Forever, But Not Always

Chelsea A. Pagan, Esq.

We make commitments and handle conflict in our relationships nearly every day. Whether it be your romantic relationships, professional relationships, friendships, parent-child relationships, or even the relationship you have with your hair stylist, navigating issues with the people in your life is not always the easiest. As a Family Law attorney and mediator, I have seen how different communication can make or break relationships. I have an amazing network of experts and friends that I get the benefit of learning from constantly and I am bringing them together to share their stories and world of information with you here. Check our Forever, But Not Always. Host: Chelsea Pagan Editing: Chelsea Pagan Music By: Kevin Rollis read less
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How Marriages are like Business Partnerships-Chats with my Work Wife.
2d ago
How Marriages are like Business Partnerships-Chats with my Work Wife.
For me, choosing a business partner was a very important decision. I needed to know that I could trust this person with my personal financial information and trust that they were going to be as committed to building a thriving business as I was. Being friends with the person would be a bonus, but not required.  However,  I got very lucky in business. My business partner, Emily Hepner, not only is one of my favorite people but the trust and respect I have for her as a business owner continues to grow each year we work together.  We approached the building of our business very similarly to how we encourage our clients to approach premarital planning. We had a plan, we had hard conversations, and then we put it into a legally binding agreement.  In this episode, we talk about our relationship dynamics and how it helps us operate our business each day. Our relationship is stronger because of the work we did before we decided to hang our shingle.  Enjoy! Get my Marry Me Smart Course, currently $100 off, by clicking this link! https://marrymesmart.thrivecart.com/marry-me-smart-limited-time-only/ Follow me on Instagram @chelseapaganesq Follow my on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marrymesmart/ Join My Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marrymesmart  **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% off your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx
Get your Savings Goals in Check With Chelsea Pagan
08-04-2024
Get your Savings Goals in Check With Chelsea Pagan
Hey Hey Friends, it's me. Just me Chelsea Pagan.  Today I want to talk about Savings and investment discussions to have with your partner before you say I do.  This conversation is highlighted in my Marry Me Smart Course and is an important topic to address so you and your parent can build a partnership together that both parties are working towards.  When financial goals are not aligned, resentment can build. Resentment leads to anger. Anger leads to miscommunication and distance in a relationship. These types of patterns is what kills marriages.  So talk to your partner about your savings, investment, and retirement goals before you get married so no one is blindsided. Talk to a lawyer about your legal options for ensuring that your agreements are legally binding.  Get my Marry Me Smart Course, currently $100 off, by clicking this link! https://marrymesmart.thrivecart.com/marry-me-smart-limited-time-only/ Follow me on Instagram @chelseapaganesq Follow my on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marrymesmart/ Join My Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marrymesmart My Marry Me Smart Course for Premarital Planning Launches this month so make sure you are following me on all platforms to learn more.   **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% off your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx
He's Back! Talking finances with Nick Pagan.
25-03-2024
He's Back! Talking finances with Nick Pagan.
Hey Hey Friends. So I love having experts on to talk all things money, marriage, and relationships, is so much fun. I learn something new every episode and have a blast hanging with people I get to call my friends.  But there is nothing quite like chatting it up with my Husband about how I apply my advice, strategies and tips for marriage in real life.  And hey, we have a lot to work on ourselves, but when it comes to money, we are always on the same page because we have a plan and we coordinate and stick to it.  We share a little about our dynamic when it comes to how we handle finances including the topic of our relationship with money which takes me back to episode 4 of this season.  Make sure to subscribe to this podcast wherever you are listening so you never miss an update.  Follow me on Instagram @chelseapaganesq Follow my on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marrymesmart/ Join My Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marrymesmart My Marry Me Smart Course for Premarital Planning Launches this month so make sure you are following me on all platforms to learn more.   **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% off your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx
Estate Planning Is About So Much More Than What Happens After you Die.
11-03-2024
Estate Planning Is About So Much More Than What Happens After you Die.
