skilled service membersLikens the journey of working with a therapist as a “sherpa”, helping humans climb the mountain to achieve mental wellness and fitnessDiscusses stigmas surrounding therapy for service-members, noting that the history of therapy includes labeling peopleShares her view of modern view of psychology which must focus on help with everyday life and tasksThat the first 3 years out of the military have the highest rates of suicideShe describes the story of a military sniper who needed help with anxiety - how the sniper already knew how to use breathing queues due to their training, and how that was utilized in their diagnosis“Its ok to say, I need someone to have my six on this”“Leadership is key” - Dr. Redding explains how great leadership can assist healthcare providers by providing confidential recommendations and pushing service members to get help without fear of consequences