In this episode today, we talk about the benefits of experiencing true solitude, a time of silence to regroup, think, and refocus to obtain clarity in our healing journey.  Solitude is underrated, and yet there are benefits waiting for us if we are willing to take the introspective journey into discovering what may lie ahead especially if we have endured narcissistic trauma. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

If you have just woken up from the situation you find yourself in, a victim of narcissistic abuse, you are not alone in your fury. Being a victim of this insidious crime is a reason to feel anger and it’s completely justified. You were wronged on so many levels. Your boundaries were crossed recklessly. Today in this episode we are going to talk about that anger. We are going to talk about the sources of it as it relates to narcissistic abuse. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

You might think that it’s absolutely insane for someone who you either once were in a relationship with, or maybe it was family, or maybe it’s one of your close friends, could possibly hate you, not dislike, flat-out hate you, keep reading. In this episode, we are going to tear apart how the narcissist hates you with 6 reasons…and this list may grow, but we are going to get in the head of the narcissist and divulge what they are thinking and why they think it, which is the ugly truth which they will never admit to, but by their actions, it oozes out from their being. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

In the latest episode of your insightful host, Lynn delves deep into the intricate world of toxic narcissism, shedding light on the ten telltale signs of manipulation to help listeners detect and escape from harmful relationships.Drawing on her expertise, Lynn offers a compelling solo discussion, guiding the audience through the subtle yet potent tactics employed by manipulative individuals. By uncovering these red flags early on, listeners can safeguard their emotional well-being and detect the signs early on.Throughout the episode, Lynn provides an empathetic and empowering narrative. Tune in to this powerful podcast to equip yourself with the knowledge and tools necessary to navigate the treacherous waters of toxic relationships, embracing a future of resilience, empowerment, and healing. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

In this re-released podcast episode, Lynn discusses the mental and physical exhaustion experienced by individuals who have been in a relationship with a narcissist. The exhaustion stems from a cyclical pattern that the narcissist employs to manipulate and control their partner.The cycle starts with the "love bomb" stage, where the narcissist showers the individual with compliments and false flattery to gain control over them as a source of supply. This phase is followed by the "devalue" stage, during which the narcissist becomes highly critical of the individual's actions and appearance, undermining their self-worth and confidence.The narcissist then subtly belittles and minimizes the individual, not providing validation or support for their efforts and passions. The host emphasizes that the cycle is continuous and exhausting, with the narcissist continually finding new ways to diminish the individual and maintain control over them.The complexity of the cycle lies in multiple events occurring simultaneously, involving gaslighting, ignoring, and love bombing, which creates a roller-coaster-like experience for the individual. Initially, the individual may not recognize the pattern, leading to feelings of confusion and self-blame.The episode concludes with tips to provide encouragement to think outside the box regarding their situation or relationship with a narcissist and break free from the draining cycle. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

In this re-released episode of the podcast, host Lynn delves into the topic of stonewalling and explores why narcissists employ this manipulative tactic. Stonewalling is a means for narcissists to halt or diminish the flow of information during conversations, and it manifests in various ways.The episode identifies six forms of stonewalling, including abruptly walking away from a conversation, feigning busyness to avoid engagement, ignoring or giving the silent treatment, minimizing or discrediting, and preventing the conversation from being about the other person. These behaviors are not isolated incidents but rather chronic patterns of behavior.Lynn explains that narcissists reject closeness and intimacy, viewing them as negative and critical. They are averse to hearing feedback, disinterested in their partner's thoughts or passions, and only concerned with what the other person can do for them. Sharing openly and honestly within the relationship is met with disdain, as the narcissist lacks accountability, empathy, and the willingness to change.Narcissists feel uncomfortable when the focus shifts away from themselves and onto their partner. They want to maintain their desired narrative and reputation, which can be challenged by their partner's personal stories and experiences. Additionally, stonewalling serves as a means for the narcissist to conceal their past actions, their true nature, and their lack of care for their partner.The episode also explores the impact of stonewalling on the targeted individual. It generates shock, confusion, and a sense of questioning the relationship. Trust is eroded, feelings of insignificance and unappreciation arise, and the target may find themselves feeling alone and pitted against their partner. Ultimately, stonewalling can contribute to the breakdown of the relationship. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that is unfortunately common in many relationships including narcissistic relationships and narcissistic dysfunctional family structures. It is a manipulative tactic where the abuser tries to make their partner doubt their own feelings, memory, and sanity. Women are often the victims of gaslighting in relationships with men, and it can be difficult to recognize when it is happening. Gaslighting can be subtle and disguised as care and concern, which can make it even more challenging to identify.In this episode, we will discuss the top 7 gaslighting phrases you might hear if you are in a toxic/dysfunctional or narcissistic relationship or being manipulated for someone's gain. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