I say this a lot, the two most legally significant things you can do in life are get married and die. So I decided that during a season where Money is the highlight, teaching you how to keep as much of that money with your estate in the event of your Death was an important topic to cover.  My friend, Janelle Hansen, an Estate Planning Attorney in Northern California, joins me to help highlight some of the benefits of an estate plan. These benefits go beyond what happens in death. She highlights the benefits of an estate plan whether you are a single individual or if you have a spouse or family.  As a family law attorney, I rely on my experienced colleagues to brainstorm ideas for my clients that ensure they are set up for success both in life, in the event of divorce, and in the event of death.  You can find Janelle at: https://jhtrustlaw.com/ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/janelle-hansen-a0876652/ Don't forget to follow @foreverbutnotpod and @chelseapaganesq on instagram.  Looking to learn more about all things premarital planning and connect with other individuals navigating what it means to be married, Join My Facebook Group: Marry Me Smary--Premarital Planning & Coaching. CLICK HERE TO JOIN.   **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% off your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx
Why Your Relationship with Money Matters.
04-03-2024
Why Your Relationship with Money Matters.
I love to talk about Money. It's not taboo, it's sexy. It's empowering.  Billy Zerillo and I met on Instagram sharing our love for talking about money and how it can be used as a tool to build stronger relationships.  Billy is a financial advisor whose passion is helping women (especially women who have experienced divorce) answer tough financial questions and gain their purpose back.  Billy and I talk about why individuals need to acknowledge their relationship with money, including reflecting on where they first learned about the value and importance of money--thinking back to your childhood and what experiences first shaped the way you spend and save now. We also talk about how views on money can change over time, especially as your priorities change in life.  This is part 1 of our conversation. We finish Part 2 on Billy's Podcast The Money Talk. We shift the conversation to why it is important to share your relationship with money with your significant other and how each person's unique experience with money can impact a marriage.  Link to Billy's Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@Themoneytalkpod/streams Where to find Billy:  https://www.terrawealth.com/billy-zerillo/ Instagram: @themoneytalkadvisor Remember to follow @foreverbutnotpod and @chelseapaganesq on Instagram.   **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% off your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx
TRIGGER WARNING: The Impact of Domestic Violence on Your Family Court Case
26-02-2024
TRIGGER WARNING: The Impact of Domestic Violence on Your Family Court Case
We are talking about some heavy stuff today with Family Law Attorney Nicole Ford.  1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, post-traumatic stress disorder, use of victim services, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases, etc.(Bureau of Justices Statistics).  I want to make sure everyone knows that the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7, you can call 800-799-7233 or text Start to 88788 now. While I have limited the number of Dometic Violence cases I take on professionally due to the significant emotional toll it was taking on me, Nicole Ford tackles these cases every day, advocating for clients who might need a voice to share their stories. With nearly 20 years of experience working in Family Law, Nicole works tirelessly, and often thanklessly in a field that can sometimes take more than it gives.  We address a small snap shot of the domestic violence issues we encounter in family court, including talking about the difference between Family Law Restraining Orders and Criminal Restraining Orders.  You can contact Nicole at: Nicoleford24@gmail.coom You can visit her campaign site at: https://nicolefordforjudge.com/  The National Domestic Violence Hotline Contact Information: 800-799-7233 Text Start to 88788  **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% off your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx
Let's Talk About Money Baby!
20-02-2024
Let's Talk About Money Baby!
I love talking about money and ways money can help us have the happiest lives, and it has nothing to do with having a lot of it or more than the next guy. It has to do with your views on money and what your goals are. On Today’s episode, I invited my friend Cherie Austin to talk about money freedom and how both individuals and couples can develop their own personalized money strategies to build the life they want. Cherie has worked in the finance world for nearly 15 years and has a wide range of experience dealing with numerous wealth and financial strategies. Her coaching business, Where Money Meets Manifesting addresses both the emotional/energetic AND the practical sides of money.  Her clients learn how to make empowered money decisions with unshakeable confidence and ease, and are finally able to arrive at the place Where Money Meets Manifesting. Her passion for money and helping people find financial freedom is so refreshing and fun. You can find her on Instagram @wheremoneymeetsmanifesting Where she includes a link to work with her as well as additional resources.  **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% off your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx
If You Don't See My Worth, I'm Not Going To Explain It To You.
