I Totally Relate!

Welcome to season 4, bitches! It's been a long time, and a lot has changed in the interim. This episode we sit down just the two of us to give you an update on what is going on. We have been busy getting our ducks in a row so we could be where we needed to be in order to share this next chapter of our journeys with you. Carissa is officially divorced, and we talk custody schedule and real heavy mom feelings. We talk about how she ended up where she found herself, and how she has learned to help herself. Shelby gives us a quick update on what she has been up to, and we talk about consistency, especially when it comes to meditation and self care routines. You know we can't talk about meditation without sharing our favorite resource Headspace. We had our first fight, and dish about the deets and insight as we navigate new heights of our relationship. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Disclaimer: We had an audio malfunction during the recording of this episode. The thing about it, is that this conversation is so important and beautiful, we had to release it, regardless. If you can bear with us through this learning experience, we think you will really appreciate the authenticity in this conversation. Carissa opens up the episode with some raw truth about where she is in her experience. We both talk through wishing we had a good syllabus to use in this time of uncertainty in this growing experience. Shelby opens up about her experience within her family dynamics. We both talk through where we would say we are on the map. We share some of our hopes and clarify what we are doing in these conversations. We are not claiming expert, we are just sharing what the messy middle looks like. We are just offering the learnings we collect as we try to do our best and live a life aligned. We promise to bring vulnerability and honesty. Whether we are discussing big heavy topics like previously mentioned or other topics such as toxic positivity or being boy crazy. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This week we sat down with Terin, a friend of the pod and Rissy's bestie. We sat down to record a conversation about friendships in hard times. The conversation starts with how Rissy met Terin and Ani. We walk through where we were and and where we are now. Terin and Rissy got divorced within a few months of each other, so the similiarities of their emotional and physical situations is totally relatable! We discuss the importance of friendships, how we have been there for each other, we definitely dish about the dating scene, and we share some insight on how to cultivate relationships like this. It's a beautiful gift. Trust us, you want this too!We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Listen up folks, come for a conversation about morning routines, stay for a conversation about neuroscience and shame. We were asked by a listener about our morning routines and we are stoked to share because both of us feel like a consistent morning routine that intentionally connects you to yourself and your body was one of the most impactful tools that is part of our own healing journeys. In this conversation both Shelby and Carissa talk through how to structure a routine, the important elements, and the effect that it has had. We share ideas of what has been helpful and encourage you to create your own if you don't already have one. We also touch on the importance of rest, breath work, and self talk. You'll hear us reference Headspace the meditation app and a super rad and impactful book by Louise Hay called You Can Heal Your Life. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

In this episode we discuss our recent out of town trips. Rissy went to Vegas, Shelbs went to LA. We catch up and Rissy shares the deets about an old relationship and the vacation that was very helpful in understanding her emotional responses to situation. We discuss love bombing, dating, as well as some pretty vulnerable details. We also quickly talk about finding balance and ebbs and flows. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This episode is a conversation between Shelby and Rissy. We discuss coping strategies or our drug of choice. We walk through an identity crisis, and the patterns and cycles we observe in our current lives. Most of it revolves around romanticizing our lives and keeping commitments to ourselves. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

In this episode, Shelby spills the tea on her recent Kambo experience. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

We're Baaaaaack!Welcome back to "I Totally Relate!" We are so thrilled for this episode! We've taken a short break from releasing episodes to get the que loaded up for you, oh yeah, and we've been working on something so exciting that we are ready to share with you. That's right, Season 3 Episode 1 has a very exciting announcement. Hang on, we also re-vamped Patreon, and we would love for you to join us there. We have 3 tiers with super cool and exclusive content based on your budget and what resources you would like to for us to share with you. Tier 1 or what we like to call "You got this, girl!" is $5 a month. This helps a lot with general support for us to continue this project, and we also send you a random freebie every month. Next we have the "Therapy Babe" tier at $10 a month, and this gives you access to a monthly bonus episode, you can "Meditate with I Totally Relate", you get a 20% Discount on all ITR merch and event tickets, along with the random freebie. Our last tier is the "She Abundant" for $20 a month you get everything from the first two tiers, plus...A MONTHLY PLANNER mailed right to you! We have been working so hard on this incredible tool. It's more than a planner really, sprinkled in the pages of your weekly overviews are intentional journal prompts, thought provoking activities, and full moon exercises. We would love to share this with you, so head over to Patreon and start getting this exclusive content. We spend some time discussing how previous seasons have been healing for our past selves. This season is really building on the current version of who we are. We also spend some time sharing what you can expect from us this season. We are so excited to be back in your feed with weekly episodes. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

