Relationship Advice

Hosted by: Chase Kosterlitz, Produced by: Sarah Kosterlitz

I Do Podcast interviews today’s most successful and inspiring relationship experts, therapists and couples. Hosted by Chase Kosterlitz and produced by Sarah Kosterlitz, I Do Podcast is all about inspiring young couples to create a fulfilling and happy relationship. The weekly podcast will give you great advice to improve your relationship and fun ways to keep the spark alive. Each episode Chase interviews amazing relationship experts who share their knowledge on building successful and lasting love. The guests provide daily tips to improve your relationship, advice for young couples, amazing books and resources and much more. read less
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[BONUS] Four Ways To Spark Your Relationship
1w ago
[BONUS] Four Ways To Spark Your Relationship
Exciting Announcement: We're having a FLASH SALE on our online course, Spark My Relationship, ! Learn more and enroll here: SparkMyRelationship.com and use the code FLASH24 at checkout! Available until April 13th at midnight! Spark My Relationship is designed to infuse your life and relationship with fresh passion, skills and wisdom. This self-paced journey is perfect for turning up the heat, having some fun together and revolutionizing your intimacy and communication. We’ve collaborated with 15 psychologists and therapists to create a comprehensive relationship course that not only teaches you the skills needed to create a successful and lasting relationship, but the tools to execute it. In this episode, we interview Dr. Debra Campbell about four important ways to keep the spark alive in our relationship. What Dr. Deb teaches us in this episode is just a glimpse of what is covered in the course. 🙂 Dr. Deb recommends some helpful and practical exercises to help our relationships improve in general happiness and in the bedroom. Here are just a couple of our favorites from the episode: Look at your everyday life with your partner, outside of the bedroom, as foreplay. This allows you to see, from a different perspective, how everything you do and say can help to build up to your next erotic connection with your partner. For example, if you are criticizing your partner during the day, they aren’t going to be easily turned on in the evening. This helps to keep your attention on making your partner feel good and can lead to better sex.  Figure out what turns you on. By finding out what helps you transition into feeling intimate, you can talk to your partner and plan to make your next connection more pleasurable. This could be taking a bath, playing certain music – you could even make a special playlist, or setting your bedroom up with luxurious sheets and good lighting to help you get in the mood.  In this episode we also discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of eliminating unhelpful old habits that can lead to friction and unhappiness Healthy and successful communication tools The biggest struggles couples have when reigniting their sex life, plus tips to spice things up The importance of mindfulness to improve stress management Why having shared dreams and desires can be so beneficial for celebrating our “couple culture” now and in the future. And much more! Dr Debra Campbell is a author, psychologist, university lecturer and couple therapists based in Melbourne Australia. Dr. Debra has consulted on everything from panic to depression, parenting, grief and relationships. Her book Lovelands has become an Amazon bestseller, combining self-help with the deeply personal memoir of a psychologist. Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to learn more ways to spark your relationship? If so, you’re not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Episode Links Dr. Debra’s Website Episode 68: Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence Lovelands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
451: Improve Your Relationship By Asking Better Questions
03-04-2024
451: Improve Your Relationship By Asking Better Questions
It might sound a bit too good to be true. Ask better questions and instantly improve your relationship? The quality of our relationships is often determined by the quality of our communication and connection. Asking better questions will help you communicate better and develop a deeper sense of understanding and intimacy with your partner. Listen to today's show to learn how to ask better questions and improve your relationship today! In this episode with Topaz Adizes we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to hold space and be in the emotions together with your partner The art and value of deep listening during conversations Why you should not be asking binary questions to have better conversations Specific questions that you can start asking in your conversations today Important questions to ask yourself for deeper conversations and insights And much more! Sponsored Happy Mammoth is your ultimate solution for Gut Health & Hormone Balance. Unlock a special 15% discount on your entire first order at HappyMammoth.com using promo code “IDO” at checkout. EarnIn empowers millions of people to achieve financial independence worry-free, without debt traps, fees, or credit checks. Download EarnIn today in the Google play or Apple app store. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
450: Fixing Common Relationship Issues
27-03-2024
450: Fixing Common Relationship Issues
Kelli Miller shares essential advice for tackling common relationship issues. From reigniting feelings of love to navigating differences in desires and managing the impact of social media, Kelli provides practical tips to enhance your relationship. Tune in for actionable insights on compromise and understanding the ebb and flow of emotions, empowering you to strengthen your bond with your partner. In this episode with Kelli Miller we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What to do if you don't feel in love with your partner anymore? Navigating social media and understanding if it's damaging your relationship What to do if you and your partner want different things in your relationship and life Why it's normal to not feel in love all of the time Acting in order to produce the emotional change you desire Amazing tips to help you compromise with your partner more easily And much more! Sponsors Pjur is a leading manufacturer of high-quality personal lubricants and intimate wellness products. Pjur is offering our listeners 5% off your order with our code, "IDO"! Osea is your one stop shop for everything related to great quality skincare. Get ahead of your holiday shopping! For a limited time, you can get 10% off with our code "RELATIONSHIPADVICE10" at OseaMalibu.com. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
449: Keys To Building A Lifetime Of Love
20-03-2024
449: Keys To Building A Lifetime Of Love
Unfortunately, love and relationships don't necessarily come naturally to us. But that's ok! We can gain the tools and strategies to cultivate a life full of love and relationships that are fulfilling and healthy. Listen to today's show for amazing tips to start improving your relationship today.  In this episode with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Tools to understand ourselves so we can better relate with others through the love blueprint Understanding the underlying meaning that we may be attaching to things our partner does Specific tools and questions to get to know yourself and your partner on a deeper level How bilateral stimulation with your eyes can literally widen your perspective and help you navigate conflict How to let go of things when you're triggered or communicate with your partner if needed Practices to cultivate love and compassion in your relationship And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Osea is your one stop shop for everything related to great quality skincare. Get ahead of your holiday shopping! For a limited time, you can get 10% off with our code "RELATIONSHIPADVICE10" at OseaMalibu.com. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
448: Understanding Love, Personalities And Our Brain
13-03-2024
448: Understanding Love, Personalities And Our Brain
If we better understand what makes us who we are, we can relate better and have more loving and fulfilling relationships. Listen to today's show to learn more about how our brain chemistry, personality types and evolution make us who we are and influence how we relate to others.  In this episode with Dr. Helen Fisher we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding why we fall in love with specific personality types How sex drive, romantic love and attachment influence our relationships How are hormones influence our personalities and who we are attracted to Why are decision making can be compromised in relationships and how to account for this issue The importance of sometimes overlooking the negative in a relationship And much more! Sponsored Happy Mammoth is your ultimate solution for Gut Health & Hormone Balance. Unlock a special 15% discount on your entire first order at HappyMammoth.com using promo code “IDO” at checkout. Pjur is a leading manufacturer of high-quality personal lubricants and intimate wellness products. Pjur is offering our listeners 5% off your order with our code, "IDO"! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
447: Building Better Communication, Compassion And Connection
06-03-2024
447: Building Better Communication, Compassion And Connection
Our relationships are often a product of the quality of our communication. Communication involves much more than just the words we speak. Listen to today's show to learn how to approach and have conversations that will produce more connection and love in your relationship.  In this episode with Dr. Heather Browne we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How communication starts beyond words Important questions to ask yourself before having a conversation Specific steps to ensure your conversation is set up for success How to soothe yourself if communication is not happening or not going how you'd like The importance of accepting your partner and not trying to change them How to create a new belief system and not fall into old patterns Sponsored Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Happy Mammoth is your ultimate solution for Gut Health & Hormone Balance. Unlock a special 15% discount on your entire first order at HappyMammoth.com using promo code “IDO” at checkout. Pjur is a leading manufacturer of high-quality personal lubricants and intimate wellness products. Pjur is offering our listeners 5% off your order with our code, "IDO"! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
446: The Definition Of Love, Negotiating Impasses And Deep Wisdom
28-02-2024
446: The Definition Of Love, Negotiating Impasses And Deep Wisdom
Defining something is one of the first steps in understanding and cultivating it. Loving and being loved is a fundamental human need that can bring us amazing highs and unbearable lows. Today's wide ranging and philosophical conversation will help you better understand and cultivate love in your life, negotiate in conflict and live a richer, more meaningful life.  In this episode with Dr. David McMillan we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The factors that contribute to true and meaningful love How to serve the spirit of your relationship Negotiating impasses in your relationship with specific tips and tools you can use right away How to disagree joyfully and validate your partner's opinion The life stages of working toward enlightenment and how these deep insights can help us show up better for ourselves and others And much more! Sponsors Lume Deodorant helps you control your body odor anywhere! Get $5 off of your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code: "I Do" at lumedeodorant.com #lumepod Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
445: Money, Happiness And Meaning
20-02-2024
445: Money, Happiness And Meaning
We need money to move through the world, but more money doesn't necessarily mean more happiness. Navigating our relationship with money is an important part of life and relationships. We've covered understanding our money personalities in several past shows. Through his own experiences and many interesting conversations, Paul shares what money means to different people and what we can learn from their stories.  In this episode with Paul Ollinger we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How chaos in your life can lead to chaos in your relationships How to find your source of purpose Redefining how you measure success How to chase your dreams even if it seems impossible Debunking the myth that you'll find happiness with just a little more money And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. HoneyLove is the shapewear you need to feel comfortable feeling your best. Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to honeylove.com/IDO! #honeylovepod Pjur is a leading manufacturer of high-quality personal lubricants and intimate wellness products. Pjur is offering our listeners 5% off your order with our code, "IDO"! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
444: Dealing With Negative Thoughts
14-02-2024
444: Dealing With Negative Thoughts
