Today, I am thrilled to share an insightful and transformative podcast episode featuring a conversation with Michael Laidler. This episode delves into the profound journey of self-awareness and personal growth, unveiling the layers that shape our identities.Michael Laidler reflects on his self-awareness journey, tracing it back to his roots in Miami, Florida, and the challenges he faced growing up in a family marked by financial struggles and constant relocations.The conversation explores the impact of early life experiences on shaping one's mindset, emphasizing the importance of self-assessment and understanding one's strengths and weaknesses.Michael shares his experiences in law enforcement, highlighting the pivotal role of self-awareness in leadership and success. The discussion extends to the crucial topic of guiding teenagers in discovering their own identities and strengths.Michael emphasizes the significance of self-awareness as the foundation for personal and professional success.We discuss practical strategies for teenagers to embark on their self-awareness journey, including self-assessment tools, such as YouMap® and mentorship.The episode explores the concept of purpose, challenging listeners to identify themselves beyond their titles or roles within their relationships and families.Michael encourages prioritizing personal development before external commitments, emphasizing the impact this has on relationships and overall life fulfillment.Michael and I share valuable insights on managing anxiety, particularly in the context of public speaking. Practical breathing techniques and the importance of practice are highlighted to help individuals navigate anxiety-inducing situations.Michael concludes with a powerful message urging everyone to consistently work on themselves, emphasizing that every day brings new opportunities for growth and positive change.Whether you're a parent guiding your teenager or an individual on a personal development journey, this conversation is bound to resonate with you.Thank you for being part of my community, and I hope you find this episode as enlightening as I did.Please follow Michael Laidler on Social Media:https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaellaidlerhttps://youtube.com/@MichaelLaidlerhttps://instagram.com/michaellaidler?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=https://www.facebook.com/MichaelLaidlerLeadership/Buy His Book:https://www.amazon.com/Greatness-Beyond-Badge-Principles-Self-Awareness-ebook/dp/B0B7R2JKPN/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=Y09L8OSJX6HK&keywords=greatness+beyond+the+badge&qid=1659929304&sprefix=%2Caps%2C83&sr=8-1Use Coupon Code "regulate" to get a discount on his 6-week speaking course!https://michaelalaidler.teachable.com/p/thesixweekspeakerEmail Michael:Michael@michaelalaidler.comMichael's website:https://michaelalaidler.com/ Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

In this week's episode, we're diving into a different dimension of anxiety, one that might leave you wondering, "Why is this happening?" So far, we've talked extensively about the anxiety that originates in our thoughts, but there's a whole other side to it that's just as important – Amygdala-Based Anxiety.But what exactly is the amygdala, and why is it crucial to understand this aspect of anxiety? Well, the amygdala is a tiny, almond-shaped structure in your brain, and it plays a pivotal role in your body's alarm system. You might recall us discussing the alarm system in previous episodes, and that's because it's essential for our survival.The amygdala's job is to detect danger and alert our body, triggering the fight-or-flight response. It's like a smoke detector in your brain, and sometimes, just like a smoke detector malfunctioning, the amygdala can get a little confused about what's truly a threat.But here's the kicker: sometimes anxiety starts with the amygdala, without any obvious trigger or anxious thoughts. It can be tricky to pinpoint why you're feeling anxious in these situations, which might make you feel like you're going crazy. The reality is, you're not – your brain is doing its job, just a bit too well.Your amygdala creates anxiety responses based on past memories, even if you don't consciously remember those experiences. It associates certain stimuli, like scents, sounds, or sights, with positive or negative events, leading to anxiety or panic responses when encountering them again.For example, if you associate a specific scent with a cherished memory, encountering that scent can make you feel warm and fuzzy. But if that scent is tied to a traumatic event, it can send you into a panic.The amygdala can also create anxiety based on traumatic experiences from early childhood, often before we have conscious memories. So, if you ever find yourself reacting strongly to a situation without any apparent reason, it might be your amygdala-based anxiety kicking in.We've also discussed how stress during pregnancy can affect a baby's brain development. If a pregnant mother experiences stress or trauma, it can influence her baby's brain development, leading to lifelong anxiety responses.Understanding the role of the amygdala in anxiety can be incredibly empowering. It's not about being crazy; it's about your brain doing its job a little too well. In upcoming episodes, we'll explore strategies to manage and mitigate amygdala-based anxiety, so stay tuned!Remember, knowledge is power. By understanding the source of your anxiety, you can better navigate the path to healing and peace. And if you want to delve deeper or need personalized guidance, don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here to support you on your journey.Talk to you soon! Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

