Lockdown Dads

James Millar & Ian Dinwiddy

James Millar and Ian Dinwiddy are recording a weekly ‘show’ exploring the impact of lockdown, self isolation and social distancing on working dads. We’ll share tips, thoughts and stories with special guests, discuss our hopes for the future and the opportunities that all this represents, especially for dads who want to be more active and involved fathers but who until now have struggled with the expectations of what it means to be a man in the workplace.:https://www.inspiringdads.co.uk/lockdown-dads read less
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Will McDonald - The Job Share Dad
13-07-2021
Will McDonald - The Job Share Dad
Our final guest on Lockdown Dads is Will McDonald, Group Sustainability and Public Policy Director at Aviva plc aka "The Job Share Dad."As one half of the most senior male job share in the UK, Will is a bit of a hero in the dad space, shining a light on the rare world of job sharing (especially when it comes to men)We learn about Will's path at Aviva and how a conversation about wanting to explore a job share became a work "marriage" to Sam that has lasted 4 years already.We discover the principles of job share.You don't have to like your job share, but you do have to trust them. Sharing an email address or not?When in charge, take charge.You can only u-turn on your own decision.And how to set up a job shareHaving imagination.The vital role of line manager support. Create confidence with a business plan.Talking to other job sharers6 month escape clauseWith his dad hat on (5 years as chair of trustees at the Fatherhood Institute), Will talks about Aviva and their flagship work equalising parental leave, removing the financial and cultural stigma of dad taking extended leave and the some of the benefits of supporting dads.Couples are less likely to divorce.Children are happier.Dads less likely to have issues with alcohol.Mums are likely to earn more.TIPSHow to grow carrots effectively (!)Imagination - start with a blank sheet of paper and be imaginative.Notepad next to your bed.The Fatherhood Institute report Lockdown Dads: The Untold Storyhttp://www.fatherhoodinstitute.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Lockdown-Fathers-Executive-Summary.pdfMcKinsey - Paternity Leave benefitshttps://www.mckinsey.com/business-functions/organization/our-insights/a-fresh-look-at-paternity-leave-why-the-benefits-extend-beyond-the-personal
Olga Fitzroy - Self Employed Parent Campaigner
01-07-2021
Olga Fitzroy - Self Employed Parent Campaigner
Olga Fitzroy, award winning sound engineer and parental pay equality campaigner joins us to discuss inequalities faced by the self employed. We discover her role in Pregnant Then Screwed's legal challenge against the government  and discuss the legislative environment around self employment and shared parental leave.Plus school is out again, with education disruption only just starting to be discussed in government. Ian's garden gets short listed for a prize and we briefly ponder the upcoming England v Scotland Euro clash (!)Olga's pathWhen her son was born in 2015, she was a self employed sound engineer and looked into the new policy of Shared Parental Leave, only to discover that the self employed aren't allowed to take itQ, Did you know that self employed men have no paid paternity leave rights?What started as mission to send a few emails - which would quickly lead to a realisation that the policy needed to fixed... became an ongoing campaign involving the Musician's Union, former and current MPs, Shadow Ministers and a presence in both the Labour and Lib Dem manifestos.Despite Theresa May commissioning a review of parental leave with the Department for Business, Energy & Industrial Strategy (BEIS), Brexit and Covid focus has stalled progress, though Olga explains there are a number of key allies on the government benchesWe discuss the benefits of Shared Parental Leave Mums being able to take less time off, dads get to take more time off, closing the gender pay gap, reducing the motherhood penalty and how a mother's income increases for every month that a father spent at home. McKinsey evidence that mothers’ incomes rose about 7 percent for each month that a father spent at home on paternity leave. SPL is good for children and for role modelling for young kids, for redressing the Covid impact and creating a gender equal recovery....and the challenges in achieving policy changeA lack of genuine experience of self employment in government and civil service, plus a lack of bandwidth, so it's hard to get access.We talk about the plight of day care v a government focus on 'Winkie' Infrastructure Pregnant then Screwed. Olga sits on the campaign and policy board, leading on the sex discrimination case against the government as to how the Self-Employment Income Support Scheme (SEISS) is calculated - with periods of maternity leave not being exempted from the self-employed grant calculations. We learn that PTS have been given leave to appeal the original decision in favour of the government.TipsPeriod  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Period-Natalie-Byrne/dp/1999894111Delayed gratificationSelf employed can still get 30 hours free childcare if their income has dropped as a result of Covid Linkshttp://www.parentalpayequality.org.uk/https://pregnantthenscrewed.com/https://www.workingdads.co.uk/role-modelling-working-dads/https://pregnantthenscrewed.com/were-threatening-legal-action-against-the-chancellor-for-indirect-sex-discrimination/https://www.gov.uk/30-hours-free-childcare