Do you ever get caught in a negative thought pattern that you just can't seem to break? Maybe you often find yourself turning an ant hill into a mountain? Negative thoughts can take over our lives and make us feel frustrated, sad and overwhelmed. Listen to today's show to learn how to combat negative thoughts with specific tools and tips that will help you right away! In this episode with Amy Morin we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding that just because we think something, doesn't mean it's true Why we tend to exaggerate things from the past How to deal with anxiety around dating and your relationship Positive affirmations as a tool to use in your relationship How to reframe negative thoughts with compassion How to process negative thoughts ourselves and not bring them into our relationship And much more! Sponsors Lume Deodorant helps you control your body odor anywhere! Get $5 off of your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code: "I Do" at lumedeodorant.com #lumepod Pjur is a leading manufacturer of high-quality personal lubricants and intimate wellness products. Pjur is offering our listeners 5% off your order with our code, "IDO"! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
443: Healing Your Negative Attachment Patterns
13-02-2024
443: Healing Your Negative Attachment Patterns
Attachment theory is a valuable lense to examine ourselves and our relationships. Understanding how most of us will fall into common negative attachment patterns can help you heal and thrive in your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn more about attachment theory, breaking negative patterns and much more! In this episode with Jessica Baum we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to negotiate comfort between closeness and space in your relationship What attachment patterns are and how they are formed How our partner's can help us co-regulate our nervous system Navigating your partner's capacity for growth The anxious/avoidant negative cycle and how to break it And much more! Sponsors Foria is an innovative health and sexual wellness company that designs all-natural sexual intimacy products for women, people with vulvas, and the people who love them. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/ido. Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
441: Sex Education And Tips For Open Communication
24-01-2024
441: Sex Education And Tips For Open Communication
Unfortunately, many of us received little to no sex education as young adults. We bring this lack of knowledge into our adult relationships and often live sex lives that suffer from this. The good news is that it's never too late to learn! Listen to today's show to get educated about sex, communication and much more! In this episode with Danielle Bezalel we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Where to start when thinking about your sexual education Porn's effect on our sex education Shame, guilt and questions around masturbation, porn and sex toys How to educate your kids about sex and porn Tips for communicating about sex with your partner The magical, magic wand experiment that Danielle completed And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Foria is an innovative health and sexual wellness company that designs all-natural sexual intimacy products for women, people with vulvas, and the people who love them. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
439: Healing Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
10-01-2024
439: Healing Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
Many of us learn unhealthy relationship patterns and have trouble understanding and breaking them. What if we could teach our children to not create these patterns and learn how to break them for ourselves through a children's book? Listen to today's show to hear how a licensed therapist has written a children's book to help adults and children heal.  In this episode with Daniel McMillan we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the pursue, withdraw, relationship pattern and why it does not serve us How to navigate the fear of disconnection when your partner withdraws How to communicate when you're anxious and you feel you want to pursue your partner Navigating our fear of abandonment by yourself and with your partner How to teach your kids about unhealthy relationship patterns Understanding that it's OK to not be able to solve all of your problems And much more! Sponsors Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
438: Loving Yourself Into Deeper And More Meaningful Connections
03-01-2024
438: Loving Yourself Into Deeper And More Meaningful Connections
We all want to have better relationships but we don't always have the tools to get there. Surprisingly, much of the work of having better connections starts from the relationship with ourselves. Listen to today's show to learn how to deepen your connection with yourself and others.  In this episode with Andy Chaleff we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Tools to open up to all kinds of relationships for deeper connections The magic hack of saying the thing that you're struggling with the most and how it will help you create more self love How to deal with difficult people in your life and apologize even when you don't want to Healing by addressing your inner child who may feel like they are never enough Daily mantras that will instantly help you feel better about yourself And much more! Sponsors Factor will make your life easy with their great line of ready meals, no more: grocery shopping, cooking or cleaning! Head to FactorMeals.com/ido50 and use code IDO50 to get 50% off. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
436: How To Become A Better Lover And Know What You Want In Bed
20-12-2023
436: How To Become A Better Lover And Know What You Want In Bed
Most of us have had a poor introduction to sex with all of the shame and misinformation we take in through culture and early education. Unpacking these things as adults can help us be more in touch with our sexuality and improve our sex lives. Listen to today's show to learn how to become a better lover and have more satisfying sexual experiences.  In this episode with Amy and April we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The number one tool that will help you start becoming a better lover immediately How showing up with curiosity will improve your sex life How to have difficult sex conversations and not create shame around sexuality Mutual masturbation practices that will help you connect more deeply with yourself and your partner The importance of making sex, and your life, more playful Sex life check ins with your partner to skyrocket your sex life And much more! Sponsors Factor will make your life easy with their great line of ready meals, no more: grocery shopping, cooking or cleaning! Head to FactorMeals.com/ido50 and use code IDO50 to get 50% off. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices