Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)

Dr. Nima Rahmany

Welcome to the TriggerProof podcast. This is the first season of the Podcast which are audio renditions of Facebook Live Video Transmissions done for the “TriggerProof” Facebook Community. These were set up by request of our community members who wanted an opportunity to listen to insights, tools, and strategies to help heal relationship dynamics, deepen intimacy, and master the fine art of Autonomic Nervous System Regulation so that we can build resilience, heal from the past, and become active operators of our mind, body, and life. This first season wasn’t designed to be a podcast, so you’ll notice the audio isn’t Professional Studio Quality (like it is on season 2 as we’ve upgraded incrementally). These trainings are designed to introduce and deepen you to the most critical 2 skills we’ve never been taught: 1) The skill and practice of taking our triggers (Nervous System Activations) and turning them into deeper safety and self-love, 2) The skill and practice of taking conflict (that happens in any relationship) and turning them into deeper intimacy between the parties involved. Not learning these two critical skills at this time in history costs us dearly: Physical and Mental health is on the DECLINE. Doing this deep level of healing work can break the cycle of Intergenerational Trauma that didn’t start with you. It didn’t start with you, but it can end with you, #Cyclebreaker. ______________________________________________________________________ When you're ready, here's what we got: Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month) Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step. https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present) https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis: https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof read less
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Shame is the Main Hurdle in the Path of Healing
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Shame is the Main Hurdle in the Path of Healing
In 2018, I remember hating what I saw when I looked in the mirror.Shame— that feeling of being “inherently bad inside” the feeling behind the reason people end their lives….Is not something we are born with: It’s something we are born INTO.Like a fish being born into a fishbowl of dirty water,we take on the shame of cultural norms we are raised in,societal/family expectations, and unknowingly,it lives in our bones.It’s an energy that is heavy and it sits in your body.You can tell when someone’s carrying it, can’t you.Shame has a purpose, though. This is the main emotion that can be designed for a positive use: to allow us to co-exist with one another,being mindful of our impact on those around us.Healthy shame is what causes us to level up our situation.I wouldn’t be teaching people how to transform their livesand making an impact without it.But when shame is left unexamined and unresolved,the impact of the shaming that you are carrying from the experiences growing upbecomes THE weapon that causes intergenerationalwounds that cause us to suffer physically, mentally,and relationally.If you want to understand what I’m talking about here,then simply think of a childhood experience whereyou were left sitting in shame without someoneto help you make sense of it.That child inside of you— or any child for that matter—who exhibits a behavior and has an adultreactively shame them— and leaves them without a conversation to repair,without any explanations, or co-regulation,without an empathetic witness on the same teamto guide and coach them toward a different, healthier behavior will grow up thinking they are INHERENTLY BAD.This creates a massive charge in the child’s Nervous System.And without an adult there to co-regulate with,to cope with these very challenging sensations,in order to survive, that child responds by creating a story:“It’s my fault. I’m too much. I’m not enough. I’m bad”.Often, this story will get wired in again and again, sometimes for decades.Can you imagine the impact that might have?If this sounds familiar, go ahead and trackthe journey of several ruptures that the child inside of you has had growing up that was never repaired.Here’s a list of all the shame-fuelled symptoms they might experiencethroughout their lives and in relationships:Low Self-Esteem: Constant exposure to shame leads to a deeply ingrained belief that one is fundamentally flawed or unworthy, manifesting as persistently low self-esteem.Chronic Anxiety: Adults who were shamed as children will experience ongoing anxiety, particularly in social situations, paralyzed by fear of further judgment or rejection.Depression: The internalization of shame contributes to feelings of hopelessness and depression, as the individual will believe they are undeserving of happiness or incapable of change.Avoidance of Intimacy: Fear of vulnerability, stemming from shame, makes close relationships challenging. Adults will avoid intimacy to protect themselves from the possibility of being shamed again.Perfectionism: In an attempt to counteract feelings of shame, individuals will become perfectionists, constantly striving to prove their worth through "flawless performance.”Substance Abuse: To cope with the painful feelings associated with shame, some might turn to drugs, alcohol, or other forms of self-medication.Aggression or Anger Issues: Shame also gets externalized as anger or aggression. This was massive in my last relationship,and the very reason why it became abusive between us.With shame, Individuals become easily triggered and engage in confrontational behavior as a defense mechanism.Fawning/Difficulty Setting Boundaries: Those raised with shame struggle to assert their needs and set healthy boundaries, become people pleasersas they might fear rejection or believe they don't deserve to have their needs met.Problems with Authority Figures: Experiences of shame often leads to distrust of, or challenges with authority figures, stemming from early experiences of being shamed by caregivers or adults in positions of power.Codependency: In adulthood, the quest for external validation to counteract internal feelings of shame is the root of codependent relationships, where the individual's self-esteem and emotional well-being are overly dependent on others.If you can relate, you’re not alone.You might not have known that unresolved shame was the main culprit.That was my reality for my first 43 years of life.And in helping people all over the world struggling in intimate partnerships, wondering if they should stay or go,not being able to attract love that is secure — tired of the patterns repeating, they are relieved to realize they all have one thing in common:Unresolved shame.Just like our parents did.That means we can actually do something about it.But without confronting it, and working through it in community,we are passing it down to our children,and become mortified as we will inevitably watch them struggle with the EXACT SAME PROBLEMS listed above.Luckily it’s never to late to break the cycle.When we turn inward and learn how to integrate these shadows, become Trigger-Proof,and master the art of regulating our nervous systems,we can sit in the discomfort of shame and guilt and do something powerful:We can ALCHEMIZE it— turning lead into gold— and create profound healing.And then we can help the next generation— by listening and sharing.That way instead of having them grow up with the samecodependent dynamics that started from shame— we get to be the ones to teach them that there is INHERENT GOODNESS inside of them.It all starts with our willingness to get out of story, and master the art of creatingsafety within, and becoming highly skilled at repair (with our own shameful parts first.)And what a profound impact it has not only for us, but for our kids as well.Lightness. Laughter. Play. Connection. Authenticity. Intimacy.The deeper I go within myself and heal with the parts of me that were convinced they were shameful,the more self expressed my son Dominic becomes, as my reactivity turns togentle responsiveness towards his behavior and emotions.No screaming. No yelling. No shaming.Coaching him to his own inherent goodness.The shame spiral didn’t start with me,but it ends with me— and that’s the biggest idea that I know of dedicating my life to.And I’m honored to be walking that path with you.Your wingman on the adventure,Nima.P.S. If navigating parenting challenges and nurturing a child's emotional well-being feels daunting, especially against the backdrop of childhood shame, you're not alone. You’re invited to Join our pivotal 3 hour workshop,
How Co-Dependent Marriage Impacts Children
08-04-2024
How Co-Dependent Marriage Impacts Children
In the book “Laws of Human Nature” by Robert Greene, he summarizes in a beautiful way the focus of my life’s work:Think back to your younger self-- growing up as a child (if you can remember it):In the first 3 or 4 years our brains are especially malleable.We experience emotions much more intensely,creating memory traces that are much deeper than anything that will follow.In this period of life we are at our most susceptible to the influence of others,and the stamp which is left in these formative years is PROFOUND. Bowlby in the 80’s studied infants and their mothers patterns of attachment,and came up with 4 basic Patterns:1) Secure (Free/Autonomous)2) Dismissing (Avoidant)3) Enmeshed (Axious/ambivalent)4) DisorganizedThe secure/free/autonomous pattern comes from mothers who give their childrenfreedom to discover themselves, and are continually sensitive to their needs, but also protect them.Dismissing mothers are often distant— even hostile sometimes and often rejecting.Such children are stamped with the feeling of abandonment and the experience that they will always have to fend for themselves. (Think if you can relate to this in your childhood). The enmeshed/ambivalent/anxious mothers are not consistent with their attention: Sometimes suffocating and over-involved, and other times retreating becausethey are swarmed with their own anxieties and problems. They can make their children feel like they have to take care of the people who really should be taking care of them. (Think back on your childhood if you can relate to this pattern and the impact it has had on you).Disorganized mothers send highly conflicting signals to their children, reflecting their own inner chaos and early traumatic events.Nothing their children do is right, and such children often develop powerful emotional problems. The are variations in these patterns, but the quality of our attachments to our caregiverswill create deep tendencies within us and will set up the blueprint for not only how our relationships will pan out— but also will impact our children as well.In particular— the way we (and thus our children) will use relationships in order to handle and modulate stress. Children of the DISMISSING parent will tend to avoid any situation that will bring big emotionsthat are negative, and to wall themselves off from feelings of dependency: Their battle cry: “I don’t NEED anyone!”They will become Avoidant, and have problems committing to relationships and will unconsciously push people away.Children of enmeshed parents will experience a great deal of anxiety within relationships, and will constantly feel a conflicting mess of emotions. These kids become “ambivalent”towards people where they will pursue people and then unconsciously retreat. In general from our early years we will display a particular tone to their character:Hostile and aggressive, secure and confident, anxious and avoidant, needy and enmeshing…After helping folks with insecure attachments heal these wounds and set the groundwork for secure love… I realized something:  Most of the Cyclebreakers in our community are also parentsrealizing they have unwittingly co-created insecure patterns with their children. They’re seeing their kids get into relationships with their own co-dependency issues. That got me thinking...My kid is growing up and it’s really important for me to ensure he doesn’t get into Trauma Bonds.That means how I support him emotionally right now and how my relationship with both him and his mother play outwill be THE FACTOR in how he relates to his emotions, his behavior when he’s dysregulated, and how confident he feels with others. So far, it seems that the training I’ve received and am passing on to the participants in my community is creating some magical outcomes: He’s open, playful, and fearless when it comes to showing up in new situations. ZERO ANXIETY when it came to his first day of preschool. This is not a brag. It’s what happens when a kid is raised with parents that are Trauma informed, and willing to “do the work."The most common comment we get about Dominic is “he’s so friendly and talkative.” He’s connected to empathy,He is connected to his curiosity.He is connected to his needs.He’s connected to his own self worth.And believe it or not, he’s beginning to understand the importance of asking for his needs to be met responsibly.It seems that my journey to healing from my own co-dependency unknowingly created a skill within me I never thought I would be good at:Parenting, and creating a home that feels like a sanctuary where everyone feels seen and heard.A child not feeling seen and heard is the root cause of why we become anxious and codependent in the first place.And by taking on the work to heal insecure attachment wounds, our children benefit from the overflow—  impact their relationship with THEMSELVES. The greatest gift we can give our children is a parent that loves themselves. Without this, we spill our anxieties onto them, taking on a life of self doubt and self blame (just like we did),looking for solace in Codependent partnerships.When we get this right, we break the cycle, and create a possibility where our children grow up to be self loving, resourceful, resilient, boundaried,UNWILLING to tolerate being treated like shit because they love themselves. This is why I do what I do.This is why I left Chiropractic to teach what I’m teaching.It’s personal for me to be your co-pilot to helping break these challenging cycles.With the right guidance and community, even in this environment that looks pretty scary for kids,we can help raise children who trust themselves, are secure, confident and know their self worth.I salute parents who take on the work of healing through their trauma, anxiety and reactivity,so their children don’t have to.Your wingman on the adventure,Nima_________________________________P.S. If you are a parent wanting to up your game, and master the skillsto help your child with their anxious and problematic behavior, and learn how to create a home that feels l...
How To Help a Kid With Anxiety
06-04-2024
How To Help a Kid With Anxiety
Like millions of parents out there, Jenny had an anxious kid.The worst part of seeing our kids struggle with anxiety is the feeling of powerlessness we have. We just want them to know they’re going to be ok.“Calm down”“Take deep breaths”“don’t be anxious”are likely things your parents said to you when you wereyounger and dealing with your fears, uncertainties, and difficult emotions growing up.Unfortunately, our parents didn’t have access to the tools and awareness we now have.Our parents didn’t understand about the Nervous System,how our behavior is run by unresolved feelings underneath.They didn’t teach us how to be with the charge that will arise through the challenges of school, socializing with friends,and getting/not getting approval of our classmates.Jenny started seeing a lot of disconnection and dissociation in her household and wanted to help her kids.So she did something very few parents have the courage to do:She decided to get past the blame game and decide to help the child inside of her FIRST.By tending to the big emotions that arise every day within her, and learning how to be with them and expand her capacity to be with her triggers,(What I love to call “becoming Trigger-Proof”),a calmness ensued— and she became a safe container for herself.Then something magical happened— without having to send her kids to do any “therapy”to “fix” them:  They began to feel safer within themselves. See, our kids are responding to the energy in the container of the household.If there is incongruency and inauthenticity within our relationships—there’s a funky “charge” that’s prouduced between us.That’s how you can usually tell when someone’s lying to you.Or when someone is saying “I’m fine” when they are not.Kids can feel that between their parents. What we have discovered is that more often than not, when anxiety is involved,kids are reacting to an attachment that is ruptured, or a perception of a lack of safety in the home. My son can always tell when there’s something not right when my wife and I have had an argument. Think of what your childhood was like when your parents weren’t getting along.This is why the greatest thing we can do for a kid struggling with anxiety,is to learn how to work with the charges that are arising within ourselves. When we do, we become a safe container where intimacy can be shared,feelings can be expressed, and shame can be dissolved. Instead of trying to fix her child, make him happy, or see her son as flawed,Jenny took it on as a wake-up call to look within and see what her kid was reflecting within HERSELF.This is what I call becoming a Trauma informed Parent. She shares her story HERE. Taking on the work of breaking intergenerational trauma cycles is the most heroic act we can do for our kids.When we do, we feel safer within. Less reactive…And when our kid shows up with a sense of anxiety, or fear of rejection— we know EXACTLY how to help them,because we have already helped the child/teen inside of ourselves. This is the work. This is what it means to be a cyclebreaker. We CAN teach our children what was never taught to us: How to develop a healthy sense of self worth. To have confidence to take on challenges. To believe in themselves. What a noble thing to dedicate yourself to something you never received growing up. Anxiety isn’t a disease to fight. It’s a wake up call to look inside. Sending you so much love on your courageous journey within.Your wingman on the adventure, Nima-------------------------------------------------------------------P.S. Due to popular demand from our community, for the FIRST timeI’ll be hosting a workshop for parents who want to up their game to help them connect better with their kids, and find healthier alternatives to punishment/parenting with shame so they can break the cycles they grew up in that led them to insecure attachment styles.After all— where do you think you developed your anxious and avoidant tendencies?If you want to make sure you’re not creating anxious and insecure children,kids who believe in themselves and won’t abandon themselves for anyone…"You’ll love what you learn at Connecting to an Anxious Child: Support Your Kid's Emotional Health by Becoming a Polyvagal Parent (From a Somatic Lens).”You’ll be learning how to parent with a Trauma Informed Lens, and I’ll be sharing somatic practices and strategies to help kids process their big emotions and deepen your connection with them,so they will WANT to spend time with you later in life, without the resentment that develops with unconscious parenting.For only $30 you can join us Friday April 19th at 4-7pm PST (7-10 EST) or Saturday the 20th at 10am Sydney time in Oz. Jump in and join us.
