Expatability Chat

Carole Hallett Mobbs

Supporting expat parents and partners to navigate their move and life overseas, with Carole Hallett Mobbs: Expat Life Mentor and Consultant, founder of ExpatChild.com

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Expats and emotional overwhelm: when everything just gets too much.
13-09-2023
Expats and emotional overwhelm: when everything just gets too much.
Expats and emotional overwhelm: when everything just gets too much.It’s all just TOO MUCH!Emotional overwhelm that catches us at times regardless of where you are on your expat journey, whether this is your first move, or your 21st .Emotional overwhelm can hit anyone, at any time, in any place, and wherever you are in your expat journey. It can also be particularly strong at the start of a new school year as you work out new routines, timetables, expectations and challenges. When you just curl up into a ball and hide for a while but you can’t, because suddenly you have to do the school run again. When you’ve discovered school finishes at midday on Wednesdays, yet it takes you an hour to do the school run, so what’s the point of going back home… When your kids are having upsets, meltdowns, tantrums at least once a day and you feel like joining them.When you’re frustrated that your life isn’t the Insta-perfect expat dream you expected, when you’re missing the easiness of home.Discover what causes emotional overwhelm, how it can affect you, and most importantly, how to manage it to reclaim your brain and happiness.Get expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club - the only community you need, supporting you from home to away, and back again!Want independent advice about your move overseas? For a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereTake a look at my Expatability site for more details on how we can work together to make your expat life the dream life you want!Support the show
Stuck Parents - and What to Know Before You Go
12-07-2023
Stuck Parents - and What to Know Before You Go
“I had to leave my baby in Dubai and return to the UK”No, this isn’t me being dramatic: this is the TRUTH for far too many expat parents. 😭 If you move overseas with your child, then spilt up with your partner, you may not be allowed to return home with your child.Immigration laws may also forbid you from staying in that country.You are stuck between a rock and a hard place. There is no happy ending.In this very special podcast episode I have the greatest honour to interview Roz Osborne, the Founder and CEO of GlobalARRK; the only charity specialising in helping stuck parents.Find out what a stuck parent is, how you can get help if this is you, and how GlobalARRK are working to get the law changed so that abusive and coercive controlling relationships overseas don't damage even more families and children.Please sign & share this petition to be a part of the change needed to ensure survivors reach safety and justice with their children after an abusive relationship abroad https://change.org/protecthaguevictimsVisit GlobalARRK for more details. To make a donation to our work supporting Stuck Parents please go to Just Giving: https://checkout.justgiving.com/c/3341832If you are a Stuck Parent do get in touch: info@globalarrk.orgGet expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club .Want independent advice about your move overseas? For a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereTake a look at my Expatability site for more details on how we can work together to make your expat life the dream life you want.Visit ExpatChild.com for more free information about expat life!Support the show
Language Learning for Expats
14-06-2023
Language Learning for Expats
In this episode I dip my toes in to the world that is learning a new language. With a few quick tips on language learning for both you and your children.Even if you’re moving for just a couple of years or so, you’ll get so much more out of your stay if you can speak the lingo. I’ll share 5 reasons why an expat should learn the local language, however long you’ll be living in that country. And especially if you’re moving to an expat hub – get yourself out of the expat bubble and thrive!Also, I’ll offer you some quick tips to get you up and running. And most of what I talk about will apply to your kids as well as you.Then I move onto talking about what’s known as full immersion language learning, and the pros and cons of that... Whilst it’s generally acknowledged that full immersion into a language is the best way to become fluent, this is pretty stressful and not always possible. And I’ll share why I don’t believe that full immersion is always a good format for children and can be extremely damaging for some.Not learning the language will make your everyday expat life more stressful – like going to doctors, shopping or getting your paperwork done – simple things you’ve always taken for granted become minefields when you’re trying to navigate them in a foreign language.If you don’t speak the language, you will feel cut off from the country you live in.Remember, learning even a few words and phrases of a new language is inclusive and will open so many doors for you as well as boosting your confidence and giving you a massive sense of achievement.Get expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club so you can get your priority boarding pass when the doors to this very exclusive club are open.Want independent advice about your move overseas? For a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereAll my articles on Language Learning on ExpatChild hereCompanies who offer Language Courses on The Expat DirectoryTake a look at my Expatability site for more details on how we can work together to make your expat life the dream life you want!Support the show
How to Find New Friends As an Expat
15-03-2023
How to Find New Friends As an Expat
