PODCAST

You Are Not A Frog

Dr Rachel Morris

The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive.

You studied for years, you're really good at what you do but you've noticed that you're starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you've spent years working towards.

Here's the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don't have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable.

It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again.

Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it's like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she'll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.


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Why FAIL is Not a 4-Letter Word
Why FAIL is Not a 4-Letter Word
Drs Claire Edwin, Sally Ross, and Taj Hassan join us to discuss how we can manage and deal with our failures more effectively. We explore the idea that rather than doing something wrong, failure is an opportunity to really grow and learn both as individuals, as leaders and as organisations. In any situation, it’s important to remember that we’re all human. It’s okay to be honest with ourselves and each other about our mistakes - after all, vulnerability is not a sign of weakness. If you want to know how to change your mindset around failure, stay tuned to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:49] About our GuestsDr Claire Edwin works at the National Medical Director Clinical Fellows and NHS England in the faculty of medical leadership and management. Dr Taj, a previous president of the Royal College of Emergency Medicine, is currently involved in international work in Pakistan. Dr Sally Ross has extensive experience in military and various leadership training events.[07:20] What are Micro Failures? Micro failures are often small things you miss that you think don’t have a consequence. No one can operate perfectly all the time.[10:16] How Sally Views FailureWhen things go wrong, embrace it as an opportunity to learn. Sally shares that her military training helped her develop the trait of failing fast. [12:40] High Expectations and Failure for Medical ProfessionalsThere are higher expectations and demands for medical professionals. It’s okay to not be perfect all the time. [15:33] How Leaders Should Handle Mistakes Basic errors come in different forms that usually arise in the heat of the moment. Failure to build consensus, communicate, and engage could ripple down to more serious errors.[21:45] Importance of Honesty, Trust, and ConsistencyAs a leader, understanding how mistakes were made in forming a conclusion is important.Being honest about your failures isn’t about talking about them everyday.[24:35] Why We Judge Ourselves Based on Our Failures Being a perfectionist can make our judgements harsher. Due to underfunding, medical practitioners are pushed to explain why their patients need to wait.[29:35] Toxic Trio Leading to FailureFailures are often brought about by lack of prioritisation, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.[31:12] The Danger of People-PleasingSally addressed an issue at her workplace that might have painted her as a ‘bad guy’.[34:17] Cultivating Healthy Work CulturesTaj practises zero tolerance for people being rude to his staff members.Being upfront to impolite patients is his way to avoid any escalation. [37:52] Facilitating Learning from FailureWhen people fail, they should have the chance to express it.ResourcesLearn more about ENLIGHTENme which aims to build a strategy to support an emergency care strategy and leadership development for low resource countriesConnect with Dr Claire: Faculty of Medical Leadership and ManagementConnect with Dr Sally: Spire Healthcare | Wessex Facilitation  Connect with Dr Taj: Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management.Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
Today
52 mins
Making Helpful Habits Stick
Sheela Hobden joins us to discuss how we can harness the power of checklists to create a routine! When people fail to reach their goals, they often just stop trying or feel a lot of shame. Be realistic and learn to encourage yourself by taking on a range of targets instead of one. Sheela also recommends creating identity-based goals to ensure that you keep building your new identity even after completing certain milestones. Start small, and eventually, you’ll see these good habits stick! If you want to know how to create helpful habits to change your life, stay tuned to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:31] Why Routine is ImportantOur brain loves routine because of its certainty. The model notes that when our routines change, there will be a threat response. [08:24] Free Your Mind with ChecklistsDon’t underestimate checklists. Your brain can think of a few things all at the same time. [13:54] Build a Habit through Routines The more you practice your routine, the more it becomes a habit. Anchor a new habit on something else you’re already doing. [20:00] Don’t Underestimate Small Changes Create significant changes in your life with small changes every day. Create a range of targets instead of just one goal.[23:14] Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Routine? Remember that the things you choose to do are ingrained in what you want in life. Simple actions can lead to contentment and happiness. [26:46] Time, Generosity, and Purpose When you keep yourself too open to choices, you can become paralysed. Be kind to your future self and plan the best choices for them. [32:34] Create Good Routines at Work Emails and notifications are common distractions at work. Don’t tackle a challenging task when you don’t have the energy for it. [37:42] The How and Why Behind Tasks  Working out the hows of a task helps you identify ways to make it easier. ResourcesConnect with Sheela: Bluegreen Coaching I Facebook I Twitter I Youtube I LinkedIn I EmailYou’re Not a Frog Podcast Episode 45: Rest. The Final Frontier with Sheela Hobden Mood MeterFree to Focus by Michael Hyatt You can also check out Michael Hyatt’s free course here! Checklist Manifesto by Atul Gawande Atomic Habits by James ClearTiny Habits by BJ Fogg PhDMan's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl  THRIVE Weekly PlannerSupport the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
1w ago
45 mins
Dealing With the Guilt of Not Being Okay
Dr Nik Kendrew unravels why we experience overwhelming guilt when bad things happen to us. He also shares some tips, techniques, and resources to cope with difficult times and circumstances. Apart from this, Nik talks about the significance of scheduling our entire day to do important things. Finally, he discusses why setting boundaries is necessary to maintain our sense of self.If you want to learn how to stop feeling guilty when uncontrollable things happen to you, then stay tuned to this episode! Episode Highlights[6:10] About the Boggle DocsNik hosts the Boggle Docs. He gets to invite guests and talk about popular TV shows or movies portraying medical issues. [9:43] Dr Nik, the 100th Episode’s Guest Nik was invited over for the 100th episode because he was the podcast's first guest. [13:16] Nik’s Heart Problem On his way to work, Nik suddenly had difficulty in breathing and experienced terrible chest pain. A paramedic immediately came to his aid and found he was experiencing Atrial Fibrillation. [16:56] After the Incident Nik just felt awful for letting people down even though they told him to rest. Guilt means feeling sorry for something we did or did not do. [18:31] The Feeling of Guilt Among DoctorsNik felt guilty for things he could control. What you feel during stressful situations is a normal physiological response. [19:41] Give Yourself a Break If you’re not doing what you’re supposed to do, you feel responsible for the people who are left to pick up the pieces. [20:51] Gaslighting in Health Care Service The health care service is already on its knees before the pandemic. When COVID-19 happened, primary care had to change drastically. [23:43] How To Cope With Stress and Pressure When times are tough, it helps to take it one step at a time and keep going. [27:03] Why Stay In the Present Staying in the present teaches that there is calm within you. [29:04] Substitute Stress for Happiness Others say they’ll only be happy if they get to complete their goals. However, there will always be something in our lives that will be unfinished. [29:55] Why Achieving Your Goals Would Not Make You Happy We are preparing ourselves for failure by setting unachievable goals. [34:08] Focus On What’s Important When you block off time to do something, it takes away stress because you know there’s a plan. [39:27] Set Your Boundaries When you are in stressful situations, focus on things you can change. Listen to your body. It will enforce its limits. ResourcesCheck out our Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors.Find out more about the Shapes Toolkit training, talks and workshops.Sign up here for more free resources.Join the Shapes Collective FB group.Become a member of the Resilient Team Academy!Are you interested in joining our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
23-11-2021
48 mins
How to Deal With Criticism When You've Reached Your Limit
Dr Sarah Coope joins me to talk about the workload of medical professionals and the benefits of setting boundaries while dealing with criticisms amidst the global pandemic. We discuss the three elements of the Drama Triangle and ways to navigate or avoid them reliably. As we dive deeper into their conversation, we emphasise the art of saying 'No' through acknowledging our limits. If you want to take the first step in recognising your limits, handling criticism better and setting proper boundaries, tune in to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:43] The Overarching Challenges Brought by the PandemicThere was and still is much grief, trauma, guilt, and moral injury for doctors.[06:46] Most Impactful Messages from the Podcast Amidst COVIDDr Caroline Walker shared a fundamental key message: ‘It's okay not to be okay’.[09:55] Criticism and Over-responsibility[13:03] Setting Boundaries around ResponsibilitiesWe need to make peace with our limits. [17:23] Should-ing and Ought-ingWe often take criticism personally because it targets our deepest insecurities.[20:26] Hippocratic Oath ShamingOverdoing your duties circles back to the saviour-rescuer.[22:29] Our Core Self-BeliefsAwareness allows us to introspect about the roots and rationale behind our self-beliefs.[25:29] Being in the Victim ModeWe often try to control too much of what we can’t control.[27:08] On the Dangers of ResilienceResilience training is about learning what you can do for yourself.[28:21] Getting Out of the Victim MentalityWe always have a choice, but every choice has unique consequences.[31:00] On Self-SabotageStay in your zone of power and leave the rest of the things you have no control over.[33:23] Tips on Saying ‘No’Give yourself a pause before deciding to say 'Yes' to something. [37:09] Say ‘No’ to the Task, Not the PersonSet a boundary, but remain connected by saying ‘Yes’ to the person.[38:19] What Leaders Could Have Done DifferentlyTell teams that it’s okay to set boundaries and to look after themselves.[42:38] Having a Sense of Pace and BalanceRecognise that the journey is a marathon, not a sprint.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!Are you interested to join our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
16-11-2021
44 mins
Why It’s Easier to Talk About Football Than Feelings with Dr Naren Senthil Nathan
Dr Naren Senthil Nathan joins us to talk about what makes it hard for people to talk about their feelings. He shares that the first step is acknowledging your problems and knowing that there is nothing wrong with seeking help. If you know people who are struggling, remember that they need to feel comfortable with talking about their struggles first. Episode Highlights[04:52] The State of Mental Health Today Mental health is not widely discussed and is still considered taboo in many cultures. [08:12] Why People Find it Hard to Ask for Help Many people are not taught to express and talk to people about their feelings.[10:01] What Happens When People Suppress Their IssuesSuppression of issues can affect relationships and lead to unsafe practices at work. [12:54] Gender Differences When Asking for Help Unfortunately, many men today are not open and don’t talk about their problems and mental health matters. [17:49] Why Men are More VulnerableMen don’t open up because of pride and fear. [23:52] How to Practice Vulnerability Opening up to others can lead to reciprocity and form tribes, where you support each other.[29:08] How to Help Others  Keep engaging with others and let them know it’s okay to talk. [33:31] Signs to Look Out For Learning to spot signs of distress starts with knowing people’s baseline behaviours. [36:31] How to Help Others With Mental Health Matters Outside of Professional Help  Create safe environments for them to feel comfortable about sharing feelings. [39:13] Naren’s Top Three Tips For Encouraging Vulnerability Acknowledge that you have an issue, and do not beat yourself up about it. Remember that it’s okay to ask for help. Learn to open up with others about your feelings.[40:07] Where to Get HelpLoads of services are available for free in the UK. For example, GP-S is a free service by GPs for GPs. Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!Are you interested to join our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!Become a member of the Resilient Team Academy! Sign-ups are open until the third of November.Check out the Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management if you want to attend the Leaders in Healthcare conference. Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
09-11-2021
43 mins
What to Do When Your Strengths Have Side Effects with Dr Joanna Bircher
Dr Joanna Bircher talks about essential leadership skills and the impact of our personalities, motivations, and strengths on our teams. She explains why you need to act like a leader even if you think you are not one, and gives brilliant advice on becoming more self-aware. Episode Highlights[05:54] You Are a Leader, Even if You Don’t Think You Are Even if you're a trainee in a company,  you have an impact on your team. [08:56] Joanna’s Leadership Journey Leadership is not about knowing everything. It’s about exploring new ideas together with your team.A leader listens, collaborates, and makes good decisions.[14:00] How to Recognise CollaborationAs a leader, it is your job to bring out others' opinions during discussions. [15:21] How to Develop Self-AwarenessYou can build a much better team if you focus on your strengths and those of your members.We must develop our strengths rather than our weaknesses. [22:26] Finding Your Strengths Being self-aware means that you recognise the good and bad effects of your strengths. Remember that the brighter you shine, the more shadow you cast.  [26:41] The Dilemma of HierarchyNo matter what kind of leader you are, power imbalance will always be there. When people are silent in meetings, the problem is often with your method, not with the people in the room.[35:51] The Importance of Knowing Your Team’s Personality Profile Your team’s strengths and motivations affect their job satisfaction and joy in work. [38:41] Developing Active Listening Real listening isn’t just about waiting for your turn to talk. [40:58] Being Genuinely Curious It’s better if you actively engage with people and help them come up with an answer on their own. [42:35] Joanna’s Top 3 Tips to Be a Better LeaderGenuinely believe that you're not the person with the best idea.Learn how to listen and continue to practise it.Everybody in the room with you has their own ideas. Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!Are you interested to join our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!Check out the Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management if you want to attend the Leaders in Healthcare conference. Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
02-11-2021
44 mins
How to Deal With Difficult Meetings with Jane Gunn
In this episode, we hear from the expert in conflict management and mediation, Jane Gunn. She discusses important tips to keep in mind in order to host great meetings. Jane also shares some practical conflict management tips and how to make decisions that you and your team agree on. Episode Highlights[04:14] Why You Avoid ConflictYou may be afraid of your emotions or unconfident to navigate difficult conversations.[05:26] The Skill of Conflict ManagementThere are four ways to deal with conflict: fight, flight, freeze, or appease.[08:03] Conflict Management Within TeamsConflict is necessary.  Some teams have too much, whereas others have too little.[09:46] The Power of Resolution Rethinking in Conflict ManagementNemawashi is a process of digging deep into issues to determine their impact on all sides.[12:22] The Importance of Consultations in Conflict ManagementConsulting in conflict management others allows people to feel heard. [15:51] Uncovering ConcernsA concern can be addressed during the meeting or through a personal follow-up with the concerned individual.  [17:04] Framing a MeetingSet rules and expectations for the flow of the meeting.[18:44] The Elephant in the RoomAn anonymous poll can help people overcome the fear of speaking up.[23:30] Uncovering Conflict and Conflict Management in a Meeting Be clear on your criteria for making decisions within your team to avoid others from deciding based on their own viewpoint.[26:52] What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell YouIntuitive feelings serve to remind you to take the time to think rather than rushing a decision.[32:21] Hosting a Meeting Like a Dinner PartyTry to make it both fun and functional.[38:44] Your Role as a Participant in Meetings and Conflict ManagementAs a participant, you can use this structure: listen, don’t interrupt, and reflect back.[45:04] Our Responsibility as ProfessionalsWe have a responsibility to run effective meetings.[46:30] Top Three Tips for Making Meetings BetterThink about the meeting as a dinner party, make the meeting fun and functional, and find ways to let everybody have a voice and participate.[47:29] The Power of Resolutionary ThinkingThe course focuses on creating a better understanding of how we can manage change, crisis and conflict.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!Sign up here for more FREE resources.Become a member of the Resilience Team Academy! Sign-ups are open until the third of November.Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
26-10-2021
50 mins
3 Conversations Which Will Get You Unstuck with Annie Hanekom
Annie Hanekom joins us to share the three important conversations you need to have — with yourself and with others — to help you get unstuck. We discuss the importance of having meaningful conversations and the weight it carries on your mindset and wellbeing.Episode Highlights[03:23] The Importance of Meaningful ConversationsThe conversation is the relationship and thus carries a lot of weight.[06:43] What People Are Going Through NowThere seems to be a lag in people’s behaviours because of exhaustion.Physical fatigue can be fixed by rest, whereas depletion needs social connection.[11:56] What’s In Your Control?If you start focusing on the things you can control, that zone of power grows and helps you feel empowered.[18:41] The Power of Focusing on What You Can ControlFocus on what you can really control and trust in the process.[20:26] Where Is Your Focus?Are the things you’re focusing on driving you towards the things that really matter?[23:34] The Danger of Being Addicted to BusynessBeing busy does make people feel good about themselves, but only temporarily.It could easily lead to burnout and severe fatigue.[28:23] Focusing on the Long-TermHow you achieve things might look different if you focus on your zone of power.[31:13] Thinking PartnershipsThinking partnerships is where you have meaningful conversations with a partner. These allow you to uncover a sustainable, useful solution to your conundrum.[36:10] What Story Are You Telling?By starting conversations with ‘The story I’m telling myself…’, you begin to address the fact that the story may not be true.[40:52] Determining Your IntentionsDig deeper into your intentions and reflect on what you want to achieve in your conversation.[44:09] Annie’s Three Top TipsPause and catch yourself.Pay attention to your intentions.Focus on the long-term possibilities.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!Sign up here for more FREE resources.Are you a leader in health or social care? Know how to build a robust team through difficult times without burning out yourself by registering for our free webinar here! Get simple tools that you can use to support your team for resilience, productivity, and wellbeing, help them deal with overwhelm, and get you a happy, thriving team without burning yourself out. Be a member of Resilient Team Academy now! Sign-ups are open until the third of November.Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
19-10-2021
49 mins
How to Reconnect With Your Purpose in Life with Dr Richard Pile
Dr Richard Pile and Rachel do a deep dive into what it means to have a meaningful, purpose-driven life. We also explore the concept of ikigai and how you can use this to determine your purpose, so that you can enjoy your work more and ultimately unlock your potential to live life to its fullest.Episode Highlights[05:51] Is Purpose a Given for Doctors?Everyone, including doctors, can benefit from thinking about their reason for being.When your purpose is tied to your job, your profession can become all-consuming.[10:04] Defining PurposePurpose has layers, including your values, beliefs, likes, dislikes, and what matters to you. [12:35] The Consequences of Lack of PurposeNot contemplating your meaning and purpose can affect your health and wellbeing.[16:00] Are Meaningful Relationships Part of Your Purpose?Only focusing inward hampers you from unlocking your full potential.Purpose alone isn’t good enough; you need to have balance.[19:06] The Current GP SituationGeneral practice has never been busier than it is now.The best thing a GP can do to care for their patients is to first take care of themselves.[21:03] How to Avoid OverwhelmReflect on the balance in your life and make sure it's sustainable for years to come. [22:29] Reconnecting with Your Meaning and Purpose through Ikigai‘Ikigai’ is a Japanese term meaning reason for being.It looks at purpose as the intersection of four circles: what you love, what you’re good at, what you can get paid for, and what the world needs.[29:43] Give Yourself TimeThe starting point in finding your purpose is giving yourself time to think about it.[36:08] Exploring IkigaiThe Japanese conceptualisation of ikigai doesn’t focus much on career.If you’ve got a purpose and meaning, you’re better able to cope with life's struggles. [38:43] Spirituality and SpaceFragmenting our physical, mental, and spiritual aspects always ends badly.[44:24] Richard’s Top Three TipsGive yourself time to take stock.Reflect on the ikigai concept.Determine your next steps after reflecting.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!Are you a leader in health or social care? Know how to build a robust team through difficult times without burning out yourself by registering for our free webinar here! Are you interested to have a You Are Not A Frog gathering? Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
12-10-2021
48 mins
How to Delegate, Do It, or Drop It with Anna Dearmon Kornick
Anna Dearmon Kornick teaches us strategies for managing time and determining when to delegate. She also explains why time management is heart management. When you get clear on your vision, goals, and values, you can do more of what matters to you. Episode Highlights[08:48] How to Have More Control in Your DayMentally walking through your day allows you to anticipate problems in advance and come up with solutions. When you know your schedule, you can also give your breaks a purpose. [13:02] How to Manage Admin TimeThe most effective meetings have agendas and a step-by-step flow.[15:26] Creating an Agenda Checklist for Admin TimeCreating the sequence of tasks in your agenda mostly depends on personal preference.One thing that might help is the time management technique called ‘Eat that frog,’ where you start your day by doing the toughest or most important task. You can also try the 15-minute rule. [19:03] Set Expectations with Your AgendaSet expectations with others who may want to steal your attention during admin time.Admin time needs to be protected to serve its purpose.[20:54] Combating DistractionsWe have been conditioned to respond anytime someone reaches out.To combat this, have a notepad to write down the ‘shiny things’ that derail your focus.[24:37] The Importance of DelegationUnderstand the process required to complete a task and give the person what they need to succeed.The best way to delegate is to capture the steps into a workflow. [28:58] Creating a WorkflowUse language that the person you delegated will understand.Make sure there are no gaps and room for assumptions. [32:23] Learning Period in DelegationMistakes will be made when you delegate. Think of the worst thing that could happen in your workflow. Then, come up with a safety net for the person to take on the task.[34:43] Delegating Outside WorkWhat home and personal activities you can outsource to get your time back?[39:13] Determining What to Keep and What to DelegateZero in the activities falling in your zone of genius.[43:40] Spending More Time in Your Zone of GeniusThink hard about what things you should be delegating.This passion and proficiency lens opens up awareness about how you spend and how you want to spend your time.[45:52] Top Three TipsCreate a vision for the future and the life you want.Set goals.Articulate core values. Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
05-10-2021
50 mins
How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim with Dr Caraline Wright & Dr Lizzie Sweeting
In this episode, Dr Caraline Wright and Dr Lizzie Sweeting discuss the second victim phenomenon. They explain why patient safety incidents are occupational hazards and how they can affect healthcare providers. Finally, they share tips on how to avoid second victimhood and how to provide support.Episode Highlights[04:31] What is a Second Victim?A second victim is a healthcare provider who becomes traumatised due to an unanticipated adverse patient event.[05:33] How Patient Safety Relates to Second Victimhood Up to 50% of healthcare system staff can be second victims. They can experience a range of effects, from acute stress to suicidal ideation. [06:59] Determining Second Victimhood The shame and guilt from a patient safety incident differ from the distress and fatigue from normal workplace pressures.[10:17] Caraline’s Experience with Second Victimhood She oversaw a man with a long history of depression and alcoholism. He got better, so she reduced the frequency of his appointments.Shortly after, he patient committed suicide. Over the next 6-12 months, she struggled with trauma, avoidance, guilt, and anxiety.[14:37] Post-Second VictimhoodSecond victims tend to shift to a defensive practice or leave the career altogether.Shame also hinders them from sharing their experience. [21:52] How to React to Patient Safety IncidentsKnow that patient safety incidents are occupational hazards.Organisations must provide quick and appropriate responses.[28:44] How to Support Second VictimsListen with fascination. Just let them talk and explain, even if you’ve not felt like that yourself. Let them know that lots of people feel the same way.[34:06] Lizzie and Caraline’s Message About Second Victimhood Don’t be afraid to share your story, as it can be valuable to others.Having one another to talk things through can be helpful. [35:59] The Impact of COVID-19 on Second VictimhoodWorking remotely has caused us to become removed from one another, as we can’t create connections as well. However, with effort, we can still create spaces online. [38:07] Caraline and Lizzie’s Top Three TipsKnow that second victimhood exists. Have a support system.Be kind to yourself and your colleagues.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Free Webinar: How to build a robust team in times of crisis without burning out yourselfSign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
28-09-2021
43 mins
How to Break Up With Your Toxic Relationship With Your Career with Dr Pauline Morris
In this episode, Dr Pauline Morris shares common pitfalls that create unsustainable work habits. She also explains why staying in your comfort zone can be detrimental to your performance.  Finally, we learn about self-care.Episode Highlights[02:55] Top Career Concerns From DoctorsMany doctors think that they aren't in a work environment conducive to growth.Others are starting to rethink their careers in medicine.[05:32] Career Counselling in MedicineMost physicians are told to separate their personal lives from their professional ones.This mindset pushes people to ignore their preferences and personality traits when choosing career paths. [09:53] Problems with Work-Life BalanceDoctors tend to have altruistic personalities and adopt a "patient first" perspective.[14:12] Three Common IssuesMany doctors don't know what makes them happy and motivated to work.They tend to be perfectionists.The medical community looks down on career path changes. [17:53] Staying in Your Comfort ZoneDoctors usually prefer to stay in their comfort zones because they know the expectations.They are also concerned with the comfort of their loved ones and the people around them.[21:28] Don’t Be a Passenger in Your Own LifeYou can change your circumstances, with deliberate action.[25:09] Career Counselling Tip: IntrospectWhat do you enjoy? What are your strengths and values?[31:15] Career Counselling Tip: Cut Back on PerfectionismYou can't do everything perfectly; you don’t need to. [36:01] Career Counselling Advice on Working with Your StrengthsGet the perspective of other people to help you understand yourself.A career counsellor can improve your career satisfaction.[40:59] Diversifying Your CareerUnderstand why you diversify. [44:55] Pauline's Top Three TipsKnow yourself,  invest in yourself, and take time to align who you are and what you want to do.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs.Podcast linksCheck out this You Are Not A Frog episode:E67: Bringing Your Best Self to Work with Dr Sarah GouldingTen Coping Strategies for Physicians by Dr Pauline MorrisDoctors Caring for DoctorsConnect with Dr Pauline: Facebook | Twitter | LinkedInSupport the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
21-09-2021
49 mins
What to do About Bitching and Backbiting with Dr Edward Pooley
This week, Dr Edward Pooley teaches us how to respond when colleagues make inappropriate comments about others. He gives us concrete steps to prepare ourselves to speak up when the situation requires. Episode Highlights[05:05] Finding Yourself in an Uncomfortable ConversationThese conversations usually fall under three categories. The first two are more permissible, while the third is more serious. [09:01] Letting Off Stream vs Something More SeriousIf it’s the latter, advise them carefully to have a word with the person in question.If the line jumps to criticism on protected characteristics, speak up firmly. [12:17] Speak Up Using Ed’s Four-Step Confrontation ProcessEd’s stepwise approach allows you to avoid triggering shame and defensiveness when you speak up. [14:35] Hearing Someone Complain About Another PersonEncourage them to think about the person in question’s point of view. [18:02] The Consequences of Constant Backbiting in the WorkplaceYou’ll assume that when you make a mistake, others will talk about you too.[20:44] When It’s Just Flat Out BitchingThink about whether there will be a negative outcome if this communication persists.If what they’re doing has a direct impact on your work environment, speak up. [24:17] Encouraging a Negative ColleagueAsk yourself: Are they able to do their responsibilities with their viewpoint?It’s about engaging that person to do what they need to do because it’s valuable to them.[29:20] The Importance of a CriticSome people see all the possible flaws and pitfalls of an idea. This trait isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Critical people lend organisations a different perspective. [31:57] Some Strategies to Help You Speak UpHave a series and sequence of phrases you can go to.Make your presence known.Ask them to clarify what they mean. [35:13] Thinking It’s Not Your Place to Speak UpIt’s your place to speak up.If you don’t, you can get implicated when the subject files a formal complaint.[38:58] Some Helpful Resources and Ed’s One Great TipThe first thing you need to do is to speak up. How you’re going to say it can come later. Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
14-09-2021
40 mins
Should I stay or should I go? with Corrina Gordon-Barnes
Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to share how to better relationships and take control and stay in your zone of power. She explains how to make a good decision by questioning your thoughts and assumptions.Highlights[04:42] Corrina’s Coaching JourneyFor 16 years, Corrina has been coaching and helping people find what they wanted to do.Our amygdala doesn’t just function as a threat detection system; it also seeks connection and belonging.Because we want to fit in, we sometimes do things we don’t want to do or stay in toxic relationships.[09:07] How to Better RelationshipsFirst, be compassionate with anybody caught in the dilemma of choosing between staying or leaving.Corrina also discourages asking others about their opinion. Instead of listing pros and cons, list down all your judgments or complaints about the thing you're thinking of leaving. Then, make another list of all of your fears about leaving.[18:53] Staying in Your Zone of Power Rather than denying reality, it's more empowering to accept it as it is and to focus on what you can control. What's in your zone of power often takes vulnerability and courage.[24:00] Questioning ThoughtsFirst, have compassion for your predicament. Then list your reasons, complaints and fears about the situation.With more varying evidence, you would understand your problem from a more multidimensional perspective and learn how to better relationships. [29:22] About Acceptance and Why People StayPeople tend to remain in their jobs or romantic relationships when they've learned to accept and stay in their zone of power.The things that are ours to do require courage, and the things that are other people's involve acceptance.[44:30] Making Choices in our Zone of PowerWhen you stay firm in your zone of power, you stay authentic and truthful to yourself.Think of a courageous conversation or action that you can do to reframe the problem at hand.[51:32] Top 3 Tips for Deciding Whether to Stay or LeaveFirst, be compassionate with yourself that you’re in that difficult position.Second, list your complaints and fears, then recognise that they're thoughts that aren't unquestionable.Lastly, verify your thoughts, and identify the things you can do that are within your zone of power. These include acceptance and having the courage to make changes. Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksCheck out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!E32: How to take control of your thoughts with Corrina Gordon-BarnesThe Work of Byron KatieStay within your zone of power with Zone of Power handout.Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
07-09-2021
54 mins
Summer Replay Series: The One about Alcohol with Dr. Giles P. CroftSummer Replay Series: Productivity Hacks for a Calm, Effective Life with Dr. GandalfSummer Replay Series: How to be an adult with Ebonie AllardSummer Replay Series: Treat others how THEY would like to be treated with Gitanjali Trevorrow-SeymourSummer Replay Series: How To Do Conflict Well with Jane GunnSummer Replay Series: Eff-It Living with John C Parkin

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