The Willingness Of Imperfection (While On Daddy Duty)
12-03-2024
The Willingness Of Imperfection (While On Daddy Duty)
Take a moment to reflect on how boundaries were modelled to you growing up.Were you punished for sharing them?Guilted into removing them?In my family system, they weren’t really taught to us elegantly.I’m not even blaming my parents, either.We can’t lead others where we have never been.In persian culture, it’s considered rude to set boundaries.Fawning (performative people pleasing) is taught to us at an early age,with the concept of “tarof,”which is all about violating our own boundaries to appease others.We suppress our truth with a freeze response,while another part of us performs an act of self-abandonment.You can imagine how much drama that might cause in relationships,as that truth needs to come out SOMEHOW,mostly through gossip, backbiting, or shit-talkingso we can dispel that suppressed energy somewhere,leaving the chance of authentic relationships in the dust.Imagine an entire culture’s identity is built on a Trauma Response.The impact of this incongruence between my needs and what I communicatewas one of the critical factors that were the perfect stormfor my Trauma bonded relationship with my ex to thrive.Because I was so used to having my requests for space ignored,because that was FAMILIAR (meaning—  “like family”)I didn’t see it as a red flag.I didn’t take that as a sign to walk away.Having my boundaries for space disrespected wasn’t abnormal,so it was no surprise that I stayed far too long in a situationthat was unhealthy….All because I didn’t have the awareness, practice and training in theelegant skill of setting healthy boundaries.When you become Trigger-Proof,and master the art of elegant boundaries,You deepen the connection between you and the other.Sounds counter intuitive, but it’s true:Intentional, healthy boundaries become points of connectionbetween you and the other.When intentional healthy boundaries are set in a relationship,the resentment between you dissolves,as you no longer have to abandon yourselfin order to be in a relationship with them, and vice versa.Think of how you’d react if you knew someonehad to violate their boundaries just to be in a relationship to you.(Chances are, it happens often,and you’re not conscious of it).This is why to heal and create secure connections,we MUST be willing to learn.As I learned to navigate the nuanced terrain of elegant boundaries,all of my relationships became more secure,more loving,more fulfilling.More relaxed, less anxious.I didn’t have to go to the extremesof either fawning or completely avoiding people.It turns out, to my surprise,there’s a beautiful place in the middle.I could then honor the need my body was expressing in the moment,and developed the confidence to knowthat if another person wasn’t willing to honor that need,that I didn’t have to fawn, appease, or people please to stay in the relationship.I could just direct my energy towards those who honored meas much as I honored myself.What a startling discovery.It wasn’t them.And it wasn’t my fault, either.It was MY responsibility to learn the skills I was deficient in.The biggest obstacle is the shame of realizinghow much time I had spent in fawning.How much of my life was invested in people pleasing.And how bad I SUCKED at setting elegant boundaries.Things are different now.But now in helping the hundreds of people in our CycleBreakers community,navigate the treacherous terrain of Fawning and setting boundaries,I realized that we ALL have the task to show upWILLING to eat the same humble pie.We all are on the same climb,and the only way to do it is to be:WILLING to suck at boundaries,WILLING to get it wrong,WILLING to get into rupturesWILLING to repairWILLING to get messyas we navigate our new identity that isn’t led by our Traumas.I realized that If I didn’t have that willingness,I was going to my grave never having experienced love that felt safe.Only with this willingness and humility was I able to create Secure Love.And that’s why I love sharing these practices with otherswho are just as willing to suck at it,while they learn how to master the most important skill never taught in school:How to become better at love.By putting down the magnifying glass,and picking up the mirror,and mastering the art of elegant boundaries.Your confident, secure, boundaried self awaits.You got this.Your wingman on the adventure,NimaP.S. If the tale of performing to please, of silence over speaking truth, resonates with you,then my 3 hour workshop is your next step toward clarity and self-respect.On Friday March 15th from 4-7 PST (7-10 EST)which is 12 pm in Sydney on Saturday March the 16th,In the "From Fawning to Secure Boundaries:How to Elegantly Advocate for Yourself in Relationships,” workshop, we address:        • Cultural Narratives and Personal Boundaries: Unpack how family and cultural teachings impact your boundary setting.        • The Art of Elegant Boundaries: Discover strategies for asserting your space that honor both your needs and those of others.        • Breaking the Cycle of Fawning: Move beyond people-pleasing to genuine relationship building.        • Conflict as Connection: Learn to use disagreements as opportunities to deepen bonds rather than drive wedges.        • From Fawning to Confidence: Shift from appeasement to asserting needs confidently, knowing when to walk away and when to stay.As we guide you through these themes,Neurosensory exercises ensure the transformation from insight to action,making the learning not just understood but embodied.This workshop is more than a learning experience—it's a space for some messy transformation.It's for those ready to venture beyond familiar patterns into a realm of secure,authentic connections. If you're prepared to explore the depths of your relationships and yourself,to embrace the awkwardness of learning, and to emerge with a newfound sense of boundary and self, this is your invitation.SHIFT FROM FAWNING TO LIVING AUTHENTICALLY HERE
From Dissociation to Reconnection
10-03-2024
From Dissociation to Reconnection
There’s a hidden root cause behindmost of our relationship challenges.And it’s not about the “other” person.It’s something more insidious.In fact you can’t even feel it most of the time.Most of us who are stuck in relationship dynamics that feel toxic,living in a “should I stay or go” situation are painfully unawarethat there’s something deeper that isn’t being addressed.It’s called “dissociation”.Dissociation is a protective mechanism that causes usto leave our bodies when we are childrenwhen we encounter pain or emotional charge that is too much, too, soon,or not enough for a prolonged period of time.We end up numbing ourselves.Disconnecting from reality.Scrolling, numbing, avoiding, hiding.Anything to avoid feeling what’s inside.This causes us to live like we are floating,drifting through life, grasping for safety, validation,or to be seen and heard by others in order to feel love.Without even knowing, this is how many of us do relationships.This is exactly what was happening to Mona when she reached out to me.Grieving the breakdown of her most recent relationship feeling like she wasdisconnected from reality, she went all-in and decided to heal at a biologicallevel (not just through talk therapy which she had tried) to get to the root cause.She discovered she was a fawner, conditioned from her South Asian backgroundto abandon herself and search for safety through men.She was so low, she didn’t even know if life was worth living.She had never learned how to create safety from within.She had never learned how to take her triggers and turn them into deeper intimacy.She had never learned how to navigate the challenging terrain of setting healthy boundaries.But when she did, everything shifted for her.You can hear her expression when I interviewed her in this 17 minute video.Sometimes I get shocked at the transformation people achievewhen they learn how to become their own medicine.And then I remember that the body knows exactly what to do when welearn how to resource ourselves.Dissociation causes us to live like our soul has left our body.When that’s happening, we can’t advocate for ourselves.We betray our own self worth for the sake of attachment,and people pleasing becomes our only grasp at safety.If you can relate to this, just know that there’s nothing wrong with you.There’s likely a deep conditioned fawn responseand you haven’t likely even learned how to somatically attune to your own boundaries.But when you do, as you can see from the look on Mona’s face,you reconnect with yourself, your younger parts, your inner child,and all the shadows (parts of you that you’ve been trying to avoid)can come out and play and you get to experience what true self love feels like.You can feel it radiating from her face and voice in the video.If she can do it,so can you.We CAN learn how to become our own medicine,and become the secure partner to ourselves --the one we've been looking outside of ourselves,waiting for.I found everything I was looking for in a partnerafter finding it in myself— from Dissociation to deeper connection.And that’s why it makes my heart sing to teach thisto anyone willing to look inward and master this sacred practice.You got this.Your wingman on the adventure,Nima.If you ready to break free from the cycle of dissociationthat keeps you trapped in harmful relationship patterns,I have a 3 hour training and you’re invited.Dissociation, a common trauma response,can make us escape into fantasy and neglect our own needs,leading to a cycle of unhealthy relationships.Join me on Friday, March 15th, from 4-7pm PST (7-10pm EST) / Saturday, March 16th, 11-2pm in Sydney, for our focused,3-hour workshop: "From Fawning to Secure Boundaries.”We’re limiting the session to 100 participantsto ensure personal attention and effective learning.This workshop is crucial for anyone readyto confront their dissociative habits and reclaim their sense of self in relationships.For just $30, we’ll explore the links between dissociation and relationship fantasies,how these fantasies lead to self-abandonment,and practical steps to establish real, firm boundaries.We’ll provide tools and techniques to keep you present and protected,breaking the cycle of escaping into fantasy when things get tough.If you’re tired of the disconnect and ready to face your relationships with a new,grounded perspective, this is your chance.Click here to secure your spot and take a definitive step towards healing and secure love.(RELEASE DISSOCIATION AND FAWNING HERE)http://go.drnima.com/w66da
How Fantasy Affects Your Relationships
08-03-2024
How Fantasy Affects Your Relationships