How to build an active and fulfilling social life for yourself overseas. When you live abroad an important element of your life is your social circle; your network, your support system. AKA Friends!“So, no one told you life was gonna be this way”Sometimes we can feel so lonely overseas that it causes big problems such as depression, wanting to go home and more. In fact, a lack of a support network is often cited as the number one reason for expat failure. So, let's prevent this from happening in the first place! Let's make sure that you've always got the tools to help you find your own support network, wherever you are in the world.So, how can you build an active and fulfilling social life for yourself overseas? In this episode, I’ll tell you how, and share 10 actionable tips you can use to build an active and fulfilling social life for yourself overseas.Making new friends as an adult can be challenging; making new friends as an expat doubly so, but it is definitely possible. It can take time and effort, but it's worth it.And I’ll share something really exciting to make sure that you always have your own support network with you at all times.So, whoever you are, wherever you are in the world, wherever you’ve come from, wherever you’ve been, wherever you’re going, I’ll be there for you. 🎶"I'll be there for you(When the rain starts to pour)I'll be there for you(Like I've been there before)I'll be there for you('Cause you're there for me too)"🎶Friends theme song by The RembrandtGet expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club: the one-stop-shop for everything expat. If you'd like independent advice about your move overseas with a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereVisit ExpatChild.com for more free information about expat life!Take a look at my Expatability site for more details on how I can support you with your move abroadSupport the show
Moving Overseas for Love
14-02-2023
Moving Overseas for Love
Did you move abroad for love?Long distance love stories for Valentine’s Day!Falling in love with someone while travelling or living in another country can be a magical experience. The thrill of adventure combined with the excitement of a new relationship can create memories that last a lifetime, and a relationship built on a mutual adventurous spirit.People move overseas for many, many reasons. Most move for a better life; however that may look for them.Some move abroad to study. Some move abroad to work. And sometimes those people end up falling in love – either with the country, or a person they meet there. Perhaps your partner has a career move abroad and you go with them. This is also moving for love, because you may have to sacrifice quite a bit - giving up your own career for example. This is the trailing spouse / accompanying partner story, and is mine – kind of… yes, I’ll share my own love story here too, of course!There are several variations on this theme as we’ll see in this episode of a compilation of love stories.Get expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club: the one-stop-shop for everything expat. If you'd like independent advice about your move overseas with a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereVisit ExpatChild.com for more free information about expat life!Take a look at my Expatability site for more details on how I can support you with your move abroadSupport the show
The Comedown and How to Get Through It
11-01-2023
The Comedown and How to Get Through It
How to cope with the comedown when you’ve moved overseas.Not long after you’ve arrived in your new country, there comes a time when it suddenly hits you – ‘Oh, is that it? Now what?’ You feel quite down and flat and wonder if you’ve made a terrible mistake.We all know that moving overseas is really exciting. It heralds great change, perhaps the hope of a better future and a better life. To most families it represents a new start in their lives both professionally and personally.But many new expats are shocked that it isn't all happy days and paradise living and begin to second guess their decision.It’s OK, this is a completely normal experience; and it can often hit harder after the holiday season, which is why I want to talk about it now.Why does this come-down happen? And what can you do to get through this feeling? Yes, through is the word I mean, because it is a transient feeling; it will pass.When it happens after you’ve moved, I call it the comedown, or the 6-month slump. And then we have the ‘expat blues’, which is a similar feeling, and is relevant to this time of year. See the links below for articles I’ve written about these.So, listen to this episode to learn coping methods, and tips to help you get through it, and once you understand why this feeling happens, you’ll be better prepared to power on through!Get expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club: the one-stop-shop for everything expat. Want independent advice about your move overseas? For a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereRead my article on The 6-month slump on ExpatChild.comRead my article on The Comedown on ExpatChild.comRead my article on The Expat Blues on ExpatChild.comVisit ExpatChild.com for more free information about expat life!Take a look at my Expatability site for more details on how I can support you with your move abroadSupport the show
Culture Shock and the Holiday Season
16-11-2022
Culture Shock and the Holiday Season
Expect the UnexpectedCulture ShockExpats and the Holiday SeasonThese three topic were planned for separate episodes, but life events meant it made sense to see if I could fit them all into one episode, just in time for the Holidays! I think I succeeded 🤪 I wanted to talk about how strange and different, and sometimes upsetting these special holidays can be for expats living away from their home countries and families. And the reason these special, family-oriented dates feel so different and sometimes difficult is ultimately down to culture shock! As for the Expect the Unexpected bit? One of my favourite expat-mentoring mantras is 'Expect the Unexpected'. Some of the ‘unexpected’ is funny, some of it can be a bit frustrating, but we can usually steer ourselves through it all. Sometimes, however, that unexpected is a complete and utter blind-sider that nothing could have prepared me for. What happened? Well, listen and find out... Get expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club: the one-stop-shop for everything expat. Want independent advice about your move overseas? For a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereVisit ExpatChild.com for more free information about expat life!Join my Expat Parents' Support Group on Facebook Sign up to receive my Expat Newsletter to keep up to date and in the loop with everything I doSupport the show
Expat Guilt
19-10-2022
Expat Guilt
Expat Guilt. The one topic guaranteed to fire some people up, the one topic that’s tormenting many of my readers, my groups, my tribe. The topic that gets the most attention, the most comments, the most bitterness, the most sadness and causes every shade of angst you can possibly imagine.Expat guilt can ruin your life overseas as you’re so busy thinking of others that you can’t truly live your own life. But you're not alone - believe me! Discover what expat guilt is about, what it’s for, how it can help you see your life choices from another’s perspective, and most importantly, how to manage these heavy feelings. Find out how to deal with your family’s feelings and how to cope with your own. I’ll give you the tools to help you escape the trap of expat guilt and move forward to a happier life abroad without neglecting your family and friends back home.Don't let expat guilt get in the way of the exciting life you deserve. You deserve to be happy in your life overseas!Get expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club: the one-stop-shop for everything expat. Want independent advice about your move overseas? For a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereFind my special 'Erase Expat Guilt and Reclaim Your Life' master class hereRead my article on Expat Guilt on ExpatChild.comVisit ExpatChild.com for more free information about expat life!Take a look at my Expatability site for more details"Guilt is a useless feeling. It’s never enough to make you change direction - only enough to make you useless."Daniel NayeriSupport the show
Expats and Emergencies Back Home
21-09-2022
Expats and Emergencies Back Home
The very worst part of expat life. The Dreaded Phone Call telling you of the death of a loved one back home.And yes, this episode was prompted, and triggered, by the death of Her Majesty, Queen Elizabeth 2nd, as it came less than a week after the funeral of our own family member.That Dreaded Phone Call triggers a whole heap of thoughts and emotions, that pile on quicker than your brain can process. When you're living overseas and receive that call, the world feels huge and impassable, you feel small and out of control, and helpless. There is nothing you can do right now. It's beyond  overwhelming.Watching the news as Her Majesty’s children and grandchildren rushed to go to Balmoral to say their goodbyes will resonate with all, expat or not and parallels something many expats have to deal with. Most of us don’t have a private plane to hail, or a helicopter standing by. And we don’t have staff to help with the kids, or get us to the airport or anything like that. Yet, even with all that help on hand for them, and being in the same country, they still weren’t able to make it to her bedside in time.While our circumstances are wildly different, that journey is excruciating, regardless of your birth status. The journey will be burned into your memory yet blurred with pain as well. I try to share the pain with you while, as ever, giving you some tips to help lessen the load.Get expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club: the one-stop-shop for everything expat. Want independent advice about your move overseas? For a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereVisit ExpatChild.com for more free information about expat life!Support the show
Welcome Back! A Bit About Me and Expatability
27-06-2022
Welcome Back! A Bit About Me and Expatability
Starting season 2 of the Expatability Chat Podcast with an episode all about me! Giving you a little insight into me, my life and what I do. Plus an explanation of what Expatability is, what that word actually means. Yes, I should have explained all that when I first started my expat podcast back in 2020 but I forgot!I also explain why I use the word ‘expat’ when it still upsets a lot of people – it will make sense when you listen, I promise.And I reveal a couple of case studies that give you an idea of why I do what I do – which is, of course, supporting expat parents with their move and life overseas.I’m here to help you live the expat life you dream about and deserve, with practical and sensible advice and information. Along with some sugar-free tips, no BS tips and tricks to help you on your way. If you’re planning a move abroad, or if you’re already living your expat life, or even if you’re planning a move back home, you’ve come to the right place! I offer you experienced insight, advice, and information so you and your kids can live your expat experience to the full.There are so many layers to this expat life that you need to know about, but often you don’t know what you need to know! And that’s what I aim to help you with. Knowledge is power!Get expat life support at every stage of your expat journey - from home to away and back again!  Join The Expatability Club: the one-stop-shop for everything expat. Want independent advice about your move overseas? For a one-to-one chat, please check my calendar for dates and options hereVisit ExpatChild.com for more free information about expat life!Take a look at my Expatability site for more details, season 1 podcast episodes and ways you can work with me.Support the show