It's been a while since we have shared parts of our journey with you. Now that season three has kicked off, we just want to take an episode and catch up with you. We kick it off by sharing how we celebrated the holidays, each of us starting new traditions this year. We chat about how the pandemic has made some big, lasting changes in our little families. Carissa share's some big news by opening up about her relationship this past year, and where she sees it going from here. Shelby shares some of her big goals for this coming year. We talk about books, word of the year, and we share some of our currently loving answers. Check out our currently loving music playlists here. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

We want to start this episode off with an invitation to join us in this conversation with curiosity and self compassion. Our topic today can evoke a lot of shame and self criticism. We feel like talking through this together can help make the biggest impact for our personal experiences and as a collective. This episode is a lot about Gossip. This topic impacts women, specifically, and is a tool that separates us from each other as advocates for one another. Carissa shares a personal, and difficult experience. Looking at this situation can help us fully understand the detriment and pain that occurs from this behavior, as well as the long lasting consequences. The Anatomy of Peace is a great book that was very helpful to help both of us make a sustainable behavioral change. We discuss the importance of discernment, the chance we have to make these connecting moments rather than isolating ones, the contrast between our feminine conversations now, and the most helpful tool that made a big difference for us. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This episode is an interview between Shelby, Carissa, and Kathleen a.k.a. Kat. Kat is a yoga instructor, as well as an earth medicine practitioner, and she hosts lunar events at The Yoga Underground. We encourage you to follow her on instagram, and you can learn more about what she does at moonmedicine.earth. If you like what you hear on the pod today, join her for a lunar event here. Kat has an incredible ability to show the connection between breath and moon cycles. She walks us through the phases and importance of each moon, the inhale and exhale, and how we can utilize these symbols and moments to bring intentionality and awareness into our lives. We discuss rituals and the importance of them, along with self reflection and the pain and discomfort that can bring. Kat has a gentle way of walking us through those hard moments and how we can use them for the betterment of our experiences. We discuss the menstrual cycles, time keeping, and the sacred connection between all women. The conversation touches on Masculinity and Femininity, Patriarchal and Matriarchal, and the importance of these working together. We are, each of us, a dance of duality in motion. We are in our feels in this conversation. Taking this time to discuss these larger and more fluid ideas can help all of us feel more enlightened and connected. We hope you enjoy taking this time in conversation with us. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Welcome back to another episode of "I Totally Relate". This recording is an interview with Michael Weiss. He is an entrepreneur who has two businesses to help serve this community. He has 10 years in Drug and Substance Abuse Rehabilitation facilities. He opened his own business "Michael Weiss Mentoring" to help deepen the work to close the gap in treatment facilities. He also runs "Ketamine ISS" to help coach and support those who are utilizing ketamine as a healing tool. Michael walks us through the different narratives we have in this country about drugs. By continuing to ignore what we have learned about drugs and addiction, we are furthering the problem by making it a moral failing. Really, addiction is an attempt to solve another problem. He knows this first hand because he experienced a Heroin addiction for several years. With the introduction of alcohol from a friend's parents house, and hard drugs from the understanding he received in D.A.R.E., Michael experienced a lot of hard drug use until the early 2000's when he was introduced to Oxycontin during the opiodemic. That was the warm blanket of security he was looking for until it uprooted his lift. Michael shares very insightful wisdom about how he got there and how he found recovery and healing through his first hand experience. He gives us great journal prompts to personally reflect. We talk about anger, relationships, trauma, psychedelics, feeling our emotions, society's approach, and inner child work. Michael shares a great gift with us by offering his learnings to us. This is an very impactful conversation. If you enjoy this conversation and would like to get in touch with Michael, you can find him on instagram or on his website Michael Weiss Mentoring or Ketamine ISS or just give him a call at 385-743-9007.We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This episode is an interview with Daulton, Shelby, and Carissa. Daulton is a licensed CPA. She has professional experience with taxes, as an accountant for mostly wealthy individuals, and accounting for large corporations. She is here to help us get a more clear picture of money, credit, and the relationship we have with money. Daulton does us all a great favor. Consider this episode a Credit 101. Shelby shares a frustrating financial experience, and Daulton walks us through what to do if/when we find ourselves in a similar situation. We talk about debt, credit, loans, interest and principle, collections, 401k's and IRA's, and budgets. Talking money can be very uncomfortable and bring up feelings of overwhelm or fear. Daulton helps us look at this from the same perspective that we are using to heal and grow ourselves to our highest version. She reminds us throughout this conversation to advocate for ourselves. This includes asking the questions we need to in difficult conversations, and knowing our self. We can create the life we desire when it comes to money when we know ourselves and plan for taking care of ourselves today and our future selves.Daulton has our backs! She shares all the good resources and ideas. Do yourself a favor and check out this app for budgeting, this app for checking your credit, and this document to help you make better decisions about the payments you are making. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.comDaulton is ABSOLUTELY a friend of the pod. She has been a guest on our podcast before. You can listen to her in episode 40 and episode 48 and we have a feeling she'll join us again behind the mics. It was a real treat spending time with her in her element. Thank you for listening.