It feels a little strange to say that the podcast will not be Better Regulate Than Never any more, but change can be a beautiful thing, and today, I'm here to share some exciting news about the evolution of my podcast journey.First and foremost, let me put your minds at ease – nothing is going away, and I'll still be here with you every Tuesday. The essence of what I do, supporting young people in regulating their emotions, remains the heart of my mission. However, we're taking a new direction with a rebrand.So, what's in a name, you ask? Well, quite a lot, as it turns out! Over the past year, several insightful individuals told me that "Better Regulate Than Never" doesn't quite resonate or make it easy for people to find us in the vast podcast universe. In a world of around 4 million podcasts, discoverability matters, and "Better Regulate Than Never" doesn't scream "Find me!"After careful consideration and advice from my business coach and others, I've decided it's time for a rebrand. Don't worry; I'm still the same me, just with a new name. From now on, you can find me under "Cynthia Coufal Coaching." The podcast, in particular, will be renamed "The Teen Anxiety Maze."Why the focus on anxiety, you might wonder? Well, it's not just about young people. Anxiety is a universal emotion that we all grapple with, and I've always discussed emotional regulation in my content. I believe that all 165+ episodes of my podcast, in their unique ways, have touched upon anxiety. It's all part of the same beautiful journey towards emotional wellness.Embracing this change is incredibly exciting for me. Once I wrapped my head around it, the floodgates of inspiration opened. There are countless directions we can explore, and I'm bursting with ideas to share with you. This rebrand is about reaching more listeners, making a greater impact, and helping even more young people – and those who care about them – navigate the intricate world of emotions.I've been through a journey with my own daughter, who faced anxiety, and it's given me a unique perspective. I've learned that anxiety isn't just about external situations; it often starts within our minds. In her younger years, she couldn't always express what she felt, and that's a challenge many young people face. It's my mission to be the bridge of understanding for both teens and their parents, as I've navigated this path myself.And speaking of parents, I'm here to offer a unique perspective as a parent who doesn't experience anxiety, but whose child does. This is an important angle I want to share with you, as it highlights the complexity of these emotions and the crucial role of parents in the journey of their children.In the grand scheme of things, this rebrand is just a change in name, but it signifies a renewed focus and determination to be the best source of information, support, and guidance for teens and their families. The core of my podcast remains the same – nurturing emotional well-being and resilience.I want to thank you for being a part of this journey so far, and I hope you'll continue to join me in this exciting new chapter. Change can be scary, but it can also be wonderfully transformative. Stick with me, and let's explore the Teen Anxiety Maze together.I can't wait to continue my Tuesday rendezvous with you, sharing insights, stories, and strategies to help navigate the maze of emotions. The adventure is far from over!Stay tuned, stay curious, and most importantly, stay well. Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

The episode features an interview with former client, Oliver, who shares his experience with the YouMap® framework.Host Cynthia introduces Oliver and discusses the purpose of the interview, highlighting the importance of real-life testimonials for YouMap®.Oliver introduces himself as a 14-year-old who worked with Cynthia for a few months.Exploring Strengths:Cynthia discusses the YouMap® framework's first pillar, Strengths, and reveals Oliver's top five strengths: Strategic, Communication, Empathy, Futuristic, and Ideation.Oliver reflects on his initial awareness of some strengths, such as creativity, and his newfound understanding of strengths like Strategic and Communication.The conversation delves into how Oliver's strengths have influenced his interests, including theater and comedy.Strengths Value Statement:Cynthia and Oliver talk about how they crafted a strengths value statement for Oliver.Oliver emphasizes how the statement captures the essence of his strengths and how it has positively impacted his perspective on himself.Using Strengths in Various Areas:The conversation turns to how Oliver has applied his strengths in different aspects of life.Oliver shares experiences in the classroom, highlighting the positive impact of strengths in his biology class.He also discusses how he has found ways to connect his strengths to less engaging subjects like web development.Applying Strengths at Home:Oliver reflects on how he's integrated the YouMap® insights into family life, emphasizing the value of family dinners.The Value of YouMap®:Oliver shares his perspective on the significance of taking the YouMap® assessment, emphasizing the self-discovery and life-improvement potential it offers.He stresses the importance of focusing on what's right with an individual rather than trying to fix perceived problems.Conclusion:Cynthia and Oliver conclude the interview with a warm exchange, highlighting the transformative power of YouMap®.Oliver expresses his gratitude for the opportunity to discuss the framework and emphasizes its potential to positively impact everyone's life.Oliver's Instagram  Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