Is depression part of the journey of recovering from a relationship with a narcissist? In this video, we aim to provide a comprehensive look at reasons why you may feel depressed as it relates to recovering from narcissistic abuse and what is really going on... Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

Breaking free from a toxic relationship can be a challenging process, especially when you have invested so much time, energy, and emotions into the relationship.In this episode today, we talk about several ways to overcome cognitive dissonance with practical, clear steps.  Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

If you are the family scapegoat, and look back on your life and either wish you were the family golden child because it seems like they "had it easier" and they were favored, blessed and had all the attention, read on. We are going to dissect how the golden child too, suffers from growing up in a narcissistic family environment, and while they may eat chocolate first, and have better-looking roses and have more attention, they too, suffer from large emotional and relational consequences from being the favored, golden child stemming from adolescence. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

Golden Child: Will they become narcissistic? One of the most popular or often-asked questions, I receive frequently is the probability of the golden child becoming narcissistic or a narcissist later on in life. And while this is a loaded topic and there will be many questions, we are going to dive into this topic to explore this probability in further detail. This is not an easy question to answer but let’s dive in. My hope is that you will be able to gain clarity on your situation, or research to understand that the answer, may not be an astounding Yes, or No, and we will delve in to determine why. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

Hyper-vigilance, a state of heightened alertness and constant scanning of the environment, can be a significant consequence of narcissistic trauma.Today we aim to shed light on the concept of hyper-vigilance, explore its origins, outline typical behavioral signs, and delve into its connection with narcissistic abuse.By understanding this complex relationship, we can empower survivors and promote healing.Let’s embark on this journey to unravel the intricate ties between hyper-vigilance its connection to narcissism.  Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

Gaslighting is a common tactic used by narcissists to manipulate and control their victims. It involves denying the reality of a situation, making the victim doubt their own perceptions, and making them question their own sanity. Gaslighting can have devastating effects on the victim, leading to feelings of confusion, self-doubt, and anxiety. In this episode, we will explore the five reasons why narcissists gaslight their victims. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

Within narcissistic family units, the golden child and the scapegoat child often represent two distinct roles that emerge and persist even into adulthood. When we talk about these family dynamics within a narcissistic family structure, it helps to bring awareness, it also may bring clarity, and it also may help us understand our own family of origin more and why things are the way they are – especially as adults.  Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

If you grew up within a narcissistic family structure, and have determined you are the family scapegoat, this episode is for you. We are going to go deep (why not) and touch on some of the common struggles growing up as the family scapegoat so you can embrace these struggles head-on, accept the challenge, walk through it, learn an amazing bit about yourself, and even free yourself from the emotional entanglement, start over if needed, and move forward one day at a time when it’s right for you.  Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

Have you ever thought a narcissist was acting like a sales representative? And vice versa, the most recent sales rep you met, seemed to have a lot of similarities to a narcissist.  Is there a correlation? Great Question.In this episode, we will discuss why narcissists in particular are drawn to careers in sales, followed by the interpretation. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

In this article, we are going to talk about what happens after you (the scapegoat) stand up for yourself within the realm of a narcissistic extended family, have gone no contact with one (or more) individuals, and then have come to find out the rest of the family has ostracized you. What the heck happened? Let’s break down the multiple layers of dysfunction going on behind the scenes in layers causing one confusing mess for those involved.  The dysfunction is deliberate, carefully crafted, and orchestrated by those who wish to cause you harm, yes hatred, even from family. Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

In this episode, we will discuss (1) why this is a difficult question to answer, (2) why it is challenging to leave a narcissistic relationship; and (3) the role of your intuition to protect you in the midst of a narcissistic relationship. Athletic Greens AG1 contains over 75 essential vitamins, minerals and whole-food sourced ingredients giving you a muDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

You may have heard the term narcissistic supply and at first, you may have been perplexed by it.  In this episode I hope to bring clarity on: (1) what is narcissistic supply, (2) how narcissistic supply benefits the narcissist and (3) why you may feel drained or confused afterward.  Athletic Greens AG1 contains over 75 essential vitamins, minerals and whole-food sourced ingredients giving you a muDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here

We have a lot to catch up on as it has been a minute since I have last recorded an episode or video. My heart and mind have been with our Podcast and our Wake the Elephant YT channel every single day. Today in this episode, (1)    We are going to talk a little bit about where I have been and what I have been up to which will include a recent big move that I made.(2)    We will address some reasons why I made this move(3)    And Where I ended up and how this ties into narcissism.I am thrilled to be back.  I have missed you.So, let’s get to it. Athletic Greens AG1 contains over 75 essential vitamins, minerals and whole-food sourced ingredients giving you a muDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showThank you for listening! Stay connected with us here: https://linktr.ee/lynnnicholsEnjoying the Show? Show your Support and Buy Lynn a coffee here. Monthly Subscriptions Now Available: Learn More Here