It's April and tax season, and we are rolling ahead with our conversations about money and abundance. We are pumped for you to check out this interview with Michelle Bray, the Purposeful Money Mom. Michelle is a financial educator, she coaches clients on how to create and utilize a budget, she teaches financial principles, and she leads courses to help share the knowledge and resources to help her clients achieve financial security and success. Michelle leads us through how she got to where she is today, where she was when she felt stuck and longed for a different financial situation, and some of the lessons she took from her childhood. She shares definitions and basic principles with us. For instance, she lays out the offense, defense, and playing field of money. Michelle gives us quick history lessons, and expresses the importance of loving yourself and being confident with who you are. Michelle offers a lot of value to her clients, and if you are interested in learning more about her and her work, you should definitely follow her on the 'gram. She also discusses the program Financial Fitness. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Season three has been all about exploring "Who is She?" meaning you! We have poured time into conversations discussing self discovery, we have been intentional with the activities and layout of our planner all leading you closer to yourself. This episode fits snug with this theme. We spent some time behind the mics with Teen Mental Health Coach Missy Allred. Missy spends time one on one with teens who are struggling with anxiety and depression. She works with parents to help define goals, and change the way we "think and feel" about our life circumstances, as a parent and a teen. These are crucial years of self discovery, identity, and these years have a major impact of the rest of our lives. Dipping into "Who is she" as a teenager is crucial and game changing. Missy shares her experience with anxiety and depression as a teen, what helped save her life, and how she is working to give back to the community in need. She shares "The Model" as described by Jody Moore: Circumstance - Thought - Feeling - Action - Result. She walks us through examples of how this impacts us when we aren't aware of it, and how we can change the results we are getting by bringing awareness to our inner thoughts and patterns. We talk about brain development, and how parents can use this understanding to create better connections with their children, and use compassion to help teach them better decision making skills. If you are a parent, you'll love this episode, as we go into the dynamics at play between parents and teens. We discuss the impact of social media on teens mental health, healing generational trauma, and how to help our children and each other navigate a life that will inevitably have pain. To connect with Missy give her a follow on the 'gram. If you are interested in the Women's Networking group we are a part of, check out Elevate. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This episode is an interview with the Thrifting Queen, Angelique of lique'd. We kick it off by sharing how we met and the significance of the item that exchanged hands between Angelique and Carissa. Angelique is an entrepreneur, she upcycles clothing, makes sick drips, teaches others how to do the process, and hosts incredible GNO events on her sick bus. She takes us back to where her story really gets complicated and nuanced. As a young, married, 20 year old Mormon girl she felt like she was doing what she was "supposed" to be doing according her upbringing and religion. Yet, she was feeling worthless, lost, and suffering from a chronic pain that was misdiagnosed. She began to numb with alcohol, as she really wrestled with her worth as a woman, mother, and human being. She was leading a life for other people, and once she received the correct diagnosis, she started healing in one way and feeding addiction in another. This conversation touches on addiction, religion, faith transitions, recovery, healing, and living a life as one's authentic self. Angelique is very inspirational and encouraging in this conversation, and we know you're going to love her just as much as we do. If you are interested in hearing more from Angelique about living in alignment, sobriety, and authenticity, you can find her at @iconically_angelique We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This is an interview with Pualei, the owner of EdynKei in Pleasant Grove. Pualei is an incredible entrepreneur who runs a clothing boutique, facilitates personal styling appointments, hosts local pop-up shops with "Inspiher", facilitates a local women's networking group called "Elevate", and is an overall supporter of female owned businesses. This woman is busy, and on a mission to make this world a better place and it was honor that she took time with us. Pualei shares a little bit about the heartbreak and challenges that she faced as she started her own business here in Pleasant Grove, as well as her purpose and where she is headed in this chapter of her life. The day before the grand opening of her boutique, it became apparent to her that her marriage was over. As she watched a part of her life fall into shambles, she was also building her future and creating the foundation for the life that she desired. She shares how she navigated the difficulties of that first year, and how she discovered "thought work". Her sister in law shared an episode of the podcast "Better than Happy" and Pualei began learning about the neuroplasticity of the brain, and the CTFAR model on how approach challenges in life. Circumstance, Thought, Feeling, Action, and Result helped her to improve her mental health and her relationships, most importantly... the relationship with herself. We also spend some time on what it means to have confidence, how to lean into your personal strengths, how important it is to do your personal self care, and the power of feeling beautiful. Pualei shares monday magic each week on her instagram, and all the info you need to be a part of the events she is hosting. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This episode is an interview with Delee Cox, the stylist next door. She has a passion for slow fashion. She helps women with their wardrobe, to dress how they like, to dress for themselves, and to be more conscientious about what they bring into their closets. We jump right into definitions and background information. Slow fashion is a mindset shift. It’s about being aware and intentional on where our clothes come from and where they go when we discard them. Delee drops some mind blowing facts on us about fast fashion and the energy we are working with when we consume clothes and products in this way. To be more intentional, the best place to start is right where you are. Delee will help you shop your closet. Some of the ways she helps you curate the look you are going for is by identifying what you are currently wearing, what you LIKE to wear, what is your lifestyle, make a need to style pile, and make a shopping list. She talks to us about how shopping with a list makes a big difference, because you know what you are looking for rather than being sold to. Your personal style really impacts so many facets of your life. We talk about weight fluctuations, our tendency to focus on what we don’t like about ourselves, our desire to fit in and how we can make our clothes fit us, shopping second hand, as well as shopping with our values. Delee knows her stuff. It was so fun and impactful having a conversation with her. If you would like to connect with Delee (we don’t blame you!) you can get in touch with her through her website: thestylistnextdoor.net or check her out on the ‘gram! @thestylistnextdoor_utWe create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Welcome back to another episode of I totally relate, this is an interview with Shannon Ricks of Modern Eve. Shannon is an LMFT who focuses on eating disorders and faith transitions.Ever since she was a young girl, Shannon knew she wanted to be a therapist. So after receiving her degree she gained experience working in a lot of different facilities, including with troubled teens and young adults. She needed more clinical hours after grad school and that’s when she began working at the Center for Change. She fell in love with the clientele and ever since has been helping people with eating disorders and body image work.In junior high Shannon realized the difference between her experience and her peers. She has found that it builds and instills confidence to not get appearance based compliments, and to not build your worth around your appearance.Shannon does a fantastic job with helping us understand specific terms and meanings, as well as helping us notice power dynamics at play and power structures. We discuss diet culture and tactics that keep women small within the power structure of the patriarchy, we talk about the messaging in the past that attracted women into the workforce and the messaging that pushed them back into “cute housewives”. We also dig into scarcity mindset and the competition between women.Not only does Shannon do a fantastic job of helping us understand eating disorders empower structures, she also gives us some powerful tools to help walk us back from body hate to body gratitude. In this conversation we also share grief by talking through the love for our body that we miss out on because we experienced so much body discussed.Shannon references the book “The beauty Myth” by Margo Maines. If you’d like to hear more from Shannon, follow her @Modern.Eve or contact her at ModernEve.orgWe create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

We are excited to share our interview with Vanessa with you. Vanessa is a Health Coach and a Dietician, and she helps women heal their relationship with food. After spending some time living in Korea, her curiosity was peaked around food and eating habits, as she was able to identify a big gap in experiencing the two cultures, Korean and American. When she arrived back in America she went to school to become a dietician, and she is currently helping women who feel stuck. More than just diet, Vanessa helps others work through limiting beliefs and change their mindset that blocks from eating and enjoying nutritious meals. In this conversation we talk about the morality of food. One of the most apparent things we do is label food good or bad, and then make judgements on our meals, our decisions, and our bodies. Vanessa works towards helping others reframe their goals away from weight loss and prioritize energy levels instead. We spend some time in this conversation discussing how much we are fixated on the outward appearance and we miss the opportunity to focus on our own experience. If you would like to connect with Vanessa give her a follow on the 'gram or find her online!We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com