It's our special Halloween episode, and I'm coming to you in a costume! You'll have to check out the video version on our YouTube channel to see what I'm dressed as, but let's just say I've taken on the persona of "Life Coach Barbie" for the day. Yes, you heard that right! I've always been a Barbie fan, and with the recent Barbie movie, it seemed like the perfect fit for this spooky season.Now, onto the heart of today's episode: "Are You Being Haunted by Your Thoughts?" I know we've all experienced those moments when thoughts seem to creep up and haunt us, creating anxiety and fear. These thoughts can feel like they're swirling around, making it hard to focus and move forward. I've had my fair share of such thoughts in the past, and I know many of you have too. That's what I want to discuss today.As a kid, I loved scary movies and books, and I had a particular fascination with witches. But here's the twist: even though I enjoyed these stories, I was terrified of them. I vividly remember my childhood nightmares about witches lurking under my bed, or behind the closet door, waiting for the right moment to pounce. And I know I'm not alone in having such scary thoughts.Our brains are incredibly powerful, and they can conjure up the most frightening scenarios, causing anxiety and fear. These thoughts often feel like ghosts, lingering and creating a sense of unease. But here's the important part: these thoughts are not reality; they are simply the product of our minds.Anxiety is a natural response to stress, and it's like an overactive alarm system in our brains. It can magnify our fears and make everyday thoughts seem terrifying. It's as if we're wearing anxiety-tinted glasses, distorting our perception of reality.So, what can we do to deal with these haunted thoughts? Here's a simple, yet powerful three-step approach:Turn the Lights On: Just like you'd turn on the lights to reveal that there are no monsters under the bed, start paying attention to your thoughts. Write them down, be curious about them, and notice any patterns. This is how you shed light on those haunting thoughts.Ask Yourself: Are These Ghosts Real? Challenge the thoughts by questioning their validity. Are they true, or are they just stories your mind is creating? Like the monsters under your bed, many of these thoughts are not real.Talk Back: Don't be a victim to your thoughts. Talk back to them. In your mind, tell them that they are not welcome, and you don't believe they are real. It's like asserting your control over those haunting thoughts.Remember, you don't have to face this journey alone. If the haunted thoughts are overwhelming, reach out for support. Parents, school counselors, mental health professionals, and even life coaches like me are here to help. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.You have the power to face your fears, and you don't have to be haunted by your thoughts. By implementing these simple steps, you can regain control and create an amazing life.Tune in, take notes, and let's banish those spooky thoughts together. I believe in you, and I'll talk to you soon.Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

As we delve deeper into the month of October, I've been exploring ways to connect our podcast topics with the themes of this spooky season. Today, I want to share a personal experience that inspired our latest episode and offer some insights into the powerful lessons we can learn from fear and darkness.Recently, I attended a church sermon that focused on the themes of Darkness and Fear. What struck me was when the pastor asked us to keep our eyes closed throughout the entire sermon. It was a simple yet profound exercise. By eliminating the visual stimuli, it brought a new level of focus to the words spoken. It left me feeling a bit dizzy and disoriented when I finally opened my eyes, realizing how little time we actually spend with our eyes closed, awake and sitting up. It got me thinking about the importance of sensory experiences and how they influence our perception of the world.They say that blind people often have sharper hearing and vice versa, as they must rely more on the senses they have. This made me ponder the lessons that fear and darkness can teach us. As Theodore Roethke wisely said, "In a dark time, the eye begins to see." Fear and darkness can be powerful teachers if we allow ourselves to learn from them.In our latest podcast episode, we explore the following lessons:1. Survival and Evolution: Fear is an innate human emotion that has evolved to help us survive. It triggers the "fight or flight" response, alerting us to potential dangers. In this way, fear has played a crucial role in the survival of our species.2. Personal Growth: Overcoming fear and facing darkness can lead to personal growth and self-discovery. Confronting our fears and challenges can help us develop resilience, courage, and a greater understanding of ourselves.3. Embracing Vulnerability: Darkness, whether physical, spiritual, or emotional, often requires us to embrace vulnerability. It forces us to confront our insecurities, uncertainties, and doubts. This vulnerability can lead to profound self-awareness and personal transformation.4. Creativity and Imagination: Darkness can spark creativity and imagination. When our visual senses are deprived in physical darkness, our other senses become heightened, and our minds can wander. This creative potential is essential for art, problem-solving, and innovation.5. Balance and Contrast: Light is best appreciated in contrast to darkness. Similarly, happiness and joy are more meaningful when contrasted with sadness and fear. Darkness and fear provide balance to our lives and help us appreciate the positive aspects.6. Spiritual Growth: In spiritual darkness, moments of doubt, crisis, or questioning can lead to profound spiritual growth and transformation. It often forces individuals to reevaluate their beliefs and values, ultimately deepening their understanding of themselves and their spirituality.In summary, fear and darkness are essential aspects of the human experience that can teach us valuable lessons about ourselves, our world, and our capacity for growth and resilience. Embracing these aspects, rather than avoiding them, can lead to a deeper understanding of life's complexities and the beauty hidden within them.Wishing you a month filled with self-discovery and courage.Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