Simon Gregory - Talking About Dad Returners
16-06-2021
Simon Gregory - Talking About Dad Returners
Simon Gregory, Managing Partner of GPS Return joins us to talk about parental return to work and we explore the differing challenges faced by men and women.We discuss how societal expectations influence the opportunities to return to work and later access flexible working and how Simon's business supports and coaches individuals and businesses to find the right person or right opportunity for now.James explains why T.W.A.T working is the next big trend while Simon talks about his 288 mile 24 hour cycle from Harrogate to Southampton raising money for Macmillan in memory of his auntie Ruth - the BBC's Reverend Ruth Scott. Simon's 'path' includes a heavy focus on relationship management in overseas markets, before his wife's experience of struggling to get back into work because she has "just been a mum for 4 years" lead to the creation of GPS Return.Simon explains how he works with businesses to understand what they think they need v what they actually need. Exploring assumptions and possibilities about hours, location and flexibility to get the best people for the roles.We discuss the different challenges that dads face returning to the workplace, including how men are treated less favourably than women and the societal issues that creates and how if dads are as likely to take time out for childcare businesses become more likely to employ female returners.TIPSDAD - Untold Stories from Music. Football. Fatherhood.  Ordinary dads telling ordinary stories, but in an extraordinary collection.Don't forget about you, make time for yourself.Moral maze - "Does your husband play?" homophobic or sexist? and how to challenge?LEARN MOREhttps://www.gpsreturn.co.uk/https://www.workingdads.co.uk/author/simon-gregory/https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/ruthscott24
Dr Jeremy Davies - The Fatherhood Institute's Untold Story
01-06-2021
Dr Jeremy Davies - The Fatherhood Institute's Untold Story
To mark the publication of the Fatherhood Institute's new report "Lockdown Dads - the Untold Story",  we sat down with Dr Jeremy Davies, Head of Communications, to discuss fatherhood, the opportunities presented by the pandemic and what exactly is "the untold story" After we covered dodgy backs, out for beers and Moroccan pandemic experiences, we learnt about Jeremy's path. Journalist, becoming a father in 1999, a PhD and joining Father's Direct, the organisation that later became the Fatherhood Institute with the benefits of living the values of flexible working and active and involved fatherhood. What is the Untold Story?Dads back in the home on a scale unseen since the industrial revolution.Dads have done more unpaid childcare and domestic labour than ever before. In many families the care gap has narrowed.Dads attitudes towards caring responsibilities have changed.Dads have seen the mental health benefits of their presence. The world has got much more comfortable with flexible and remote work.Despite the challenges Dads want more flexible and remote working The media focusThe pandemic story in the mass media has been focused on doom and gloom around motherhood, mums facing the brunt of the home-school challenge, being made redundant and furloughed in greater numbers than dads.Gender inequalities have always been there, but lockdowns shone a light on it.Stories about the impact on dads being tagged on at the end or not at all.The Future? #Timewithdad call to arms. Building on the best bits of dad's engagement at home.Flex has been around for ages, but traditionally seen as being for women with caring responsibilities.Dads are new voices for change.Dads have the power to change things as James' tweet illustrateshttps://twitter.com/PoliticalYeti/status/1395382322355134470?s=20Plus we talked about the challengesHow can we keep more men flexible?Dads with relatively long commutes means even more benefits from working from home.How schools communicate with dads.Dads being more involved can create a challenge for mum's identity and how things are 'done'.In our regular tips section...Dads role modelling equality at home for their daughters.Switch phone off when we are with kids.Do the boring stuff as well as the exciting. Sometimes those are the magic moments.Lockdown Dads: The Untold Storyhttp://www.fatherhoodinstitute.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Lockdown-Fathers-Executive-Summary.pdfhttp://www.fatherhoodinstitute.org/2021/contemporary-fathers-in-the-uk/
Ethan Salathiel - Normalising Different Pathways to Fatherhood.
17-05-2021
Ethan Salathiel - Normalising Different Pathways to Fatherhood.