What are your fantasies?At first glance, you might be thinking that I’m talking about sexuality and fetishes.I’m not.I’m talking about the root cause of our Trauma Bonds.Picture this:you grow up in a childhood where you experienced the wounding of:abuse,loss,abandonmentrejection (bullying)emotional neglect,maturing too early,or shaming….and you didn’t have attuned parents who could hold space for your emotions,and help you regulate through them…Then chances are, you as a child/teenescaped into FANTASY in order to cope with that harsh reality.It’s not your fault.It’s a BRILLIANT mechanism that helps us survive.Unfortunately it has harsh consequences in our adulthood.It causes us to set unrealistic expectations for ourselves and our relationships,INCLUDING OUR PARENTING,which stifles our ability to be present with what is,and create inspiring outcomes in reality.This then becomes fertile breeding ground for Trauma Bonds,attracting the insecure relationships andnarcissistic / codependent relationship dynamicswhich always begin with love-bombing and pedestalizing one another.See if you can recognize the pattern here:“I love you, so now you must change and do whatever you need to doin order to silence my insecurities and avoid saying or doing anythingthat triggers my anxiety, because your job is to fulfill my desires and meetmy needs without ever disappointing me.”Oh and I forgot— variation #1:  “if you don’t do this, then you’re the problem, you’re toxic,and I can find someone who will love me for who I am.”Variation #2: “if you don’t do this, then I’m going to complain until II get what I want”.The sad part?In this exhausting game, you’ll notice that IT’S NEVER GOOD ENOUGH.Nothing will quite satisfy the fantasy— the desire to bring it back towhen the initial phase loaded with oxytocin and dopamine. Fantasy is defined as "the faculty or activity of imagining things,especially things that are impossible or improbable.”And finding something OUTSIDE of us to fill a childhood void is highly improbable.And if you can resonate with what I’m sharing here, just know that you’re not alone,and you aren’t doing anything “wrong.”You simply haven’t learned the high level attachment skills necessary for secure love to thrive.And 90% of that deep work is dissolving our fantasies,detaching from our addiction to dopamine,releasing the expectation of someone to rescue us from our childhood wounding,and mastering the art of healing our attachment wounds that get activated in ANY relationship.In other words, without mastering the art of the conflict/repair cycle,dissolving our people pleasing/fawning responses and learning how to set elegant boundaries,our relationships CAN’T be grounded in reality.We regress to a child like state to cope with challenges,we fawn and people please and abandon ourselves for the fantasysteeped in pornography and romance novels,instead of learning how to BE with what’s in front of us and create TRUE INTIMACY.When I did this, my relationships completely changed.I was able to set firm boundaries and the way people treated me completely changed.I was able to find love that is secure, not chaotic and volatile.I stopped trying to find love and validation OUTSIDE myself,and found it within,and when I did,Secure love found me.Now, instead of being my problem to solve,I am with a woman who is MY PEACE.This is what you deserve.We were born for it.But to get there, we must be willing to examine the root causeand resolve it at a nervous system level,shifting fantasy and mastering the ability to navigate reality.When you do, you experience something truly magical,being able to find magic in even the mundane moments,no longer seeking intense and volatile passion (which means “to suffer”— look it up).You deserve it.Your wingman on the adventure,NimaP.S. Ready to stop falling for fantasy and start living in reality,especially when it comes to relationships?Fantasy can lead to fawning and ignoring our own needs and losing ourselves.It’s time to learn how to set real, practical boundaries to keep ourselves safe and grounded.Join me on Friday, March 15th, from 4-7pm PST (7-10pm EST) / Saturday, March 16th, 11-2pm in Sydneyfor a straight-talking, 3-hour workshop: "From Fawning to Secure Boundaries.”We’re keeping it small with only 100 spots to make sure everyone gets focused help.This workshop is for you if you’re tired of getting lost in relationships that are more about make-believe than mutual respect.For $30, we'll tackle why we slip into fantasy, how to spot when we’re abandoning our own needs,and clear steps to start setting boundaries that stick.No fluff – just practical skills and strategies to help protect yourself from falling into harmful patterns and relationships.If you’ve had enough of feeling stuck and want to start protecting your space and energy,this workshop is your move.Click the link below to join and start changing the way you handle relationships.END FANTASY AND MASTER BOUNDARIES NOWhttp://go.drnima.com/w66da
How a Child Becomes the Narcissist
06-03-2024
How a Child Becomes the Narcissist
These days my inbox is inundated with peopletelling me how their ex is a narcissist.And I get it, too.I’m married now in a secure bond that’s polarized, butwhen I was unpacking the sh*t show that was my lastrelationship I was in,I was surprised to discover that I was in a “trauma bond”and went down the rabbit holethrough the Manual that psychiatrists use to diagnose mental disordersand found 8/9 criteria a perfect match for my ex-girlfriend,literally qualifying her to be diagnosed with BorderlinePersonality Disorder,co-morbid with Covert Narcissism.I felt validated.A little excited, to be honest —FINALLY! I had the mechanism to understand WTF washappening to me.I understand the desire we haveto help us make sense of our partner’s behavior.And I also get how diagnosing THEMhelps to keep US safe from our own part in our dance.“If I can confirm that THEY are the sick one,then I don’t have to be the “bad guy. I was right!”In other words, diagnosing THEM protects ME fromSHAME.And this is key take home point:Shame is the insidious seed from which the twisted vineof narcissism grows,wrapping around the soul,obscuring the light of true self-worth.It’s all about shame (and our avoidance of it).Avoiding toxic shameis why we deflect any responsibility in an argument andget defensive.Avoiding shame is why most of us refuse to look atourselves,play the victim and blame the other.Avoiding shame is why we can’t see ourselves as theproblem.It’s why Taylor Swift’s “Anti-Hero” song is so pivotal:She finally acknowledges that SHE is the problem in herrelationship woes.That SHE is the common denominator.Something most of us are unwilling to do.Our lack of capacity to HOLD our shameis what causes us to AVOID our shameto the point that we put up a wall to block the pain,and as that wall goes up– so does our capacity to haveempathy towards others.Ever feel like you’re talking to a brick wallwhen someone doesn’t want to own their part of thedance?This is shame-avoidance: the effect of unresolved trauma.And our shame avoidance destroys our health ANDrelationships.HOW THIS ALL RELATES TO YOUI have had the privilege of helping people heal from being stuckin “should I stay or go” dynamicswhere they are trauma bonded and have no clue what to do.“Is it me? Or is it them? Am I the narcissist? Or are they?”While I agree that Narcissism has a spectrum from“ever-so-slight narcissistic traits”(someone who can’t hold and contain someone else’s feelings without deflecting or making it about them)to full blown malignant Kanye West/Donald Trump-style personalitywhich is overtly obvious to everyone around us,because most of us didn’t get our attachment needsproperly met as children,WE ALL HAVE A LITTLE “KANYE WEST” WITHIN US.And my experience in working with hundreds of people inthe last year alone,those who can’t see the narcissistic parts within themselvesare the most narcissistic in their behavior.You know them when you see them too–they always seem to be the victim to EVERYONE.It’s always everyone ELSE who’s the problem (never THEM).The truth is,depending on our Nervous System state,we all have these traits within us– even those who identify as Codependent.And don’t get me started on self-diagnosed “Empaths” —which is another form of self-appointed grandiosity.If you truly want to create secure relationships(which is likely why you’re reading this),Instead of pointing finger and diagnosing the otherperson,it’s wiser to understand the mechanism of where it comesfrom,so that you can see yourself in it.If you can SEE it, then you don’t have to BE it.As you can see in this video,I share exactly the mechanism where Narcissism comesfrom.It’s quite fascinating and learning this has helped inform meof exactly how I want to raise my son Dominic to break thecycle,as I can easily identify with being raised with wonderfulparentswho did the best they could, and didn’t have a trauma-informed lens,and unknowingly passed down some unhealthyadaptations onto methat created the perfect storm for me to enter into arelationshipwith a perfect match someone who was a perfect match for my narcissistic wounding.If you can relate to this,and see yourself in the video–either as a child who didn’t get their attachment needsmet,or a parent who unwittingly passed down some unhealthy patterns,just know I see you and it’s not your fault.The good news is that secure relationships ARE POSSIBLE for youif you’re willing to heal at the root cause where your biology is concerned.You CAN create a secure, magnetic relationship with apartner who is devotionalif you’re willing to master the art of becoming Trigger-Proof.You CAN shift the dynamic of your Trauma Bondedrelationshipif you’re willing to master the art integrating with thoseshameful,hidden parts of yourself and communicate with polarity.Most importantly,you literally shift the way others show up for youby taking RESPONSIBILITY (not blame)for your own woundings that arise in conflict,and master the art of turning that conflict into deeperintimacy.It’s possible.WHY WE ATTRACT NARCISSISTSOne of our Cyclebreakers Lauren did just this.Born to a Narcissistic Rage-a-holic mother who keptattracting Narcissists,she went from pining after an ACTUAL narcissist who hada gambling problemwhere she lost almost everything,to doing the deep inner work, becoming Trigger-Proof andmeeting this amazing guy Patrick,who didn’t give her the feeling of primal panic during theirdating period.She made the shifts and he started showing up for her,planning dates,and introducing her to his family within the first fewmonths of dating.A year later and they have taken their relationship andwhen I checked up on her,they’ve moved in together.She told me he was different from the get go– no guessing,no breadcrumbing, no blame-shifting, gaslighting orhaving to mother him.She attracted a healthy masculine man after making theshifts.Her first question to me when she came to the OverviewExperience was“Why do I keep attracting Narcissists?”The truth is that we don’t attract Narcissists,we are attracted TO what will cause our childhoodwoundings to arise,and without the right tools,without taking responsibility (not blame),and without healing our attachment woundingand mastering the art of repair,we will attract trauma bonded dynamicsand we will PUSH SECURE DYNAMICS AWAY.And that’s not our fault,but it is our responsibilityif we want to make sure we go to the graveACTUALLY having experienced love that is secure.This is what you deserve.Love that is secure.And to do that,we need to put down the magnifying glass we use to labelour partners,and do something MOST PEOPLE are unwilling to do:pick up the mirror and learn how to alchemize our shame....
Being Self-Centered vs Not Giving a F###
12-02-2024
Being Self-Centered vs Not Giving a F###
A participant of my recent 3 hour training on Fawninghad a few questions that arose.She’s in a “should I stay or go” situationand has been consuming my contentand has now begun her pathway to creating a secure relationship.Here are some more questions:What happens when you try to finally set boundaries,and then get blamed, criticized, and rejected back for it?How do you know if you’re reading your body correctly,somatically, and it’s not just an emotion/feeling?How many people are actually in secure relationships,or are secure people?Why does it feel like I had a secure relationship with my dad but when he passed away,I became more insecure and avoidant.This woman is also persian so there were some greatcultural insights I wanted to share for anyone feeling frustratedand anxious in relationships, and how culture and family systems shape relationships.If you’re ready to end the Trauma Bond merry go roundso you can attract a pattern that is fulfilling, juicy, and magnetic,Watch this training and let me know what arises for you.Your wingman on the adventure,Nima------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------P.S. Ready to untangle your trauma bonds and learn high level attachment skills for secure love?You’re welcome to join my community of Cyclebreakers like yourselfat a workshop this week called“Breaking Free From Trauma Bonds and Codependency”where I’ll be mapping out the exact path on how I got there….For $30 you’re welcome to join the 3 hour zoom call,where I’ll be teaching some somatic tools and exercisesto dissolve the confusion of emotions, get more complete with your past,and chart a new course for the most important aspect of our lives:Relationships.Feel into the possibility of participating in a 3 hour deep dive where you’ll likely get activated and you’ll be guided into how to resolve it.You’ll also learn how to recognize trauma bonds before they begin, and learn the high level skills necessary to learn how to attach securely, and heal family systems for the next generation.See you on Friday the 16th from 4-7pm PST (7-10 EST)Register Here:https://go.drnima.com/60wcj
Healing Your Nervous System Can Save Your Life
30-01-2024
Healing Your Nervous System Can Save Your Life
A ruptured attachment can be lethal.In the last 3 years, I’ve had several participants send me DM’s after they attended one of my events to tell me“Thank you. I wanted to end my life before this….this was my last hope. I had already made the plans.I can now let my family know that things are going to be ok.”I get emotional just thinking about it.Last year a good friend of my wife’s growing up after going through a divorce processbegan dating someone who was clearly a Trauma Bond,after a rupture in their attachment,actually ended his life.Why does this happen?Why do we equate a breakup with wanting to end our lives?To answer that question we must first go back to where we got our blueprintfor how we do relationships. Most of us had shitty role models for relating.We didn’t have safety in being able to have ourselves,while at the same time being able to be with others. As children, we were often conditioned to deny, suppress, hide, or invalidate our needs, desires, preferences, and boundaries,all for the sake of attachment. “It’s either your needs or mine. I can’t have you AND me at the same time.” So we lose ourselves for the sake of attachment. We abandon our values for what we perceive is “love,”because that feels FAMILIAR.(Familiar = “Like family”)And when we abandon ourselves, in that momentwe demonstrate to others how to treat us, and inevitably when that person ends up choosing THEIR priorities,and moving forward without us, We are left with the chilling realization that our fantasy has been broken, leaving an empty hollow core behind.That’s how Stacie felt when she began the deep work with us. She, like may others, had started with talk therapy and was ready to do something different. There was something in my video content that grabbed her. She felt she needed a more direct approach rather than beating around the bush. She was ready to become Trigger-Proof. Within weeks, the dark cloud lifted as she alchemized years of conditioning from her Nervous System. After a few months of mastering how to respond when her triggers were activated,she felt like she became more of a whole individual. She softened to herself. And within no time at all, a new man came into her life that felt completely different. At first she felt like she wasn’t interested in him.  Turns out she had “longing” and being “pedestalized" so hard-wired in her systemthat she didn’t know how to interpret what a secure relationship would feel like.She was so used to being anxious in her previous relationships, she judged that a secure relationship meant that something was “off”. Turns out it wasn’t off.  She really wanted to share her 15 minute story with you  https://youtu.be/dsPTz532IPkFrom wanting to end it all to finding secure relationship within a matter of WEEKS,simply by healing at a Nervous System level,and mastering the frameworks of becoming Trigger-Proof. When you see her share, realize you have it within you too.Trauma Bonds are real.The push/pull dynamic of the anxious/avoidant cycle is exhausting.It impacts your quality of life. Super high sexual charge, crazy fun on the ups, but when the lows come, things really can go south fast with our mental well being.Some even get sick— mentally or physically. And when there are kids involved, they get caught in the crossfire and can become collateral damage— ready to become the next generation in the family lineto become codependent as you observed your parents to be.I know if any of that sounds like you, It’s not your fault. You haven’t learned the art of conscious polarity, becoming Trigger-Proof, and mastering the conflict/repair cycle. It’s a skill that was never taught to us.I know you want to master the art of Nervous System Regulation,and break the victim identity and take responsibility for your own upgrade, rather than relying on your partner(s) and you’re DONE with waiting on the world to change. That’s why you’re in my algorithm. You’re a cyclebreaker. Feel a little spooked by that noble cause?Try it on, right now.Consider the possibility that you were put on this earth to break the cycle that didn’t start with you.The cycle ends with you. That’s why you’re here. And you’re willing to learn how to become your own hero,and like Stacie, master the art of healing ruptured attachments. Upgrade your skillsets to become a "safe container” for a secure partnership that feels safe.This is our task of being a human.To heal with the most important relationship that ALL OTHERS stand upon: The one with yourself.That’s a relationship worth fighting for, and living for. Your wingman on the adventure, Nima.__________________P.S. Ready to stop fawning and people pleasing,and master the art of turning Anxious attachments into an earned secure status?Where to begin:The Overview Experience is a 6 hour DEEP dive into the unconscious motivesthat keep us stuck in Trauma Bonded dynamics.There you’ll learn how to peel back the layers that cause us to reactin insecure and immature ways that lend to toxic relationships.Ideal for anyone healing from a Breakup or in a “should I stay or go”situation who has a deep value of self reflection and personal responsibility,wanting to learn how to become proficient at the rupture/repair cycle,so you can master the skills to heal decade of resentment in one day.8 spots left- register by Feb 2nd to get a 1-1 Integration session with me,Dr. Nima after for Implementation of your newly found skills.http://go.drnima.com/oevw/?
Healing Enmeshment Trauma
29-01-2024
Healing Enmeshment Trauma
I just had a frustrated commenter (Carol) on my facebook page.She said “I could care less about having a relationshit”. It’s not worth the BS and the hoop jumping, and the fact that no one cares about boundaries. Single is peace.”I just wanted to jump through the inter webs and give her a hug.Too many people these days can relate to this.Relationships are crumbling.Dating these days is scary AF. She’s voicing the frustration of many folks who deep down clearly want to have safe and secure connections in love,but have been so disillusioned with their past experiences, that they just feel like throwing in the towel. Still wounded and shell shocked from their previous attempts. You might be single or even in a partnership but if you’re reading this piece of content,it means there’s a chance that you’re wanting to master the complex art of becoming better at love.Even Carol— as disheartened and demoralized as she is,you can tell she really wishes things were different.She wouldn’t be seeing my content if she REALLY had given up.Same with you.I can relate— because I felt the exact same way.I went on a search to find out the root causeof what the hell makes relationships so complicated.I was shocked and relieved to find out.It was a “eureka” moment when I discovered it:ENMESHMENT TRAUMA.Enmeshment is a developmental form of traumawhere you’re raised in environments where there is blurred, unclear or a complete a lack of boundaries between family members.Think of your family of origin.In cases where enmeshment is present,members often have a difficult time differentiating their own emotions, needs, desires, and issues from others in the dynamic. If dad is upset, then you are too.“I can’t be ok, if you’re not ok. So I need to fix others to feel safe."There’s excessive over-involvement and over-reliance on others to make decisions for you,with an over-expectation of receiving emotional support from you.Or vice versa. This pattern gets hard-wired into your nervous system. If left unchecked, it gets passed down to your children.And then they eventually feel they are responsible for your emotions. Your intimate partnerships start to become chaotic: - Lack of identity and sense of self, inability to think for oneself- fawning (fixing identity)- people-pleasing- excessive fear of conflict- trouble forming and maintaining healthy relationships- reliance on external validation- over-run by feelings of guilt, shame, and resentment- Chronic health issuesAll happens when a relationship gets s£xual, but even before.Pretty soon you feel like you have lost yourself.“I can’t have me and have you at the same time.” This creates a massive push/pull dynamicthat’s characteristic of a Trauma Bond. No wonder Carol would rather avoid relationships.Anyone who says “I’m done with relationships” is likely Enmeshed,and doesn’t even know what that is.If you can relate to this list, this isn’t your fault. You simply haven’t yet learned how to Become Trigger-Proof,and heal from Enmeshment Trauma. It’s a process.It’s a skill you can learn, and it involves going much deeper than talk therapy where you’re just telling your story and getting advice every week.Why?Because since it’s a DEVELOPMENTAL Trauma, much of the issue has begun before having language, and it’s so insidious you didn’t even likely know this was the root of the issue.So that’s why going to a Therapist is helpful to have an assessmentand validated in your story,but leaves you frustrated without any tools. That’s where Debra was.Debra was on her 2nd marriage and stuck, her relationship was frozen, feeling like her life force energy was off, and her daughter who had been a part of our community for a year, finally talked her into attending the Overview Experience. In that event, she had an epiphany about Enmeshment, and began applying the tools to rewire it from her biology,and experienced such a profound shift,she wanted to share exactly how she did it and the impact it madein this 8 minute video.HERE’S WHAT TO DO:If you’re stuck in a “should I stay or go” situation,or you KNOW you deserve better than what you’ve been experiencing,and you’ve tried all the things, and you’re tired of just having your story validated,and are wanting skills to heal from Enmeshment,master the art of taking your triggers and moving them through your body,so they don’t consume you anymore, I’m demonstrating EXACTLY the process I had to createto go from Toxic Trauma Bond to secure love in 6 monthsat the next Overview Experience. I’ll be training my community (plus 10 spots I open for those committed to learn)how to shift your system into safety,dissolve the judgement, shame and guilt you may have been carrying for decades,so that you can find your self worth,and trust yourself in relationships,and find your boundaries, break free from codependencyand become magnetic to a secure partner if you’re single,or upgrade the intimacy in your relationship.Yup, the process is laid out for you, all in a matter of 6 hours that flies by.It didn’t start with you,It’s not your fault.but it can end with you.Chances are, you might be enmeshedand it’s killing your vibe. But the good news is, you no longer have to be.Your wingman on the adventure,NimaHeal Enmeshment here:https://go.drnima.com/oevw/?sl=transistorP.S. February 24th from 12noon- 6pm PST (3-9pm EST)I’ll be doing a deep dive into the nuances of Enmeshment,resentment, and how to break free from Trauma Bon...
