Moving on… 6 steps to getting over a failed relationship so that we AVOID making the same mistakes again and again and again with The Relationship Guy John Kenny
When our relationship fails it can be overwhelming. Where do we start? We may want to get on the first dating app we can find and start connecting with people. Are there any benefits of hitting the pause button at this point and taking stock before jumping in?
Today we’re going to be looking at the steps we need to take to ensure that we don’t get caught in a cycle of making the same mistakes, with a similar looking pattern that we’ve been running for a while?
We’re joined by John Kenny who is The Relationship Guy. He helps clients to create healthy loving relationships… John Kenny is a Relationship Coach to People Who Want to Attract or Create Healthy Loving Relationships. Author of The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, Speaker, Documentary Maker and host of The Relationship Guy Podcast. He has been involved in the field of personal development for over fifteen years and in that time has not only helped thousands of clients, but has also completely changed his own life.
We are going to be exploring:
- The benefits of not knee-jerking back into a relationship, but taking our time to reassess before jumping back in to assess what was really going on
- How we can find relationships to enable us to relive our existing patterns, even when we know that they may not be a good fit
- The difference between counselling and coaching, and how they can support us make sense of our relationship journey
- The importance of prioritising the things that we ourselves enjoy, even in the midst of our relationship to ensure that we stay in a good emotional place
- The importance of acknowledging and processing our feelings rather than pushing them away, and the impact on future relationships when we do no… but without languishing and becoming the victim
- The importance of becoming aware of our self-talk and how it could be affecting us negatively
- The need to avoid beating ourselves up, but to see how we might have contributed the way things broke down in the past
- How to avoid the comparison trap where we judge ourselves against the outcomes that others are experiencing, falling into self-criticism
- How to get clear on what our boundaries or red flags might be, so that we’re clear next time!
- How to ensure boundaries are working and identifying gaslighting, versus situations where we simply have a different point of view
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