As the Halloween season creeps up on us, you might have noticed the spooky decorations, pumpkin patches, and costume shops popping up everywhere. Even if you don't celebrate Halloween, it's nearly impossible to escape the festive spirit in the air! 🎃So, why not turn this ghoulish holiday into an opportunity to treat yourself? I'm excited to share some tips on how you can use Halloween to boost your mental health. Yes, you read that right! Halloween isn't all about the scary and eerie; it can be a time for personal growth, creativity, and self-care.1. Creative Expression: Get ready to unleash your inner artist! Halloween provides the perfect excuse to craft costumes, decorate your space, and carve pumpkins. These creative activities can serve as a form of self-expression and a fun way to relieve stress. Plus, you might discover hidden talents you never knew you had!2. Face Your Fears: Halloween is all about confronting your fears, whether it's watching horror movies, exploring haunted houses, or dressing up as something spooky. By facing your fears, you can empower yourself and build resilience. Of course, if this isn't your cup of witches' brew, there are plenty of other ways to embrace Halloween without the fright factor!3. Social Connection: Halloween offers a fantastic opportunity to socialize with friends and family. Spending time with loved ones and engaging in group activities can reduce feelings of loneliness and give your mental well-being a boost.4. Self-Exploration: Choosing a Halloween costume is a journey of self-discovery. It's a chance to reflect on what interests you, what you find fun, and even what challenges you. This process can help improve your self-awareness and self-acceptance.5. Temporary Escape: Donning a costume and transforming into someone or something else for a night can be a form of escapism. It's a break from your daily responsibilities, offering a brief mental health respite.6. Play and Fun: We all need more play and fun in our lives! Halloween parties and games, from apple bobbing to pumpkin carving contests, provide opportunities for lighthearted enjoyment.7. Mindful Enjoyment: Immerse yourself in the sensory experiences of Halloween, including the sights, sounds, and tastes. Being present in the moment and savoring these experiences can help reduce stress and anxiety.8. Giving and Receiving: Participating in Halloween traditions like trick-or-treating allows you to give and receive. Acts of generosity and kindness can boost your happiness and satisfaction levels.9. Charity and Altruism: Many people engage in charity events and fundraisers around Halloween. Participating in such events can provide a sense of purpose and contribute to positive mental well-being.10. Planning and Anticipation: Preparing for Halloween can be an enjoyable process. The anticipation and planning can give you something to look forward to, which can improve your mood and motivation.While Halloween can indeed be a time for self-care and mental well-being, it's important to remember that everyone's comfort level with this holiday varies. If Halloween isn't your thing, that's perfectly okay. Remember to prioritize self-care by setting boundaries and seeking support when needed.Wishing you a spooktacular and mentally healthy Halloween season! 🧡👻Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

In a world where 135 minutes a day are spent on social media, it's easy to get caught up in the digital whirlwind. Now, don't get me wrong; I'm all about embracing the digital age, but like all good things, it's all about balance.Join us in our latest episode as we dive deep into the 'dark side' of social media and digital devices. 🌑 I've got the lowdown on the pros and cons and some tips to help you strike that perfect balance.Here's a sneak peek at what we're covering:🧠 Mental Health: Did you know that constant comparisons can bring us down? The picture-perfect lives we see online can make us question ourselves. I'll talk about finding the right perspective.💻 Cyberbullying: It's real, it's relentless, and it's everywhere our screens go. I've got some tips to stay safe and empowered.🏃‍♂️ Physical Health: Too much screen time can lead to unhealthy lifestyles. I'll share some ideas on staying active and getting those ZZZs.📚 Academic and Work Performance: Those phones can be real distractions! I'll chat about how to stay focused when it matters most.👫 Relationships: Whether it's with family, friends, or even yourself, screen time can take a toll. I'll explore how to strengthen those bonds in the real world.🤯 Exposed to the Unexpected: Sometimes, the online world can get downright weird. I'll talk about content, privacy, and a few things that could have long-term consequences.I know this is just the tip of the iceberg, and there's so much more to discuss. But let's start by taking a closer look at our own habits. 🕵️Here's your mission: For three days, track your screen time. See how often you reach for your device and how you're using it. Are you scrolling mindlessly, or are you creating something amazing?I want you to explore the incredible world of technology intentionally, making it work for you rather than the other way around. 🚀👉 And if you know someone who needs to hear this, share this episode with them. 🎧​Here is a video about a social media fast. It's incredible to hear firsthand from teens who gave it a shot.Let's make the digital world work for us, not against us. Keep the conversation going and share your thoughts with me! I'd love to hear how you're doing in your quest to strike that perfect balance.Remember, you have the power to shape your digital destiny. 🌐Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

Introduction:Belonging is a fundamental human need, as important as food, water, shelter, and rest.Observations from working in schools, noticing students' need for belonging, even when they distance themselves.The fascination with the concept of belonging and its significance in overall well-being.Segment 1: The Drive to Belong:Early on, everyone strives to belong, whether in families, school or among friends and classmates.The concept of conforming is a natural starting point for belonging.Acknowledgment that sometimes conforming can be challenging, leading to disengagement.Personal experiences with conforming and the realization that it can be boring.A preference for individuality over conformity leads to innovation as an alternative to disengagement.Segment 2: The Power of Innovation:Defining innovation as creativity and thinking outside the box.Examples of personal innovation in dressing and hairstyling.Encouragement to challenge the choice between conforming, disengaging, or innovating.The call to embrace innovation as a means to express one's unique self.Highlighting how innovation can empower individuals to change the world.Illustrating the impact of young inventors like Gitanjali Rao, who detected lead in water at just 12 years old.Segment 3: Being the Change:Drawing attention to areas in school or the neighborhood that need change or improvement.Comparing conforming and disengaging to ignoring issues.Emphasizing that innovating means taking action to address problems.Steps for initiating change: identifying the problem, involving the right people, and inspiring others to join the cause.Encouragement for young people to believe in their ability to make a difference.Persistence and the importance of seeking support in a mission for change.Segment 4: The Challenge to Innovate:Urging listeners to actively seek opportunities for innovation during the week.The importance of creative thinking and stepping outside the comfort zone.Anticipating and welcoming the innovative ideas and actions from the audience.Inviting listeners to share their innovations and experiences.Closing:An invitation to become more self-aware and embrace new challenges in life.Introducing the YouMap® assessment as a tool for self-discovery and success.Encouraging listeners to try it out and promising to provide guidance through the results.The promise of increased success through self-awareness.The anticipation of future discussions and conversations.Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

IntroductionCynthia shares her love for podcasts and how often she learns something new from each one.Mention discovering the term "Mid" this week and its significance.Definitions of "Mid" include describing something as average or below average.Segment 1: Defining 'Mid' MomentsExplanation of 'Mid' moments as times when we're not excelling, just being average.Emphasizing that 'Mid' moments are not failures but part of life.Society's high standards and pressure to excel in every aspect.Segment 2: The Pressure to Be the BestDiscussion on the pressure to always excel and its impact on teens.Personal experiences of feeling like a performer when striving for perfection.How this realization relates to the podcast itself.Segment 3: Embracing ImperfectionThe importance of embracing imperfection and not settling for less.How 'Mid' moments provide opportunities for growth, learning, and resilience.A story about meeting someone who struggles to relax and the value of enjoying life beyond perfection.Segment 4: Connecting AuthenticallyReflecting on the importance of being present and authentic in podcasting.The desire to connect with listeners on a deeper level.Cynthia's commitment to balancing preparation with a relaxed, conversational approach.ConclusionReiteration of the idea that embracing imperfection can lead to valuable life lessons.A commitment to help young people feel good and live their best lives.Cynthia's mission is to connect genuinely with the audience and encourage authenticity.Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

This Thursday marks the 3rd birthday or 3rd Anniversary of Better Regulate Than Never, and I wanted to take a moment to reflect on this journey with you.I deliberately chose this date because it's a day that holds deep significance in my heart—it's my dad's birthday. He would have turned 96 this year. While I dearly wish he were here to witness the path I've taken in this life, I often feel his presence around me, reassuring me that he knows and supports what I'm doing.Last week, we took a journey through a Best Of episode that explored the vast spectrum of emotions, which lies at the heart of Better Regulate Than Never. My mission has always been about embracing and normalizing ALL emotions, recognizing that they are an essential part of our human experience.This week's Best Of episode is a treasure trove of actionable insights. We'll delve into strategies for dealing with everyday challenges like bullying, overcoming procrastination, navigating people-pleasing tendencies, understanding love languages, and addressing the feeling that things should conform to a specific mold.I can't wait for you to tune in and join me in celebrating this milestone. Your support and engagement have been instrumental in making Better Regulate Than Never what it is today, and for that, I am endlessly grateful.Thank you for being part of this journey, and here's to many more years of exploring and better regulating our emotions together. I genuinely hope you enjoy this week's episode.Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

I wanted to take a moment to express my gratitude for your continued support and to share some exciting news regarding the 3rd anniversary of the Better Regulate Than Never podcast.Over the past three years, I've explored various topics related to self-regulation, personal growth, and overall well-being. It has been an incredible journey, and I've had the privilege of connecting with many of you along the way. Your feedback and engagement have been invaluable, and I appreciate every moment you've spent listening to the podcast.As I contemplated how to celebrate this milestone, I came across some insightful advice for podcast creators. It emphasized that new listeners often start with the latest episode, and if that episode doesn't resonate with them, they might not return. To ensure that newcomers have a great first experience, I've decided to create something special for this occasion.I've always had a soft spot for compilation albums and greatest hits collections. There's something magical about having all your favorite songs in one place, without having to skip through tracks that don't quite hit the mark. That got me thinking: Why not apply the same concept to podcasting?So, for my 3rd anniversary, I'm excited to introduce two special compilation episodes. These episodes feature carefully curated segments from past shows that encapsulate the essence of Better Regulate Than Never. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to the podcast, these episodes are designed to provide a holistic view of the topics we've covered.The first compilation episode, which I'm thrilled to share with you today, focuses on the theme of emotions and how to regulate them. It's a core aspect of what this podcast is all about, and it's where the name "Better Regulate Than Never" originated. You'll find links to the full episodes of each clip in the show notes, so if a particular segment resonates with you, you can easily explore more.Listening to these clips again, I was reminded of the power of podcasts. They have a unique way of capturing moments that can change our lives. I've personally experienced profound insights while listening to podcasts, and I'm sure many of you have as well. Remembering those moments and where you were when you heard them is truly special.I encourage you to record the important things you say and hear in your own life. It's a simple but effective way to remind yourself of valuable lessons and experiences.Ultimately, podcasts are a source of inspiration and growth, and I hope that Better Regulate Than Never has been a positive influence on your journey. If these compilation episodes spark any ideas or resonate with you, please don't hesitate to reach out. Your feedback and ideas are always welcome.I'm incredibly grateful for the journey this podcast has taken me on so far, and I can't wait to see what the next 3 years hold. Thank you for being a part of this community and for your continued support. Together, we're striving to become better at regulating our lives and emotions.Talk to you soon, and here's to many more years of growth and discovery!Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

Today we're delving into the fascinating concept of "Einstein Time" and how it can revolutionize the way you manage your time and boost your productivity. Whether you're a teen, a young adult, or anyone eager to make the most of your day, this episode will change how you feel about time!"Time is an illusion."--Albert EinsteinEinstein Time is all about changing our perception of time. Instead of viewing time as a strict, linear progression, we're going to explore how we can harness the power of our minds to stretch, mold, and maximize our moments.So, how do we actually bend reality using Einstein Time? It's about stepping away from the conventional clock-watching and embracing a more flexible approach.Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

This episode's focus: Navigating the decision-making process for students and parents in choosing the right school.Job 1: Get into Your Best School:Desire for a classic, prestigious experience.Students focused on getting into a specific school.Caution against tying self-worth to school rankings.Story of a student's struggle with dropping in class rank and its impact.Emphasis on balance between academic excellence and well-being.Know Yourself:Importance of self-awareness.Introducing the "YouMap" tool to understand strengths, values, skills, and interests.Benefits of using the YouMap assessment during high school for exploration.Continued usefulness of self-assessment in college and beyond.Considerations for School Selection:Questions to ponder about school location, community size, campus size, class sizes, sports, clubs, internships, majors, Greek life, dining, diversity, research opportunities, spirituality, etc.Encouragement to experiment and try different ideas during high school.Use of College Finder and College Match tools to find suitable schools.The importance of personal fit in school selection.Planning for Success at Chosen School:Transition from focusing solely on getting into a school to planning for success within it.Reminder that school involves academics and personal development.Balancing academic excellence with social experiences.Making Honest Choices:The importance of choosing schools and majors that resonate with personal interests and strengths.Acknowledgment of uncertainty in the future but seeking clarity in present choices.Consideration of Gap Year:A gap year as an intentional exploration period before committing to college.The value of aligning gap year jobs with personal strengths and interests.Gaining experience, networking, and skill-building during the gap year.The Role of a School Readiness Audit:Introduction of school readiness audits.Offer of guidance for students and parents to make informed post-high school decisions.Addressing confusion and fears surrounding decision-making.The role of a neutral person, like the speaker, in guiding students.Conclusion:Reiteration that confusion is normal in the decision-making process.Assurance that there's nothing wrong with seeking guidance.Sign up for the School Readiness AuditFind my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

The episode explores the societal pressure to attend college and the alternative pathways to success.I discuss the notion that college isn't the only route to success and introduces the concept of different "Jobs to Be Done" when choosing college or training programs.Segment 1: The Complexity of Choosing College:The narrative around college attendance in society.Acknowledgment that not all college attendees achieve success.Empirical evidence of various paths leading to positive outcomes.Reflection on the forces influencing decision-making: dreams, societal expectations, needs, etc.The foundational question: Why seek more education? The importance of understanding one's goals.Segment 2: The Jobs to Be Done Theory:Introduction to the "Jobs to Be Done" theory by Bob Moesta.Explaining the concept of "hiring" products or services to fulfill a job.Application of the theory to choosing colleges or training programs.Authors Michael B. Horn and Bob Moesta conducted interviews to uncover motivations for college choices.Segment 3: The Five "Jobs to Be Done" for Choosing College:Overview of the five distinct reasons people choose college.Get into "their best" school: Aspiring for a prestigious college experience.Do what's expected of me: Fulfilling obligations or seeking a safety net.Get away: Escaping current circumstances, habits, or relationships.Step it up: Pursuing personal growth and improvement.Extend myself: Seeking to learn, challenge, and acquire skills.Segment 4: Personal Experiences with Choosing College:I give my personal experiences related to the five jobs.Relating to the desire to get away from small-town life.Balancing relationships and college choices.The shift from not knowing what to expect to seeking personal growth.Instances of extending oneself for career advancement and personal interest.Segment 5: Self-Reflection and Guidance:Encouraging high school students to critically evaluate their motives for choosing college.Suggesting college students reassess their initial reasons for attending.Addressing parents: Encourage open conversations about college choices.Segment 6: The Role of Self-Discovery in Decision Making:Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness in decision-making.Mention of the YouMap profile assessment and coaching for informed decisions.Highlighting the potential pitfalls of making uninformed choices.Sharing insights from working with high school students and their transitions to college.Offering help to parents navigating their children's college decisions.Conclusion:Wrapping up the episode's focus on college decision-making.Inviting listeners to engage with the YouMap assessment and coaching.Encouraging parents to participate and provide tools for informed choices.Reassurance that self-discovery aids better decision-making.Mention of scheduling a conversation for personalized guidance.Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

I know that finding mental health support for your child is difficult. I have been hearing about 6 month waiting lists with therapists and clinics. There are so many people out in the world helping and working with children. I want you to know about all of these programs so you can find help with you need it!This week, I am introducing you to Bloomfully and specifically their I Believe in Me! mentoring program. It is for girls age 10-13.Concerned for what the world's influence was doing to a girl's self esteem, Becky, Katie and Allie, came together to create a program to support tweens and parents. For over 30 years, these women have worked with girls to strengthen their confidence and realize their potential. With Katie's vision and direction, Becky's creative sparkle and Allie's "CAN DO" attitude, these women are magic! They offer real life strategies and tools to foster growth and strength in the minds and hearts of girls. This world needs strong girls, who know who they are, and are ready to strengthen those around them.Check out their Webpage​Email: becky@bloomfully.comInstagram: @ibelieveinmegirlsFacebook: ibelieveinmeBecky Fife, Owner, President, Co-Creator of I Believe in MeMeet Becky Fife, a true powerhouse in motherhood and women's empowerment. As a mother to seven children, Becky has not only navigated the challenges of motherhood but has used her voice to inspire and support others. Through her own experience, she has developed effective systems and strategies to organize her life and create space to serve those around her, while still raising a large family. Becky's commitment to empowering women and girls is reflected in her numerous accomplishments. In 2015, she was honored as Nevada's Mother of the Year and has since dedicated herself to strengthening mothers across America. With four daughters of her own, Becky is passionate about helping young girls develop confidence early on, so they can overcome negative influences in the world. To this end, she has founded two companies, "I Believe in Me" and "Bloomfully," which focus on building up women of all agesKatie Parker, Owner, CEO, Co-CreatorKatie is the CEO of Bloomfully, LLC and has a passion for building the confidence of young girls, tweens and women. Her mission is to help them grow above the comparing, the criticism, and the self-doubt that are plaguing girls. Katie is married to Matt Parker of Album Surfboards and they live in Orange County, CA with their six children. In the Summer they surf and in the Winter they snowboard. Family and faith are at her core and the blooming businesses are an extension of that foundation. She is the creator of Singers Company, I Believe in Me, Bloomfully and Tavi’s Fairy Festival. She received her BA degree in Communications/Public Relations from Brigham Young University. Allie Callister, Owner, Co-Creator.Allie is a co creator and content developer for I Believe in Me.She graduated from BYU in Marriage, Family, and Human Development, and has volunteered for many years teaching young girls the importance of faith, family, and wholesome values. Allie has run a successful beauty and eyelash extension business for the last 10yrs and is passionate about helping women of all ages look and feel confident.She is the mother of 4 blonde hair, blue eyed little cuties.  Her highest priority and joy is being there for her little ones, helping them become the best version of themselves.Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

Muhammad Ali: "It isn't the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it's the pebble in your shoe." This simple yet profound quote holds a wealth of wisdom that we can apply to various aspects of our lives.Muhammad Ali's quote encourages us to view our life's challenges as mountains, be it personal goals, assignments, difficult situations, or major life events. These challenges can be overwhelming, but what's intriguing is how the smallest things, the "pebbles in our shoe," can become significant hurdles along the way.In the context of schoolwork, our "mountain" could be a challenging assignment or project. However, the "pebbles" that hinder our progress might include distractions like video games, phones, or disorganization. By strategizing and eliminating these distractions, we can be more productive and focused, ensuring that the "pebbles" don't derail us from reaching our academic goals.Just like preparing for a literal mountain climb, we must have a plan for addressing emotional hurdles. Feelings like stress, worry, anxiety, or disappointment can become significant "pebbles" obstructing our path. Acknowledging and processing these emotions through reflection and planning can help us overcome them, making way for smoother progress toward our goals.As we navigate through life's challenges, both big and small, it's essential to recognize the impact of those seemingly insignificant "pebbles" that can hinder our progress. By addressing them with awareness and strategy, we can maintain our energy, enthusiasm, and determination to conquer the mountains ahead.Don't forget my Back to School Sale is going on right now and you can get a YouMap® Profile to help you or your child identify some of those pebbles that get in the way of school and work success!Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

I have wondered if my life seems so amazing because I haven’t really had a lot of adversity. I have had bad things happen and have had some really low and sad times, BUT the whole of my life and existence has been wonderful, so maybe my ideas are skewed.I listened to Viktor Frankl's A Man’s Search for Meaning. It was on a list of 100 Best Books of All Time.Viktor was an Austrian Psychiatrist who was in Nazi concentration camps during World War II for 3 years!Viktor’s account shows that even in the face of the most awful things we can imagine, you can rise above and still have a meaningful life. Frankl emphasizes that even in the direst circumstances, individuals still possess the freedom to choose their attitudes and responses to the situation. He argues that finding meaning and purpose in life, regardless of the circumstances, is crucial for psychological well-being.You may not believe that when I tell you because you probably think, "What do you know about adversity?" and I agree. But Viktor Frankl saw the worst of the worst of adversity and he also agrees. So believe him. :)Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

How do you know if you are living your best life? It means something different for every person. How do you define it?Since Human existence, we have been trying to figure out what a good life entails. What parts would it have? Why are some people happy with nothing and some people unhappy with everything?I think it is part of our journey to figure this out for ourselves, but researchers have some ideas about what to look for.This week, I will tell you what I found out. I have 5 steps to help you craft the BEST life for YOU!Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!

My husband and I had this conversation recently about "wasted" majors. He had recently talked to two young people who couldn't get jobs in their chosen fields and commented that they "wasted" their time in college. One major was in creative writing and one was in Graphic Arts. I really started thinking about how tragic it was that someone couldn't study what they wanted to or that they were passionate about because they wouldn't be able to find a job. Why is that? Creative writing is important. Graphic Arts are important. Why couldn't someone find a job doing important work that they really loved and wanted to do? It started me thinking that it isn't the majors themselves that aren't working, it is HOW we are educating students in high school and college about these majors. When do they learn the specific skills they need to get jobs in these fields? When do they learn about HOW to market themselves or the business skills they need to sell themselves to these industries to get the jobs? In my high school, we weren't teaching those skills and colleges MIGHT be a little better, but not much. Students and parents need to advocate for more real-world experiences and applications of skills to happen before their child ever graduates.I'd love to hear your ideas about this topic. Email me or message me on social media and tell me what you think.Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Get my Free Parent Guide for Anxiety!