12-02-2024
If You Don't See My Worth, I'm Not Going To Explain It To You.
I can't tell you how often people ask for discounts or balk at the idea of paying for a consultation with me.  Not everyone can afford my services, I get it and understand. Sometimes, I might even lose clients because of it, but that is ok.  On this episode, I wanted to explore the idea that knowing your value, including knowing and standing behind your rate, takes more than just self-awareness. It takes research, and understanding the market, but also an acknowledgment that you might lose a client or two who doesn't think you are worth what you are asking for.  And I get to do it with long-time friend and successful entrepreneur, Jaime Garland. Hair Stylist, Color, Educator, and badass business owner. Her Salon Bsociety is located in Los Gatos, CA.  Jamie has created such a high demand for her services, that she is not currently able to take on new clients. She nurtures and respects every dollar and hour her clients spend in her chair. She knows her worth but knows that giving clients what they need versus what she might be able to charge the most for is not only best for the client, but best for her brand.  We had a blast chatting about business and money. I know you are going to enjoy her vibe and energy as much as I do! You can find her on instagram @jamiegarlandhair Got follow her now so you don't miss all the amazing things she has coming up.   **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% off your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx
Document Your Sexy!
22-01-2024
Document Your Sexy!
The relationship you have with yourself and your body can impact so many aspects of your life. From intimate relationships to your friendships and overall physical and mental health.  Becky Fryer is an amazing photographer who specializes in female boudoir photos in the bay area! I have had the pleasure of having her document many aspects of my life from my engagement photos and wedding to my personal boudoir photos last year. Becky and I chat about how powerful the boudoir experience can be not only because you document this amazing chapter of your life, wherever you are at the moment, but the real-time experience of being behind a camera where the focus is on nothing but you...and you being SEXY! Becky's recommendation is to approach these photos for yourself. They should be for you first before they become a spicy little gift for your partner. I always have so much fun with Becky and you will too!  You'll here us drop a bunch of names you might not know including family and friends. You can tell we were having so much fun catching up and reminiscing.  Follow Becky at @Boudoirbybecky on Instagram Check out her website: https://www.boudoirbybecky.com/  **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% off your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx
Get Your Love Game in Check
15-01-2024
Get Your Love Game in Check
Leah Mitchell helps unapologetically successful women also be shamelessly loved by a heartful masculine leader. After having disappointing experiences in love herself, she took the lessons she learned, the tools she gained, and turned that journey into a successful business helping other women attract the partner they want.  She leans in hard to the science of attraction while acknowledging that love is not rational at times. Her unique perspective on match matching and dating is something you will want to hear. No matter where you are in your love journey, there are tools Leah shares that can be used in everyday life and applied to friendships or even business relationships. We could have chatted for hours! (We kept chatting even after recording because we just connected!).  Find all of Leah's Links here: https://msha.ke/leahcoaching?fbclid=IwAR0Gbg_0USHj5LKBtyTz4rFJFNI6rjDPN-FpSs5EctiOGX1x4S0Ako63oZw Don't forget to follow @foreverbutnotpod on Instagram as well as @chelseapaganesq for updates from me, your premarital planning bestie!  **Forever, But Not Always is Listener Supported. When you purchase through links on our page, we may earn a commission.  Forever, But Not Always is a huge advocate of therapy both for individuals and couples. Online-Therapy.com offers, Individual and couples therapy, Weekly 45-minute live sessions (video, voice or text), Unlimited messaging, 8 8-section CBT program, incl. 25 worksheets, Daily worksheet replies Mon-Fri, Yoga & meditation-videos, journal, activity plan & tests, Change therapists with a click of a button, Therapy on a secure & confidential platform, Their Premium plan includes two weekly live sessions + express replies. Get 20% your first month by following the link below! https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/SHNx