Coach, consultant and 'living system', we talk to Ethan about his journey from googling 'male trapped in female body' to father of two, including a lockdown baby.We discuss the power of flexible working as an enabler for Ethan to be the person and the dad he wanted to be and how a throw away comment about a new kitten - 'Look! Two mummies' was the catalyst for the addressing the fundamental identity crisis his life and ultimately lead to visiting the Alternative Parenting Show.We cover the role of allies, the things Ethan has learnt from reciprocal coaching with BAME coachees and how talking empowers others to share their story and creates ripples of understanding. In an unusual tangent, we stumble across the story that Ethan parents are head and deputy head at the school he went to and where also his daughter has been at nursery. Definitely a family affair!We chat about the importance of listening to lived experience, intersectionality and asking people what they need, especially with 2021 and the return to the work place.Plus make sure you listen properly to your children to avoid the sombre school lesson of  'soldiers and poppies' becoming a somewhat more upbeat tale of (heads,) 'shoulders and puppies'  And we talk vaccinations, Friday night (hockey) action in Bromley and the joy of planning to do things.Tips includeLittle steps - the email signatureLeave your phones outside the bedroomJournaling for kidshttps://boundcoaching.co.uk/https://twitter.com/ethansalathielhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ethan-salathiel-he-him-his-b7043238/
Rhian Mannings MBE - 2 Wish Upon A Star
23-03-2021
Rhian Mannings MBE - 2 Wish Upon A Star
In 2012 Rhian Mannings’ life suddenly and tragically changed when first her young son George died, followed 5 days later by her husband Paul.In this important and uplifting conversation, we explore how support was missing for bereaved parents like Rhian and Paul and how, what she imagined would be “hobby”, turned into a nationwide charity called 2 Wish Upon A Star providing immediate and ongoing bereavement support for families, individuals and professionals affected by the sudden and traumatic death of a child or young adult aged 25 or under.We learn about the importance of the elephant in the bereavement box (and in the room) and discuss “masculinities” and how they have an impact on how and when men seek out the help they need.Plus we scatter some celebrity stardust from the likes of Sam Warburton, Will Champion, Nick Knowles and Michael Sheen.Contents01:00 Spring, getting out the house in Wales, rugby and the importance of sport03:10 Why The Great Escape is analogy for how James feels05:40 Rhian’s path to founding 2 Wish Upon a Star. Losing George and Paul.“Over the next few days, what was clear, very quickly, was that there was no support available to us as a family. We were very much abandoned by the system really. Luckily we had amazing family and friends around us, we were lucky in that respect.”07:00 Starting the charity - I just needed something to keep me going.08:30 Lacking support, Paul blamed himself.“We got a piece of paper with some phone numbers on, some of them were out of order and I'm still waiting for the rest of them to contact me today.”09:40 Going into A&E departments and asking for the person in charge“And I said, what will happen today? If a child died suddenly? And the same thing that happened to us would have happened to them.”11:00 Finding the strength to tell her story12:30 Ian talks about his friendship with Paul and the first time he met Rhian14:15 Reflecting on bereavement and how different families have coped with lockdown15:00 Keeping 2 Wish Upon A Star going during lockdown16:40 The elephant in the room - memory boxes and remembering“When George died, I'll never forget the nurses just panicked because they couldn't find anything to perhaps take some fingerprints or hand prints or some, some of his curls.”19:00 Paul felt like he’d failed everyone21:00 Multiple masculinities and the pressure men can feel23:00 Supporting dads - the importance of sport in the charity’s work.24:30 The Welsh rugby team - role models for mental health26:00 Celebrity Ambassadors - Will Champion and Nick Knowles27:00 Super actor Michael Sheen unveiled as new ambassador!  TipsPhotograph your kids asleep (!) Recognise when you nee to plug your battery in Understand that reaching out the help is not a sign of weakness, it is often a sign of strength.———————————-Connect Or Contact With Rhian And Her Charityhttps://twitter.com/2wishuponhttps://www.2wishuponastar.org/Learn about the OECD report - “Man Enough”
Brian Ballantyne - Why Men and Inclusion Matters
15-03-2021
Brian Ballantyne - Why Men and Inclusion Matters
Brian Ballantyne, Co-Founder of Men for Inclusion, author of “Confessions of a Working Dad” and one time Babycenter moderator joins James and Ian in Episode 37 of Lockdown Dads.It’s an open and honest discussion in which we discuss what it means to be good ally, how Brian’s own family were a prompt to volunteer in diversity and inclusion voluntary work and why men must be involved if we aren’t just creating inclusion echo chambers.Plus “Centrist Dads”, Burnout and recharging batteries and how to argue well.Contents01:00 A tough week for Brian - lessons in boundaries, batteries and burnout04:30 Balancing family and personal priorities06:00 Ian has been shooting video content + 07:00 Social media and men’s attitudes to women’s personal safety08:00 Ian forgets about James09:30 James reflects on a bad week for gender equality11:30 Being a Babycenter moderator12:45 Dad culture - the time when Brian’s CEO stalked him on Foursquare14:30 Family influence on diversity and inclusion work.15:10 Women in Technology echo chambers 17:00 How Male Allies for Gender Equality became Men for Inclusion19:45 We discuss what allyship meansTips23:10James has been reading  Conflicted: Why Arguments Are Tearing Us Apart and How They Can Bring Us TogetherQ. What is a Centrist Dad”Ian recommends previous guest, Rachel Vecht’s quick video on how to extract information from your school age children!Brian talks about cherishing the small moments————————————-Connect With Brianhttps://www.linkedin.com/company/menforinclusion/https://www.e2w.co/men-for-inclusionhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/brian-ballantyne-336754/
Nicki Seignot - Author, Coach and Working Parent
08-03-2021
Nicki Seignot - Author, Coach and Working Parent
Nicki Seignot, Author of 'Mentoring New Parents at Work' and founder of The Parent Mentor talks to James and Ian in episode 36 of Lockdown Dads.We discuss why supporting new dads matters, the role single dad Phil played to broadening Nicki’s horizons, beyond just supporting the maternity journey and what the post pandemic work landscape could look like.Plus the usual podcast musings about schools going back, sunshine (!) and looking forward to better future.Contents00:50 The power of daylight in the mornings 02:15 Schools going back02:45 Competitive world book day04:00 Ian is looking forward to not apologising…05:30 Christmas presents (!) and Covid07:10 Nicki’s path- Taking maternity leave in the late 1990s. Hard choices and work just not working for mumsMum2Mum mentoring programme at AsdaThe important role of single dad, PhilThat 2011 program became The Parent Mentor businessHer book - Mentoring New Parents at Work and a realisation that dads weren’t part of the conversation.“I mean, it sounds obvious talking to you too now, but you know, it was quite revelation at the time.”13:45 A pivotal moment using a mountain top image as part of icebreaker cards“He held the card up and he says this was me. And I used to go mountain climbing, cycling, you know, the world was my oyster and I don't know where he is anymore.” And he literally broke down in the session, and I said to my client afterwards, I said, if you are in any doubt about the power of what you're doing, it's in the room right now. We have to talk to dads too.14:30 The danger of grouping parents as a single homogeneous group15:30 The Dad Connect programme16:15 Mentoring v Coaching18:50 We talk about reverse mentoring21:45 “Good enough is good enough”23:30 Work Life Balance“It took me to have children to respect my work-life balance and to want work flexibly. Why do we give away all that discretionary time? And why does that have to be a parenting thing to want to work flexibly? So I think in a way the pandemic has given everyone the gift of being able to say, I have a right to a life away from work”24:00 Hybrid working and the role of line managers25:50 Incoming culture clash - “working from home is an aberration” ?26:30 Will there be a generational split about office working?28:30 The mechanics of hybrid working modelsTips James’ choose to challenge on parenting normsNicki talks about checking in on a new dad back from paternity leave Ian has been reading Why we sleep? by Matthew Walker——————————————————————————-Connect With Nickiwww.theparentmentor.co.ukhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/nicki-seignot-647b981/
Will Champion - Coldplay's drummer
01-03-2021
Will Champion - Coldplay's drummer
The musician who doesn’t read music, the drummer who didn’t play the drums and a calming, pragmatic influence in Coldplay. In this episode of Lockdown Dads, we discover how a focus on their relationships has been as important as the music, what work life balance means in a band when you have kids and what Will is looking forward to most when lockdown finishes.Self described (with tongue in cheek) “soft rock dinosaur,” we find out how Will feels about the A Head Full of Dreams documentary - the good, the cringe-worthy and the comforting.We explore how the pandemic has been for the band, for his family and sadness he feels for artists on the cusp of success - with momentum pulled from under them.Will talks openly about family, fatherhood and masculinity - the similarities between his role as a dad at home and his role in his second family where fortunately no one is a frustrated frontman!Luck, personalities, hard work and a focus on relationships and above all else being grateful.Contents01:00 Definitely an air of optimism, a bit of light at the end of the tunnel for my kids. 01:50 Not touring with the last album turned out to be almost clairvoyant...02:45 We're lucky because we can afford to wait and we can we can choose the right time to do it for us04:00 Ian looking forward to the end of home school and binge watch Marvel films for the first time.06:20 James - great weather, but an irritating Joe Wicks injury!08:00 Will’s working dad status - father of three and freelancer08:56 Olga Fitzroy is like Bruce Wayne. (Read more about her Parental Pay Equality campaign)“Extraordinary sound engineer and producer by day and a politician and campaigner by night… she's brilliant.”09:50 Children, touring and balancing family life with work.12:40 Being in a band is like being in a family. 15:15 Too busy for boxsets, books and learning new languages17:00 We talk about the A Head Full of Dreams documentary20:00 The secret to Coldplay longevity - dynamics, personalities, friendships and a bit of luck.23:30 Will’s lack of previous drumming experience - could Ian have been in Coldplay?25:30 It’s been tough for Will’s kids, especially his eldest.27:30 Making memories and making the best of Lockdown - The Quarantine Bar at 5pm on a Friday.30:45 Studio time, being productive and Brian Eno’s advice 32:30 Weekly zoom calls and very intense, but very productive 2 week slots of time. 33:15 Multiple masculinities - Will’s role as a dad v his role in the band36:30 Ambition, competition and balance 38:45 What are we going to do first, when we’re allowed - Will visiting his dad.40:40 This Week’s Bumper Selection Of TipsMore Reading And LinksAnnie Lennox (subscribe to read)https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/only-if-the-women-s-movement-opens-a-dialogue-with-men-can-we-end-misogyny-c8zxp0pcjJames’ review of previous guest Martin Robinson’s New Bookhttps://www.workingdads.co.uk/martin-robinson-masculinity-book-you-are-not-the-man-you-are-supposed-to-be/
Jamie Beaglehole - Daddy and Dad
22-02-2021
Jamie Beaglehole - Daddy and Dad
A trailblazer for same sex adoption, Jamie is the Daddy of Daddy and Dad. What started as an exploration of the highs and lows of Jamie and Tom’s story of adopting two young brothers from foster care, became an award winning blog key agency resource and an opportunity to work with major brands.A timely redundancy lead to a focus on blogging, before dipping their toes into Instagram (not just for vintage cat photos…) and moving into the realms of influencing.We explore the journey into fatherhood, how navigating trauma from previous lives is part and parcel of the adoption process. Plus relationship dynamics in a same sex couple (hint… the breadwinner / carer tension is the same) and the challenges of being dads in a mum’s world. Contents01:00 Half term, home-school and house moving.03:10 James does care what the weatherman says.04:00 Pets and waiting on Boris.05:40 Booking holidays and being on TV.07:00 James reflects on Ian’s sister in law’s Valentine dance. 08:30 The Path - “of course we're two dads, so options for starting a family are slightly different to other couples.”09:40 Adoption is a huge, convoluted, overwhelming process and at the end of it, you become a family overnight10:20 I thought maybe I'd write a book or maybe we'd do some kind of video blog or but blogging was my expertise. 11:30 “I was really trying to lay out exactly how I was feeling and how lost we felt sometimes, which people really identified with.”12:30 Adoption agencies picked it up as a resource for potential adopters to read and it grew really quickly. “I was made redundant, and it was cliched and everyone said it would be, but it was the best thing for me career wise because I just applied all that extra time on the blog and, and it grew and grew and started to win awards and and really became quite a big part of our lives as well.”13:45 The mad world of parenthood - there's certain themes that I think everybody can recognise.15:00 Blogging inspiration from soft play and trampoline parks.17:30 Instagram - not just pictures of cats20:40 Relationship dynamics - breadwinner and carer24:30 Support for adoptive parents26:10 Dads in a mum’s world27:20 Covid and a pub manager getting it all wrong.28:00 Changing facilities for dads with babies30:00 Gay men in a straight world - Valentine's Day and Mother’s DayTips 31:10Read Martin Robinson’s book - “You Are Not The Man You're Supposed To Be”Involve kids in decision making - a quick story about alarm clocks and bedtime habits. Watch The Morning Show, Apple TV +, with Reese Witherspoon and Jennifer Aniston———————————————————Connect with Jamiehttps://www.daddyanddad.co.uk/https://www.instagram.com/daddyanddad/
Dan Stanley - Becoming Better Men
15-02-2021
Dan Stanley - Becoming Better Men
Dan Stanley - Becoming Better MenIn a powerful discussion about masculinity, purpose, and self awareness, ex Army Commando Instructor Dan describes how, far from being a magical time, becoming a new dad led to a 8 month separation in his marriage.We discover how a chance meeting with an ex premiership footballer, helped him drop his people pleaser mask and literally stop running from his problems.We discuss the impact of a dad who wasn’t present in his life, running so much your dog gets injured, and seeking to normalise the conversation about modern masculinity. Dan talks about his business principles of creating space for men to develop great relationships with themselves. Plus… is it sledding or sledging and other pressing questions in 2021.Contents01:00 Dan is purposeful, available and congruent03:00 Ian and the “done” list04:20 Sledding or Sledging?  Snow days as a niche argument in favour of flexible working.07:25 Birth of Dan’s daughter was the catalyst for “not only the breakdown of my marriage, but also for what was an identity crisis or midlife crisis for me.” 08:10 Dan was running (and avoiding) so much that his spaniel (running partner) actually developed an injury that needed an operation.09:00 “We separated for about eight months and it was a lonely time.” 11:10 It's all about normalising the conversation for me. Unless you've got a great relationship yourself, you can't have a great relationship with anybody else.12:30 My dad wasn't present in my life and at the time I never really gave it any significant thought, but…13:30Training all arms commandos from the army. Screaming in people's faces, that in my mind, is counterproductive.15:30“I was reading a book called Legacy about the psychology of the All Blacks and a man a few loungers down is reading Chimp Paradox. We must have been the only two guys in the Maldives with self help books”He was an ex premiership footballer, he'd had a couple of the operations, which hadn't worked…He said a phrase, which has changed the whole trajectory of my life. He said the only difference between a grave and a rut is the depth. I was like, wow. You know, it was straight in my heart.17:30 Taking massive and immediate action18:30 Reflecting on ego and masculinity19:45 It's about creating that space for men to have the conversations they've never had before, to be heard and listened to in a nonjudgmental space. 21:30 I found myself in the Peak District for five days, on a vegan diet. No caffeine, morning meditation and yoga and spirituality and the men's circles. Craig White was a real, a real catalyst for who I became. 24:00: I stepped away from friendship groups that I felt no longer served who I wanted to become. I realised that my values were kind of just social traits that I'd adopted from other people.26:30 My story is perhaps extreme in a sense, but lots of guys can relate to avoiding, to placing their head in the sandTips (27:00)Bird watching for the soulA selection of stoic maxims.Know thy self - develop yourself awareness.Nothing to excess.Surety brings ruin.Listen to Tim Ferris podcast with Jerry Seinfeld———————————————————More from Danhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-stanley-bettermen-coaching/https://better-men.uk/
Nigel Clarke, CBeebies TV Presenter and Dadvengers founder.
08-02-2021
Nigel Clarke, CBeebies TV Presenter and Dadvengers founder.
There’s just not enough time! Nigel Clarke, CBeebies presenter, explains how Dadvengers started from an all Dads episode of The Baby Club, the groundbreaking show for mums, dads and carers with babies under 18 months old. The Baby Club reflects the important CBeebies mantra that “Everyone’s Welcome”. We talk about a generational shift in what is expected from and expected by dads and the importance of dads having the skills and confidence to be alone with their kids. Ian and Nigel try and explain to James what the Clubhouse excitement is all about and we discover how you manage a 4 hour filming session with babies, sing songs (!) and probe Nigel about parenting in the public eye and what goes on at a CBeebies Xmas party.Contents01:15 Using Lockdown in the most positive way we can be - “I've found a place where I'm happy.”02:00 Nigel’s motto - “There just isn't enough time”. 03:00 Special To Do lists 04:00 Children on Teams and Clubhouse“Somebody told me about it (Clubhouse) and I was like, this is never going to work. But if it's done right, it's like attending a really cool lecture or a really cool networking room where you share stuff.”06:45 Trying not to get stressed - people are accommodating08:00 CBeebies closed for a couple of weeks and we, as the presenters, were recording stuff in our homes. So I did a series of links from my lounge. 09:45 Dadchats was a place for me to just research what parents might want to see or hear about in the Dadvengers podcast.11:20 We did an episode of The Baby Club just with Dads14:55 “I'm mid forties. So I grew up with a generation where the dads were at work. You see them maybe at the weekend, maybe in the evenings, maybe briefly before they go to work in the morning.They didn't have the opportunity to be with their kids and around them spending lots of time.”15:45: Wanting to be more involved - The Baby Club as a platform to really help dads.18:40 The essence of it was wanting dads from all different backgrounds who were engaged with their kids, who weren't scared to change a nappy.20:10 The importance of making dads feel welcome.21:00 Patience and being public figure. 21:30 I don't know if I can really call my work work.23:30 Chaos and contagious crying - how to film an episode of The Baby Club.24:45 I know a song that’ll stick in your head….26:20 What happens on a CBeebies night out, stays on a CBeebies night out.28:00 TipsMen need to learn how to listen, not just talk.Feel good with a squirt of aftershave.Be present when your kids are there and you're spending time with them, put that phone away, drop it down. 30:44 There's not long left. We're at 13, we're two thirds of the way through, and then it's over, they're gone and they're not kids anymore.Learn more herehttps://dadvengers.com/https://www.facebook.com/Dadvengersofficialhttps://www.instagram.com/dadvengersofficial/https://twitter.com/Dadvengers_https://nigelclarkepresenter.co.uk/https://www.thelionsbarbercollective.com/----------------------To get in touch, submit your tips and learn about us click here: https://www.inspiringdads.co.uk/lockdown-dads
Nathan McGurl, Founder of The Study Buddy
01-02-2021
Nathan McGurl, Founder of The Study Buddy
As a newly married 23 year old, apprehensively mulling over his thoughts about impending fatherhood while driving the A39 to and from Bristol, Nathan McGurl, founder of The Study Buddy did what we now take for granted - he started blogging. The My First Kid website has sadly gone the way of our My Space profiles, but the story Nathan tells of dads sidelined from parenting will still resonate to many, even if supermarket parenting clubs no longer limit you to identifying as  “Ms, Mrs or Miss”We blend discussion about bad broadband, good haircuts and expensive contact lenses with a look at lazy and damaging gender stereotyping promoted by the UK government. Nathan explains how having exhausting all the classic parenting manipulation techniques with his son, he created a system of GCSE revision planning that didn’t rely on learning by osmosis and became The Study Buddy.Content01:10 Nathan is a gin and tonic away from being “magenta.”02:45 James loses the world’s most expensive contact lens.04:10 Ian on bad broadband, good haircuts and lockdown birthdays05:50 New marriage, new dad and new millennium - there was a lot going on.06:50 On the road to Street and myfirstkid.co.uk was born, capturing all of these things flying through my head…08:20 I started to become more aware of “parenthood” because I don't think “fatherhood” was much of a thing then.10:00 Parenthood was all about the mums. The Safeway club just assumed it's Mrs. Nathan McGurl. I mean, you could be Ms. or Miss or Mrs, but you couldn't be Mr. 12:20 We talk government and gender stereotyping 15:40 Emails from Mums even more than Dads18:30 The path to creating The Study Buddy 19:30 Using every trick in the book for motivation - “how about I give you a fiver?”21:00 Then it came to Easter just before his exams,  22:00 It wasn't emotional anymore because it wasn't me telling him what I thought he should do. 22:47 This is how Study Buddy works26:30 You don't need to spend money, but for those parents who actually just don't have the time or the inclination…27:40 It was built for the procrastinating boy, but this kind of approach helps with, those who are really anxious. 30:00 The power of the student feeling in control33:10 TipsCKC = “Communication is key with COVID”The power of an Excel spreadsheet - people will assume that you're busy and they will walk away. Zig Ziglar quote “The elevator to success is out of order, but the stairs are always open.” ---------Learn more herehttps://thestudybuddy.com/https://www.facebook.com/TheStudyBuddyStudios/https://twitter.com/thestudybuddyUKhttps://www.instagram.com/TheStudyBuddyStudios/About Lockdown Dads James Millar and Ian Dinwiddy are recording a weekly ‘show’ exploring the impact of lockdown, self-isolation and social distancing on working dads.  https://www.inspiringdads.co.uk/lockdown-dads
Paul Bulos - Executive, Leadership & Wellbeing Coach
25-01-2021
Paul Bulos - Executive, Leadership & Wellbeing Coach
Time to ponder… what colour are you today and why? Paul Bulos, Executive, Leadership & Wellbeing Coach and publishing professional joins us for this and other profound questions on the Lockdown Dads podcast. We dig into the benefits of lockdowns - including connecting with your kids and we touch on the importance of empathy and understanding the transition between work and home life. Plus we discuss dad ‘presence’ - how important is secondary school transition, what does the “right train” mean to you and taking time to involve yourself in the things that are important to your children.Tips include - it’s time for clippers, the Language of gaming and Rachel Vecht’s Circle of Control .Contents00:20 Lockdown birthdays are rubbish. 02:30 If you could describe how you are doing as a colour, what would that colour be and why?02:45 Paul’s Funday Friday - energy and weather = yellow03:15 Ian, green for Pakistan - ODI cricket tickets for the summer04:20 James = black… I like black07:40 Learning self awareness and family dynamics09:15 Paul’s relationship with his daughter12:25 Helping children to feel safe14:05 A higher proportion proportion of dads think that the switch to secondary school is a time when they need to be around for their kids. 15:00 How comfortable are you saying, “you know what, I can't make that meeting at 5:30” because if I don't do that, I can't get the train, which means I won't be home for my kids.15:50 You come home one day and, and they don't come to the door. And I said, no, I can't imagine that. 17:00 The impact of missing your train - my wife knew exactly what time I'd be walking through the door at the end of the working day.19:30 The transition between work - coming home and re-entry into domestic, household and parenting life. 21:50 James talks about his workingdads.co.uk building back better agenda.23:00 Lunchtimes together.24:00 The power of coaching - examining values and my responsibilities as a parent25:30 Children as they've become far more cognitive in the world and they've got their own things, you really have to listen to them. 27:00 My Daughter has helped me as a coach. 28:30 TipsHome haircuts - clippers are back on stockTry to understand the language of gaming.Rachel Vecht’s Circle of Control.  (former guest on the show)More from Paul Buloshttps://www.linkedin.com/in/paulbulos/http://www.thecompletecoach.co.uk/safe/https://www.workingdads.co.uk/sink-swim-vital-dads-look-after-themselves/--------------------------About Lockdown Dads James Millar and Ian Dinwiddy are recording a weekly podcast exploring the impact of lockdown, self-isolation and social distancing on working dads. We’ll share tips, thoughts and stories with special guests, discuss our hopes for the future and the opportunities that all this represents, especially for dads who want to be more active and involved fathers but who until now have struggled with the expectations of what it means to be a man in the workplace. We hope you enjoy watching and listening! To get in touch, submit your tips and learn about us click here: https://www.inspiringdads.co.uk/lockdown-dads
Steve Myall - Journalist and Podcaster
18-01-2021
Steve Myall - Journalist and Podcaster
Living 50m from Central Park in Upper West side Manhattan sounds incredibly glamorous but not if you've swapped a house for a pandemic apartment in lockdown. This week's guest Steve Myall, former deputy features Editor of the Daily Mirror and co-host of the highly successful First Time Dads podcast joins James and I as the circle of podcasting is complete.We talk shared parental leave, finding space in a big city and why diplomatic status is this year's must have accessory for the Real Brit Dads of New York. Steve talks about what it is like on the ground in New York - elections, parenting and being that elusive species - the hands on stay at home dad.Contents 01:30 switching a house for an apartment, not realising that we would be in it 24 hours a day.02:30 Home school and Boris the Cat05:00 God alone knows what we're going to do at the weekend.06:00 We had a friend who took some shared parental leave, he was in his shorts, had grown a beard. He was relaxed. He was chilled. And the relationship with his second child looked fantastic.07:30 Condensed hours and changing how you look at work.08:00 Moving to New York.09:30 The First Time Dads Podcast - because we felt that dad's weren't really talking about the emotional stuff.13:30 There was talk of a virus in China and then suddenly New York's in this epicenter.14:30 If you're on the seventh floor of an apartment you can't take them to playgrounds or shop.16:45 We are fortunate, because my wife works for the UN, we've got a diplomatic status here so that we were able to come back to the UK.17:45 New York parks v Crystal Palace Park aka "have you got a big dinosaur with its face fallen off?"19:35  Federal law allows you to have 12 weeks of unpaid parental leave as a dad.22:00 Not only would it be unusual for me to see a dad taking their kids to this stuff, it would be unusual for me to see a parent because they're all nannies.23:00 It's changed a lot since lockdown - you see a lot more dads doing drop-off and pick up because obviously they're working from home.26:10 And then the adults all have a shrink, right?28:00 We drove back into New York as the election result came over the radio and people were out in the street, opening bottles of champagne, cheering on the street corners.29:00 If you go in Central Park, without wearing a mask outside, you will be shouted at.30:00 Tips: Watch Soul, eat chocolate oranges and get in touch with mindfulness and the craft box. -------------------------------Twitter: @Stevemyalleats Instagram: @StevemyalleatsHQAbout Lockdown Dads James Millar and Ian Dinwiddy are recording a weekly ‘show’ exploring the impact of lockdown, self-isolation and social distancing on working dads. We’ll share tips, thoughts and stories with special guests, discuss our hopes for the future and the opportunities that all this represents, especially for dads who want to be more active and involved fathers but who until now have struggled with the expectations of what it means to be a man in the workplace. We hope you enjoy watching and listening! To get in touch, submit your tips and learn about us click here: https://www.inspiringdads.co.uk/lockdown-dads
Louise Goss - Founder of The Homeworker Magazine
11-01-2021
Louise Goss - Founder of The Homeworker Magazine
One time self employed journalist based in Australia, we discover how interviewing and profiling home working entrepreneurs for a tech start up was the start of the idea that became The Homeworker magazine. Louise Goss joins us for episode 28, drawing upon her husband's experiences we reflect on how attitudes towards home working have changed from both an individual and business perspective. Why her magazine is much more useful than  googling the top 5 productivity tips and how the Homeworker blends key themes around business, productivity, mindset, wellbeing and your work environment. Contents02:30 James has the hump with fascists03:30 Groundhog day - it's hard to hit the ground running in 202104:20 Ian misses flow05:30 Less parental guilt this time07:20 From Freelance journalist to celebrating the 2nd anniversary of the magazine09:00 Louise back in UK with 2 children under 3 09:50 Blending business, productivity, mindset, wellbeing and your work environment. 10:15 I wish I could say I had this Eureka moment and this amazing foresight that we're all going to be doing it12:10 Work and life are very integrated nowadays. And there's no real getting around that.12:50 it's very easy to do a quick Google, you know, top five productivity tips working from home.15:25 Branching out into a corporate subscription16:30 There's working from home and then there's working from home during a global pandemic17:30 Parenting and homeworking22:00 Husband changing how he felt about home working25:19 We actually turfed my daughter out of her room and made an office joining lockdown26:30 Ergonomics advice - the best posture is the next posture Tips 27:20 Involving the children in the planning of home-schoolLeave the fairy lights upIf you create an inviting and welcoming workspace you're going to do better work therehttps://www.thehomeworker.com/https://twitter.com/homeworkermaghttps://www.instagram.com/thehomeworkermag/About Lockdown Dads James Millar and Ian Dinwiddy are recording a weekly ‘show’ exploring the impact of lockdown, self-isolation and social distancing on working dads. We’ll share tips, thoughts and stories with special guests, discuss our hopes for the future and the opportunities that all this represents, especially for dads who want to be more active and involved fathers but who until now have struggled with the expectations of what it means to be a man in the workplace. We hope you enjoy watching and listening! To get in touch, submit your tips and learn about us click here: https://www.inspiringdads.co.uk/lockdown-dads
Looking back at 2020 with James and Ian
18-12-2020
Looking back at 2020 with James and Ian
A look back at 26 episodes of Lockdown Dads - the good, the bad and the ugly as we ponder the "annus horribilis" that was 2020. We talk guests and the tips that inspired us and the tips that shocked us, it's all here as we discuss what 2021 has instore for dads and their families and how as a show we can continue to bring you interesting and informative content onward into season 3 of a project we wanted to kill off. Too much lockdown...!(Recorded pre-Tier 4 / Christmas cancellation)Contents1:30 This week - Webinars, Xmas cards and good people doing good things.03:30 The importance of the Bob Mortimer and Paul Whitehouse fishing programme.05:30 The good - walks and family time, Saturday night movies.07:30 All fathers should watch It's A Wonderful Life. 08:30 Scepticism about the Rona-coaster - until James hit it. The emotional impact of freedom being snatched away. Looking ahead to his daughter being nearly 14 next year.11:50 Adapting and Accepting. Being kind to yourself.  Michael Ray and Nadia Nagamootoo talking about the small things.13:30 Christmas - make the most of it,  but not Kay Burley style.14:00 Noel McDermott from Season 1 had the most striking tip - no drinking.15:45 Yash Puri and the night time nappy changing, James and choosing the "right" pants.  17:30 Making time for yourself - Dan Reed, Ady Griffiths and Mari Williams.18:00 Awe walks from Jessica Chivers.19:30 Philip Simon re-record the punchline. Dr Jasmine Kelland and Dr Laura Radcliffe with strong calls to action.22:20 Freddie Bennett - The man who ran a marathon in welly boots and broke the Guinness World  Record.24:30 Dads exposed to genuine parenting challenge. 27:00 Future trends for 2021, it will be key for people like us - making the case for flexible working when the temptation will be for a return pre pandemic "norms."31:00 Tip watch the Bob Mortimer and Paul Whitehouse show. Cherry Vodka and Tonic make it your Christmas drink of choice.