Anxious Attached To Finding A Secure Connection
19-01-2024
Anxious Attached To Finding A Secure Connection
We’ve had over 100,000 people do our attachment-style quizthat helps you determine your attachment style. Guess what the most common attachment style has been??Nope, not “avoidant”.Those who identify as “avoidant” will often “avoid" the discomfort of looking inward and doing the quiz.Not too many avoidants.The answer is “anxious attached”— AKA “ambivalent”.This is experienced as constantly worrying if your partner is wanting to leave you.Second guessing yourself and reading into everything…Expecting doomsday— where they are going to tell you they’re gone.Deep down it’s felt like a PRIMAL PANIC.And it all comes from unresolved trauma and an ability to self- regulate.Not your fault.It feels like: “I’m unworthy of someone truly showing up for me” is what’s buried underneath all the anxiety.You see, deep down we all crave to be secure humans, who are magnetic, not having to chase love, but open to receive it willingly and abundantly. AND TO KNOW WE ARE WORTHY OF RECEIVING IT.But if your experience in your relationship(s) has been the opposite,just realize its not because you’re unworthy. You simply haven’t learned how to BE the love you’ve been seeking.You haven’t learned how to self-regulate when triggered into your abandonment wounds,and meet your own needs when it matters most:  After deep attachment forms (after you bond with sex), and you experience a rupture.From there, no matter how much success you have in your career,after the attachment hooks are in,all bets are off, and you’re now run by your conditioning.Arguments feel like catastrophes that are the end of the world. but it doesn’t have to be this way.You CAN shift to a secure state,by shifting how you REACT,by shifting your relationship with conflict,by shifting how your nervous system is able to SELF-REGULATE,by shifting how you can process your triggers,and lean into co-regulating with yourself. The video link shows Miranda sharing her story with mefor 8 minutes— while I was on a walk in the neighborhood. She shared exactly how it’s done and what happened to her when she did all that.You likely have been looking for answers to this insecure style of relating.If you’re like most of our cyclebreakers, you hate having to go to endless therapy sessions where you tell your storywith no tools, no resolution, just to be validated,but still walking away lacking the security that can only be acquired from YOURSELF. You’re likely on my email list receiving this message because you wantto be magnetic— instead of chasing— and to have love chase YOU.And you know that can only happen when you feel safe in your own skin.That’s why my focus is always on healing at a somatic level, out of story, into mastering SKILLS to bring your mojo to a level wherelove is chasing YOU. Where do you begin?There’s still space for our Overview Experience workshop on zoom tomorrow.6 hours.Here’s what to do:Take your biggest conflict in relationship that has you showng up as anxious or avoidant, and I’ll help you unpack it and turn it into a love so deep for yourself,many have said they have never felt this kind of love before. And I’ll also be showing you a very powerful tool that helps rewire resentment and victimhood, and cause the participants to reclaim power they kept giving away.Space left for someone ready to open up their schedule,and dive deep into mastering their SELF WORTH.You wanna shift from insecure to secure?There’s a path forward, if you’re willing to let go and be guided.Your wingman on the adventure,NimaBECOME TRIGGER PROOF HEREhttps://go.drnima.com/oevw/?sl=podcast
The Responsibility Of Everyone Who's On The Healing Path
09-01-2024
The Responsibility Of Everyone Who's On The Healing Path
if you have lived a lifefeeling like you needed to wear a mask and play a role of “Pleasing others”in order to get your needs met,just know that you’re not alone.“Fawning” is a Trauma response that many I’ve spoken to didn’t even realize they were doing,because they fawn AS A LIFESTYLE.A personality.Fawning is akin to “people pleasing.”Altering my truth, my expression in front of youbecause I’m terrified of upsetting youor having me be perceived by you as “bad.”Fawning isn’t just being a “nice guy” or “good girl,”or being overly flirtatious and flattering.It’s also suppressing my truth in fear of your reaction. “I can’t tell you how I really feel because I don’t want to upset you."We learn this as a survival strategy in childhood and we don’t even know it.It’s like being born into a fishbowl of dirty water.You don’t know it’s dirty, you think it’s just normal.Same with fawning.“I didn’t know I was fawning because I thought it’s being kind or having manners.”There’s a distinction between kindness and fawning.Kindness feels like an opening in the body.Fawning has a felt sense experience of CONTRACTION.And it always results in one thing: Resentment.Make no mistake: Fawning is a form of self abandonment.You can’t fawn without resenting yourself.Then you will project it on others. It’s smiling when you’re hurting inside.It’s saying “I’m fine” when I’m not.It’s the main reason why so many of us lie. Truth is, we are lying to ourselves, and that gets EXHAUSTING.Without getting to the root cause and healing it, we are run by resentment, we feel chronically tired and sore,auto-immune symptoms flare up, all because of the impact of abandoning ourselves.To truly heal from this flavor of trauma response, we must be willing to go deeper than just talk therapy. We must focus on a body-based approach, and deepen our relationship with the body, and the way it’s constantly speaking to us.To be able to read the signalsof how it feels when we are speaking the truth,and how it feels when we are just performing.Hint: We are performing MOST of the time.This is why I left my Chiropractic practice: Chronic health issues from unresolved trauma responses.And it’s been a hot topic in our community, because with holidays and family get togethers behind us,“tis the season” of fawning.This is exactly why I will be tackling this issue head onin my Cyclebreakers community this upcoming week.I’m extending an invitation to you if this resonates.It’s for you if you crave healthy, secure relationships, and want to feel safe and secure in your own body,living from a place of self expression, creating relationships where others are treating you authentically.It’s for you if you are ready to break the cycle of intergenerational fawning so you can show your kids how to find their truth as well.It’s for you if you are ready to lead with intuition instead ofyour trauma responses (and be able to understand the difference).On Friday January 12 I’m hosting a 3 hour masterclass called“From People Pleasing to Powerful: How to stop fawning and start flourishing”from 4-7pm PST (That’s 7-10pm EST and that’s 11am -2pm sydney time on Saturday the 13th.)There, we will discuss exactly what constitutes as fawning,Overt and covert ways we fawn so you can recognize when its happening, and exactly how to go from people pleasing fawner to authentic and confidentso that you can show up with self-worth in relationships.It’s not your fault, but it IS your responsibility to break the cycle.It’s time to finally learn how to break free from that fish bowl into your own aquarium.Stop Fawning Herehttp://go.drnima.com/164mdp
Will This Work For Me?
03-01-2024
Will This Work For Me?
