Thriving Adoptees - Let's Heal

Simon Benn

We are all at different place on our healing journey. If we don't know what we want, we can't get it. I usually start by asking guests, what does healing mean to you? So what does it mean to you - the one reading this blurb. Take some time, journal, ponder, whatever works for you. What's helping/helped you heal? Listen in. Could the guest's actions help you heal? Worth a go right? Or at least being open to it. Our beliefs are bouncers guarding against new ideas. Beware where your beliefs are getting in the way. What's hindered your healing? YOU can't get in the way of your healing, only your beliefs can. Or taking action. So find that new therapist when your current one retires. Prioritise your healing. Give yourself grace and take a break if you need to! Thriving Adoptees helps you along your unique journey with insights from your fellow adoptees. So that their learnings catalyse your healing. So why do I love helping adoptees heal? I was adopted at 5 weeks old and told about it so young I don't ever remember not knowing. I didn't experience any conscious adoption trauma until I hit 40 when I found out my childhood teddy bear was a gift from my birth mother. This caused an eruption of anger, feeling rejected and unloved. That kickstarted a learning journey that led me to heal and then want to help others. I created the podcast so guests help listeners along their unique healing journey and see their worth. That's the reason the Thriving Adoptees logo is a diamond. You are a diamond. We are all diamonds. Diamonds whose worth is hidden by our trauma. But every metaphor has it's limits. Diamonds have a finite value. Your value is infinite. Most podcasts for adoptees focus on stories, we focus on healing. Email me at simon@thrivingadoptees.com if you'd like to have a chat about being a guest on the show. There have been 83,000 downloads of the show since launch in April 2021. read less
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Holistic Healing Sarah Patstone
3d ago
Holistic Healing Sarah Patstone
How's your healing? If you're looking for more healing then a broader, holistic, view may help you jump the barriers on your journey. Listen in as adoptee and holistic healer for adoptees Sarah goes wide (and deep) to speed you along.Here's a bit about Sarah"I am 53 yrs old adoptee, English/Indian and a mom to two teenage boys. As a fully qualified Bowen Therapist and Reiki Master my goal is to unify the mind, body and soul for healing and recovery. I work from my own space in Silves, Portugal and globally remotely. Life gave me the opportunity to take a new path which began when I received a course of Bowen treatments after the birth of my first son in 2007. This led me to retrain into the holistic health field, since then I have been dedicated to the wellness of others on all levels. Over the last few years I felt a pull to expand into learning about the synergy of the mind and body. After a profound personal transformation, I knew that I could guide others on their own healing journey, specifically adoptees. My heart-led goal is to guide, encourage, lead and support you in creating a solid foundation for yourself, your family, your life. A foundation that is real, meaningful and unshakable from where you can expand and transform."Here's a link to Sarah's grouphttps://www.facebook.com/groups/574139124622133Connect with Sarah here:https://www.globalhearthealing.com/https://www.facebook.com/bowentherapyalgarvemstrhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahpatstone/https://sarahpatstone.com/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.
Befriending Loss With Jennifer Jue-Steuck
1w ago
Befriending Loss With Jennifer Jue-Steuck
So many of us spent so long pushing tough emotions like loss away. So much of that has been unconscious. What if we can welcome loss in like a friend? So it loses its power over us? Jen shares her learnings from the loss of two mothers. From Laguna Beach (Orange County), California, Jennifer Bao Yu "Precious Jade" Jue-Steuck is an author, screenwriter, children's novelist, adoption researcher, and adoption columnist. Adopted from Taipei (by an American family from Los Angeles), Jennifer is a graduate of New York University's Tisch School of the Arts and Harvard University, where she was a Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation Scholar.She is the founder of Chinese Adoptee Links (CAL) International — Global Generations, the first global group created by and for the more than 150,000 Chinese adoptees growing up in 26+ countries around the world. She currently serves as the co-founder of Harvardwood Vancouver-Seattle (for Harvard alumni in the Arts & Entertainment), and is the West Coast Brand Ambassador for Harvard Alumni Entrepreneurs (HAE) Canada.Jennifer has given more than 100+ adoption talks in 8 countries, including several Keynote Speeches, on behalf of the international adoption community. A contributor to St. Martin’s Press, Oxford University Press, MIT Press, Conde Nast and more, Jennifer was recently awarded a runner-up prize by International Thriller Writers (ITW). She won her first writing competition at age 9, and has been writing ever since. The Stepmother's Project is Jennifer's first Canadian global media project ("EVERY MOTHER MATTERS").https://www.gofundme.com/f/Stepmother-Projecthttps://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-jue-steuck/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.
40 Years Of Healing With Paige Strickland
20-02-2024
40 Years Of Healing With Paige Strickland
One of the strongest themes in our conversations on healing is that it's an ongoing process. So what do learn over that process that helps us along that process? Listen in as Paige shares what she's done and continues to do to help her along the process.Paige Adams Strickland (1961- ) was born in Cincinnati, Ohio and adopted at 13 months. In 1987 she began a search for her biological family members. She has a BA from Florida State University in Spanish Education. She has 30 years experience in teaching. Her writing has been featured and won attention from scinti.com, a wordwithyoupress.com, soniamarsh.com and adoptionvoicesmagazine.com.Listen to her previous interview:Paige felt ashamed about being adopted when she was younger. Listen to what she's learned over the years to leave this behind. We discuss overcoming stigma, questioning the primal wound and our true identity to feel better, do better and thrive. https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/from-shame-to-thriving-with-paige-stricklandFind out more about her at:https://stricklandp.wordpress.com/author/stricklandp/https://www.facebook.com/23plashttps://twitter.com/plastrickland23https://www.instagram.com/paigeladamsstrickland/https://www.linkedin.com/in/paige-adams-strickland-4819722b/https://www.instagram.com/akin_to_and_after_the_truth/Check out her books at:https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-text&rh=p_27%3APaige+Strickland&s=relevancerank&text=Paige+Strickland&ref=dp_byline_sr_ebooks_1https://www.amazon.co.uk/Paige-Adams-Strickland/e/B00FQ6GU5C?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1644231531&sr=8-1  Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.
Unshackling From Trauma With Adoptee Suni Zmich
01-02-2024
Unshackling From Trauma With Adoptee Suni Zmich
Does trauma sometimes keep you locked up?Listen in as transracial adoptee shares Suni powerful insights about breaking free from our trauma to find the freedom that sets us free.Here's a link to Suni's previous interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/lightbulb-moments-with-adoptee-suni-zmichHere's a bit about Suni and her book:After ignoring her own adoption story for 50 years, SUNI MILLER ZMICH journeyed alongside the interviewees as they described their stories, connecting on an elemental level, her unanticipated reward was she could clearly see herself in the mirror for the first time in her life. She is the mother of two daughters, a retired accounting and finance manager, and a transient ex-army brat poised for the next adventure. Practically empty nesters, she and her husband, Kurt, live in Minneapolis. For Now. When I first started Through the Lens of Ourselves,I only had a vague idea of what I wanted to accomplish.​I am an adoptee. After conducting many interviews, my personal journey melded with the interviewees. I learned that ALL members of the adoption triad yearn for familial connection. In listening to the birth mothers, I was surprised at my own reaction. For years, I had harbored resentment about my own birth parents and would not fully invest myself emotionally with my adoptive parents. But after allowing myself to see through the lens of the birth parents in my book, I felt safe enough to become closer to my adoptive parents.My hope is that my book will bring peace to to those who are still traumatized by their adoption experience. I will forever be grateful to the individuals who were brave enough to share their stories with me. They nourished my soul and I hope their stories will feed the world.Listening to the stories of others touched by adoption healed me.My hope is that my book will also heal you.You know that quiet voice that whispers to you when you first wake up in that fuzzy space between sleep and full consciousness - where your dreams and reality collide? I would sometimes hear those little nudges to examine my adoption.Here's the link I to the Dragon story mentioned https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7stT4OQoFGUHere's links to her website with links to Amazon etc:https://www.sunimillerzmich.com/Here are links to her social media:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100068780925549https://www.instagram.com/sunimillerzmich/  Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.
Choices With Jill Bolte Taylor
30-01-2024
Choices With Jill Bolte Taylor
Most of us aren't choosing how we feel most of the time. Most of us aren't choosing what we think most of the time. Our trauma is choosing our thoughts and feelings for us. So how DO we choose? Listen in as neuroanatomist Dr Jill Bolte Taylor dives deep into learning to choose. Fascinating and empowering.Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is a Harvard-trained and published neuroanatomist whose research specialized in understanding how our brain creates our perception of reality. She was interested in this subject because she has a brother who is diagnosed with the brain disorder schizophrenia.As irony would have it, in 1996 at the age of 37, Dr. Jill experienced a severe hemorrhage in the left hemisphere of her brain. On the afternoon of this rare form of stroke (AVM), she could not walk, talk, read, write, or recall any of her life. It took eight years for Dr. Jill to completely rebuild her brain to recover all physical, emotional, and thinking abilities.Dr. Jill is the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey (published in 2008 by Viking Penguin), which is still often the #1 book about STROKE sold in the Amazon marketplace. In addition, her second book WHOLE BRAIN LIVING: The Anatomy of Choice and the Four Characters That Drive Our Life was published in May of 2021 by Hay House and is now readily available.In 2008, Dr. Jill gave a presentation about her experience with stroke at the TED Conference in Monterey, CA, which was the first TED talk to ever go viral through the internet. TED and Dr. Jill became world-famous instantaneously and that TED talk has now been viewed well over 27.5 million times. This 18-minute presentation catapulted Dr. Jill into the public eye, and within six weeks of presenting that TED talk, she was chosen as one of TIME Magazine’s 100 Most Influential People in the World, she was the premiere guest on Oprah’s Soul Series webcast, and her book My Stroke of Insight became a New York Times bestseller and remained on the list for 63 weeks.Dr. Jill is passionate about educating the public about the beauty of our human brain, and she is committed to not only helping others find their way back from neurological trauma but is eager to help everyone better understand their brain so they can live their best life.  Her Foundation Jill Bolte Taylor BRAINS is dedicated to providing educational services and promoting programs that are related to the advancement of brain awareness, appreciation, exploration, education, injury prevention, neurological recovery, and the value of movement on mental and physical health, as well as other activities that support this purpose.Dr. Jill remains the National Spokesperson for the Harvard Brain Tissue Resource Center (Harvard Brain Bank), whereby she educates the public about the shortage of brain tissue donated for research into the severe mental illnesses. Since 1993, she has been an active member of NAMI (the National Alliance on Mental Illness), by serving for three years on the National NAMI Board of Directions and later spent over ten years as the president of the local level NAMI Greater Bloomington Area affiliate in Bloomington, Indiana.https://www.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_my_stroke_of_insighthttps://www.instagram.com/drjillboltetaylorhttps://www.facebook.com/DrJillBolteTaylorhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHfUhV_xjrJLPiLZSlTRNvghttps://www.drjilltaylor.com/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.
Seeing Our Potential With Anneke Vinke
24-01-2024
Seeing Our Potential With Anneke Vinke
Whilst we are consumed with our trauma, we miss our potential. Listen in as therapist Anneke points us towards hope, the future and healing. Profound and empowering.Here's a bit about Anneke Vinke from her website:" I studied orthopedagogy in Nijmegen, specializing in educational and behavioral problems in young children. I then worked as a scientific researcher at Utrecht University. I received my PhD there in 1999 with a dissertation on adoption. I am a Certified Advanced Practitioner Sensorimotor Psychotherapy ®   and Consultant -internal  for Sensorimotor Psychotherapy ®, trained and certified in the use of the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics (NMT™️)   Orthopedagogue (NVO), Registered Psychologist and supervisor Child & Youth (NIP) and Body-oriented Working Psychologist (NIP). In addition, I am  included in the government's BIG register as a GZ psychologist and Orthopedagogue Generalist . I am a member of the following trade and professional associations:  NIP , NVO , ESTD , SPIPA-NL .My first real contact with adoption was during my internship in a child psychiatric clinic in the 1980s. After graduating in 1991, I had the opportunity to study adoption scientifically through a PhD research project. This resulted in a dissertation on adoptive parenting and ultimately in Adoption Practice in 2006. In addition to (intercountry) adoption, I am involved in foster care, trauma, attachment and youth protection (including child abuse, diagnostics and risk assessment). A portrait can be found on Project Adopted.In the period after my graduation until the establishment of the Adoption Practice, I explored and carried out the full breadth of youth protection work. I have worked as a care provider, as a researcher, as a teacher/trainer and supervisor (university & HBO), as a behavioral scientist in youth protection (BJZ) and as a senior (policy) advisor/researcher at a commercial consultancy firm (youth care). In 2006 I decided to return to clinical practice and founded Adoption Practice Vinke. More information about education and experience can be found on  Linkedin ."https://www.facebook.com/anneke.vinkehttps://twitter.com/Adoptiepraktijkhttps://www.adoptiepraktijk.nl/wie-ben-ik/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.
Growth With Linda Pevac aka Emma Stevens
23-01-2024
Growth With Linda Pevac aka Emma Stevens
How do we grow? What stops us growing? How do we remove those barriers? Emma shares hard won insights to empower us along our life-long healing journey.Her first interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/freedom-with-emma-stevensHer second interview  https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/becoming-our-own-guru-with-emma-stevensHer third  interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/healing-changeLinda Pevac aka Emma Stevens is a U.S. domestic adoptee from birth and has survived layers of trauma that have put her on multiple journeys. She developed the inner strength and courage to surmount the many struggles she faced. Her traumas were born from being an adoptee who struggled with being forced to wear an impossible mask of playing the part of the “good adopted child.” Because being relinquished and adopted has colored her life, it’s Emma’s desire to be part of the movement that is dedicated to helping bring forth change to the way our world views the needs and support of adopted individuals. She believes strongly in adoptees finding their voice and discovering their truth to have a solid sense of self and to reclaim their identities. Through telling her story, Emma is dedicated to help redefine the narrative of adoption to include the entire complex truth.More about Linda/Emma at:https://linktr.ee/EmmaStevensWriterhttps://www.instagram.com/EmmaStevensWriterhttps://www.facebook.com/EmmaStevensWriterhttps://www.tiktok.com/@EmmaStevensWriterhttps://twitter.com/emmastevenswrtr Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.
Connected With Sara Docan-Morgan
17-01-2024
Connected With Sara Docan-Morgan
Do you want to feel more connected? Listen in as transnational adoptee Sara shares how she found that feeling of connection with her birth family. You're going to want to listen to the very end. She touches on profound and surprising insights that will touch you even if you're not a transnational adoptee.Sara Docan-Morgan (PhD, University of Washington) is Professor of Communication Studies. Dr. Docan-Morgan's work has been published in Adoption Quarterly, the Journal of Family Communication, the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Communication Quarterly, Family Relations, and the Journal of Korean Adoption Studies, as well as in edited volumes. Her research focuses on how personal identity and family identity are formed, maintained, and negotiated through discourse in both adoptive and birth families. She teaches courses in interpersonal communication, family communication, gender and communication, communication and race, research methods, and intercultural communication, and directs senior thesis projects.Sara is a transnational Korean adoptee who was adopted at the age of 4 months. She has been in reunion with her Korean family since 2009. https://tupress.temple.edu/books/in-reunionhttps://www.instagram.com/esjaydm/https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-docan-morgan-8642175/https://www.facebook.com/sara.docanmorgan Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.
Out Of The Abyss With Lisa Ann
15-01-2024
Out Of The Abyss With Lisa Ann
Being stuck in the abyss hurts like hell. So how did Lisa Ann find a ladder out? Listen in for a deep exploration of healing through self reflection and discovery.Adoptee Lisa Ann is the engaging host of Wandering Tree Podcast connecting with her guests on thought-provoking discussions focused on the adoption journey; and spoken with each person’s unique perspectives. Guests show their resilience, personal growth, and the power of positivity.Known for her empathetic interview style, insightful questions, and the ability to authentically connect with her guests, Lisa Ann creates a welcoming space for constructive discussions on the lived experiences of adoption.Her background in early childhood development, combined with decades of service in public safety, and a deep commitment to her local volunteer efforts, has garnished Lisa Ann with an insightful understanding of human development, community dynamics and the powerful flow of life.Outside of her podcasting work, Lisa Ann devotes her professional expertise to helping others save lives and passionately believes in empowering the adoptee community to become builders of connections.In her downtime, you'll find her spending time with family and friends, experimenting with new food concoctions, and immersing herself in books of all genres.https://wanderingtreeadoptee.com/https://www.facebook.com/LisaAnn4040https://www.facebook.com/wanderingtreeadopteehttps://www.instagram.com/wanderingtree_podcast_lisaann/ Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.