I hate this question so muchthat I decided to create content about itso that forever more, I can keep referring back to itwhen I’m asked the question:“I’ve tried so many things. How will I know if this will work for me?”First off, I want you to know how much I can empathize with the question.Nobody wants to invest their time and resources into something,and then feel like they are spinning their wheels getting nowhere.So I’m going to show you how we make surethat those who decide to become #Cyclebreakersand heal from their insecure relationships, codependency,and trauma bonds can look back with great satisfactionand see that indeed, their lives are unrecognizableto what they were before doing the deep work.Essentially, the goal of any deep work is this:YOU WANT TO RESPOND DIFFERENTLY TO TRIGGERSTHAT YOU NORMALLY WOULD HAVE REACTED TO.That’s how you know the work has “worked”.And in order to get there,in our processes with our clients and students,we make sure to have them get clear on two things.Ask yourself this:1) Can you decide on a “dream come true outcome” for you?What do you want to happen in your life/health/relationships within the next six months that would have you feeling like this was the greatesttraining you ever participated in?- This question helps us get clarity on why you’re doing the workin the first place. And please don’t say “I want to be happy.”That’s so… vague.I’m living the life of my dreams right now,some days aren’t happy, and I go through challenging dayswhere I forget how blessed I am.Instead of “I want to be happy and confident and fearless!!”which is vague, fleeting, and fantasy-based,try on “I want to feel excitement to tackle the challenges of my day,”which speaks about resilience and capacity rather than living a one-sided fantasy.Notice the difference in the outcome?That’s doable and has a path towards being successful when you masternervous system regulation (which is the first module in all our programs).Instead of “I want to have a happy relationship!” which is vague and fantasy-based,try on “I want to be able to repair from conflict within minutes instead of weeks.”that’s a realistic outcome that we can reverse engineer through the work.This is another training that can easily be implemented with practice.Whenever we interview applicants who want to work with us,whenever they share their frustrations on other therapists and modalitiesthat they said “didn’t work,”It was easy to find the reason why.1) They were vague with their outcomes from the beginning,which wasn’t their fault. It’s important to have guides that can extractspecific outcomes for you to create. I know you don’t want to be thereweek after week repeating the same victim story not moving forward.You don’t want to be paying someone just to validate you.2) They put all the focus on the doctor/practitioner/program to “heal,”instead of realizing that nobody is coming to rescue them, and it’s THEMthat does the healing. After 20 years of being a chiropractor one thing is clear:Our role as practitioners are merely GUIDES to help you BECOME YOUR OWN MEDICINE.To awaken the healer within yourself.3) They weren’t walking the path with a guide who has actually DONE THE WORK they are teaching.A counselling diploma or a Phd doesn’t mean you’re an expert in creating secure relationships.Is the person who’s guiding you— have they walked their talk?Have they been through toxic relationships— and are they teaching from their scars?Have they integrated their shadows?If you can keep that in mind,and are committed to the path,are coachable,willing to show up and ask questions,share your feelings,and lean into the discomfort that change requires of all of us,there’s no reason whyonce you find the right guide and community,you WON'T be able to look back several years from nowand be so proud of who you have become.“It” won’t work for you— you will work for you.And you’ll LOVE the outcomes:Relationships where you’re able to express your authentic truth,where love is received just as freely as it is given,where there is magnetism and inspiration,where you have each other’s backs,and you can repair from ruptures quickly,and are able to regulate your emotions,because your resiliency and capacity have expanded.Get clear on who you’re committed to becoming.Find a structure and plan to reverse engineer,master the skills you’re deficient in,and find a guide to help you with your blind spots.Do that, and “it” won’t have to work for you,because YOU are the one who will.Your wingman on the adventure,Dr. Nima_____________________________________________Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationshipshttps://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcastUpcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcastOr if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcastJoin my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproofAre you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR
Is It Heredity? Or Family Trauma?
29-12-2023
Is It Heredity? Or Family Trauma?
nobody’s talking about this.It’s the least talked about Trauma response, yet it’s the most common. You often hear and read content about Fight, Flight, and Freeze trauma responses.These are adaptations we learn in childhood that keep us alive.You’re able to read this piece of content because your Trauma Responses were successful.But there’s one that you don’t hear much of, because it’s so insidious and all-pervasive that you don’t even notice you’re doing it.You’re doing it every time you are wearing a smile in public(pretending to be ok when you’re not.)You’re doing it when you abandon your own needs and volunteer to help someone when you don’t have the bandwidth.You’re doing it when you say yes to having sex with your partner because you don’t wan to hurt their feelings.You’re doing it when you over-apologize to avoid an argument(or risk displeasing someone.)You probably even did it in some way this holiday season around family—just to avoid conflict.I’m talking about the “Fawn” response, which make no mistake—is a Trauma response. We learned how to do this as children— in a moment of perceived threat,to appease the other person and maintain an attachment with them,or avoid getting hurt.If you have ever identified as a “People Pleaser”or a “Nice guy/good girl” then you are likely a fawner.Fawning is: “I’ll say whatever I need to say and be whoever I need to be in order to get my needs met.”This is where our masks come from.We do it with strangers.We do it with our partner.We do it with co-workers.We do it with our children.Fawning isn’t just about being overly flirtatious, charmingor laughing hysterically at someone’s jokes from whom you’re trying to win favor.There are far more covert ways of fawning as well. Not speaking up to share your feelings because you "don’t want to be a burden.” Being ill and keeping it quiet because you "don’t want to upset anyone.” Not sharing something that’s bothering you with a friend or someone your’e dating— then letting it fester to the point where you avoid the person altogether instead of speaking up.There are a million more.If you can relate to any of these insidious Trauma responses, just know that it’s not your fault. We don’t do this consciously. It’s often so engrained in us that fawning is a LIFESTYLE. An IDENTITY. It’s conditioned into us as "cultural decencies.”Societal norms. Ways to protect ourselves from being abused.We abandon ourselves to be “polite” and “nice” and some even call it “manners”. Becoming a Martyr is validated, venerated, and celebrated. Then we wonder why we feel so resentful. And EXHAUSTED.It’s because we can’t fawn without simultaneously creating resentment towards ourselves. Then we will mistakenly project it onto others and often blame them for it. And, over time, the pressure builds and builds— until we either “snap” and it explodes in dissociative rage,or we internalize the resentment and it turns to chronic pain, chronic illness, and auto-immune disorders.Or avoidance of people in general.Secure relationships are impossible without working through this conflict. “I can’t have you and I can’t have me at the same time because when you are there I lose myself."This is all too common— and comes from an identity of Fawning we learned as a response to the threat of losing attachments when we were children.So the next time you hear the term “it’s in my family history” when it comes to illnesseslike digestive, thyroid, auto-immune, and reproductive issues, check in to see if fawning is in your family history too.Because to heal from our toxic people pleasing behaviours will require a lot more than drugs and surgery. It requires becoming Trigger Proof and mastering the art of Polarized Communication.Of being able to discern your intuitive KNOWING from your Trauma responses…When you do—you’re able to sit with the guilt of displeasing someone.You’re able to trust and obey your own inner voice over outside voices.You stop giving a crap about what others think of you,and you get to experience the freedom of living THIS ONE LIFE for yourself and what fulfills you.Suddenly you wake up one day and see that the people around youactually love who YOU ARE,because you’ve dropped the mask and are real and authentic.You realize that ONLY FROM THAT PLACE can secure relationships thrive. This is why I’m so dedicated to getting to the upstream root cause of the problem.Even though it’s likely the first Trauma response you were conditioned to learn, nobody’s really talking about this, and it’s destroying our health and relationships. It doesn’t have to be this way anymore, and I’m committed to teachingthe tools I needed the most— so that I could create vibrant health and fulfilling relationships. The patterns live in our bones. It didn’t start with you,but it can end with you. Your wingman on the adventure, (ending your fawning response forever….)Nima_________________________________________________________________P.S. Are you tired of constantly sacrificing your needs and wants? Ready to break free from the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing? I’ve been hearing the calls for a deeper dive into this crucial topic, and we're answering with an empowering, life-changing workshop:"From People Pleasing to Powerful: How to Stop Fawning and Start Flourishing in Relationships"Join us for an intensive 3-hour journey where you'll discover: • Neurosensory Practices: These aren’t just techniques;  they are the keys to a new you. You'll learn how to shift from being a self-abandoning people pleaser  to becoming an authentic, self-loving individual -  a transformation that will resonate in every aspect of your life as a parent, partner, and friend. • Say Goodbye to Chronic Illness and Pain: Learn how to let your voice, not your body, say "no.”  We'll tackle how chro...
The Path To Conscious Parenting
27-12-2023
The Path To Conscious Parenting
read this only if you’re a parentthere’s a way you can virtually GUARANTEE you’ll end up being a sh*tty parent.And it won’t even be intentional.You’ll have all the right intentions for your parenting game.You’ll read the books and articles and watch the youtube videos about making sure you’re an amazing parent,and that you WON’T make the same mistakes your mother/father did…but if you don’t do this ONE thing….You’ll end up repeating behavioral patterns that you PROMISED yourself you wouldn’t do.What is "That thing?" It’s to heal your attachment traumas at a Somatic level and become Trigger-Proof. Why?Because BY DESIGN the things that you haven’t completed from your pastthe resentments and regrets you’re holding ontoare still in your body...will show up again and again because they live INSIDE YOU. Without a process and path to meet with, to release and metabolize all the triggers that your family can and WILL bring up within you,without you even knowing it, you’ll react from a regressed state,instead of showing up like the person you promised to be.And none of it will be your fault,just like it wasn’t your parent’s fault either.They didn’t take the time to learn -how to become Trigger-Proof,-how to create polarity in their relationship-how to master the art of conflict and repairand because they didn’t learn it,you ended up having the experience you had,and without even being aware of it,this is what we pass along to the next generation.As a result, kids end up growing anxious,depressed,reactive,numb and dissociated,hiding from the world.They don’t know what to do with their emotions,just like us…so then it’s no surprise that they will want to isolate,they don’t feel seen and understood,and become reactive and “act out”,which brings up all sorts of feelings of failure as a parent,underneath all the anger most parents are feeling these days.If you can relate to this, just know that you’re not alone and it’s not your fault.You CAN create a different scenario.An outcome where the home feels like a sanctuary instead of a battlefield.Where your children want to engage and connectbecause of the loving magnetism you bring.As a parent,this is what we all want.That’s why I stand for breaking the cycle of sh*tty parenting.That’s why I stand for healed families.It didn’t start with you,but it can end with you.Your wingman on the adventure,Dr. Nima._______________________________________Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationshipshttps://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcastUpcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcastOr if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcastJoin my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproofAre you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR
Co-Parenting With A Narcissist
19-12-2023
Co-Parenting With A Narcissist
In all the years helping folks healing from Trauma Bonds,I learned two very shocking facts:1) We are facing an epidemic of people who have exes who they label as “narcissists”.2) Almost every single person I’ve ever met with who labels their ex as a narcissist, has massive blind spots that I am able to spot in them. There’s a narcissistic shadow in them they can’t see,or they are denying is there (which is exactly what most narcissists do— they would never admit it).How do I know?Easy. MY EX IS A NARCISSIST!!!(haha)In all certainty, my ex gf has 8/9 traits of Borderline Personality Disorder, with obvious covert narcissistic traits.I survived leaving the relationship barely with my life and reputation intact.Even though I’m joking a little bit right now, the recovery for this process wasn’t easy.So if you identify with your ex being a narcissist, just know I see you.Other than doing my research to study the behaviors to understand her better,to help let myself off the hook, to know that all the gaslighting they were doingwas coming from a place of their own lack of self worth and need for control…And it’s important to acknowledge your pain,staying there and labelling them only keeps you stuck in a loop.Especially if you have no choice to keep them in your life.I was blessed to not have any children with my ex.But many folks who dm me looking for guidance through their trauma bonds,ask me about what to do if they have to co-parent with their ex who has those traits.I’m going to suggest you learn a skill that got me to the next level of healing— completely able to dissolve all my charges on her behaviors….This skill is a skill most narcissists are unable to learn.But if you’re able to master it,not only can you confirm that you’re NOT the narcissist in the relationship,but the person you once labelled and edified as a monster,no longer has power over you,And their opinion of you no longer has the powerto distract you from your sense of self worth.It’s a skill that is required if you want to move on and create what it is that you really want:Love that is secure.That skill is:Your ability to see yourself in them. Your ability to own your own narcissistic traits, in your own form.We all have a “Donald Trump” within us who’s got narcissistic traits.If you can’t see it or own it in yourself— you’ll be super triggered when you see it in others.When you own it in yourself, not only does it stop you from feeling so victimized by the other person,your self worth starts to increase in a weird way.That’s the nature of owning and integrating your shadow parts.So whether the issue is co-parenting with someone who is toxic,or you are wanting to learn how to elevate your self worth so that you can finally have the courage to no longer tolerate anything less than high value love,if you want to keep elevating your magnetism by learning how to create safety with yourself and others,I’m ready to meet you and your shadows there.This is exactly what the Overview Experience zoom event is all about.Picture taking 6 hours to learn how to dissolve self abandonment, break free from trauma bonds,heal co-dependency, and upgrade your self worth so that you can turn anxious attachment patterns into secure love.When you do, you no longer need to give your power away to someone else.You claim it for yourself and you magnetize that kind of love back to you.On December 16th we have only 10 spots for couples who are stuck in the “should I stay or go” dynamic,or people who are wanting to heal an attachment wound from a breakup and upgrade who they are on the other side of it.First 5 to register get an 1-1 integration call with me to help complete your experience and set the vision for your secure relationship to flourish, free from the narcissistic / codependent cycle.This is where it all gets started. Your wingman on the adventure,Nima_______________________________________________________________Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationshipshttps://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcastUpcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcastOr if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcastJoin my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproofAre you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR
Signs You Might Be In A Trauma Bond
18-12-2023
Signs You Might Be In A Trauma Bond
SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE IN A TRAUMA BONDIs your relationship love? or is it a Trauma Bond.And if it is— what do you do?The answer depends on what kind of a life you want to have.I share the 3 phases of the Trauma Bond and how to break free if you are choosing to walk the path.Getting this right is the difference between passing down the trauma to your children…vs being a Cyclebreaker._______________________________________Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationshipshttps://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcastUpcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcastOr if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcastJoin my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproofAre you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR
When Victimhood Becomes An Identity
15-12-2023
When Victimhood Becomes An Identity
This is the topic I get the most hate for talking about.So I’m going to request you pause and reflect before reacting to this.And especially after you watch the video.I’ve been a primary care practitioner for over 20 years now as a Doctor of Chiropractic,helping hundreds if not thousands on their healing journey and I know with certaintywhat keeps people stuck and NOT healing.The way we respond to this topic is telling of where we are at in our healing journey.I’m talking about Victimhood Identity.Victimhood identity is a dark force in the human shadowthat gets passed down from generation to generation.It’s entangled within our relationship to “power”.That experience of being helpless,powerless and ashamed is not a fun place to be.No matter who you are— man, woman, white, or a person of color,we have ALL experienced those feelings when we relate to others.It’s universal. Even white men experience it EVEN THOUGH THEY SHOULDN’T!!(I’m kidding)When someone judges you,shames you,blames you,criticizes you,cheats on you,or is abusive to you—in that moment freeze-framed in time,you can easily argue that there is a victim— and a villain/perpetrator in the dynamic.When you freeze that scene, anyone can see it and no one will argue with that narrative.But the problem is— too many people in the world of healing from relationship conflict GET STUCK THERE.Then they go to counsellors and therapists that all too often keep replaying that narrative,validating one side of the story,making one person the victim, and the other the villain…Which is great for a momentary feeling of validation…but TERRIBLE for your healing journey if repeated years down the road.Because you’ll take that one sided narrative (as the victim)to your next relationship — and attract someone who wants to rescue you.Allow me to explain:VICTIMS ATTRACT RESCUERS/SAVIORS.And rescuers are all too often those of us who have low self worth,looking for wounded birds to fix— so we can feel good about ourselves.That was me. My ex was a deeply wounded bird.And deep down the motive of the rescuer (me)who has an unconscious Savior/God complex hidden in their shadows,is to feel grandiose and important. (hello— Narcissism?)Eventually the savior fails— because quite frankly no one can rescue us but us.And when the savior fails, feeling used, resentful, overwhelmed as I did,the rescuer bails, or gets reactive from feeling victimized by the victim—which I did.then turns into the next perpetrator in line for the victim, with abuse or abandonment.Can you see how this triangle perpetuates itself?HOW DO YOU BREAK THIS NASTY CYCLE?In a society that has gone awry with celebrating victimhood,we need to first recognize that our victimhood identityfrom something that happened years ago,STILL calling yourself a “survivor”you’re literally giving your power away by identifying with an illness or a personyou’re unconsciously pedestalizing.You literally can’t win by staying there.The way you win?See where you YOURSELF were also the “bad guy”.You heard me right.Only by owning where WE were the villain/perpetrator,can we then overcome the victimhood identity narrativethat keeps us sick, stressed, powerless and helpless.I know you want to feel powerful,free from resentment, guilt and shame,and I know you’re here because you want to create a foundation for love that is secure.That’s why I am inspired to show those who are ready to break this nasty cycle,not to invalidate the pain you’ve gone through,but to help those who are ready to turn that pain into fuel for their healing and growth.When you do, you lay the groundwork to be a force of mutual connectioninstead of being a perfect storm for a trauma bond to thrive.Going from victim identity to a compassionate identity is CRITICAL toexpanding into the world instead of shrinking.Ask yourself,“Where am I holding onto resentment towards someone in my life?”That’s where your freedom is…freedom from your illness,freedom from your past resentment towards an abusivemother/father or ex,freedom from the guilt and shame.the biggest obstacle is confronting the identity you’ve been holding ontoto make sense of your reality. Who would you be without the story?The answer is: A powerful, healed, self-actualized secure human being.That’s who.Your healing awaits.Your wingman on the adventure,Dr. Nima______________________________________Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationshipshttps://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcastUpcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcastOr if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcastJoin my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproofAre you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR
Chronic Pain, Fatigue, And Illness— The 3 Blind Spots
14-12-2023
Chronic Pain, Fatigue, And Illness— The 3 Blind Spots
Digestive issuesInflammatory BowelAuto-immune disordersChronic Anxiety and DepressionWhat an exhausting merry-go-round with doctors to heal from these.The truth is— an MD can’t do anything to help you with those, besides prescribe medication, and I know you are looking for other answers. That’s why I am doing this training. There’s a reason why you’re not healing, and it’s not your fault.And it’s not your MD’s fault either, because they don’t know about how to help you with 3 blind spots that almost everyone with Chronic illness/pain/fatigue overlooks— and I’m speaking from the experience of a 20 year career as a primary care practitioner. When I discovered this, I decided to leave my practice. Getting these 3 blind spots is CRITICAL to your healing.You’d think that EVERYONE would want to learn this and take part, but sadly that’s not the case, and that’s because of blind spot #1. I cover the rest on this transmission. Not learning this keeps you on the chronic pain/illness/fatigue merry go round. When you get this right, your health, vibrance, and vitality emerges NATURALLY as a bi-product. The contents of this training might surprise you.__________________________________________Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationshipshttps://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcastUpcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcastOr if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcastJoin my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproofAre you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR