What's the after effect of almost being hit by a car? Do you fight, fight or freeze and what does each of these mean?Well luckily for us, Sofie has read 'the Body Keeps the Score' by Bessel van der Kolk and can tell us everything we need to know about how the body processes trauma and why it can manifest for years after the event. Main source:The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma - Bessel van der KolkA List of All Our Books HereSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!Help Hole is on Instagram and TikTokSofie is on Instagram, TikTok, Threads, Twitter and FacebookAbby is on Instagram, TikTok and ThreadsBUY SOFIE'S BOOK WILL I EVER HAVE SEX AGAIN? HERE!EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanSPECIAL PRODUCERS Lillie, Anjana Rinne and MamaWambaJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK Photo by Marie Hald and Logo by Haiminh Le

This episode of Help Hole feels close to home in more ways than one, as not only are our hosts in the very same room for the chat, but the book they are talking about, is written by none other than Sofie Hagen!Will I Ever Have Sex Again, by Sofie Hagen is an exploration of the modern sexual landscape and how it impacts not just on the author, but society as a whole- even Abby...although mostly on Tuesdays and Saturdays.Main source:Will I Ever Have Sex Again by Sofie HagenAlso mentioned on the podcast:Against Purity: Living Ethically in Compromised Times by Alexis ShotwellJuno RocheHappy Fat by Sofie HagenA List of All Our Books HereSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!Help Hole is on Instagram and TikTokSofie is on Instagram, TikTok, Threads, Twitter and FacebookAbby is on Instagram, TikTok and ThreadsBUY SOFIE'S BOOK WILL I EVER HAVE SEX AGAIN? HERE!EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanSPECIAL PRODUCERS Lillie and MamaWambaJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK by Sofie Hagen (temporary, don’t worry)

It's a little snippet of our Every Other Monday bonus episode! You can hear them all, and, support the podcast on patreon.com/helphole !

Todays episode will lift your spirits for a number of reasons, firstly our hosts crossed oceans in order to record in person AND they're in Denmark, home of Hygge - so it feelt only right that the book they delve into should be Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living by Meik Wiking. As well as exploring why Hygge can only be achieved if there are adequate bins in the street, they also explore their feelings after a visit to Copenhagen's Happiness Museum,  a stirring experience in many ways.Main source:Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living by Meik WikingAlso mentioned on the podcast:The Happiness Museum A List of All Our Books HereSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!Help Hole is on Instagram and TikTokSofie is on Instagram, TikTok, Threads, Twitter and FacebookAbby is on Instagram, TikTok and ThreadsBUY SOFIE'S BOOK WILL I EVER HAVE SEX AGAIN? HERE!EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanSPECIAL PRODUCERS Lillie and MamaWambaJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK by Sofie Hagen (temporary, don’t worry)

A little SNIPPET of our full-length bonus episode, which you can hear in full over on patreon.com/helphole!

The Joy of Being Selfish by Michelle Elman is the inspiration for this edition of Help Hole, as Sofie and Abby explore the fascinating subject of boundaries and how being 'selfish' can actually be an act of love to the people around you. And as an extra treat, we also get to hear from the author herself as she directly answers one of Sofie's burning questions. Main source:The Joy of Being Selfish: Why You Need Boundaries and How to Set Them by Michelle ElmanAlso mentioned on the podcast:The Selfish Romantic by Michelle ElmanA List of All Our Books HereSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!Help Hole is on Instagram and TikTokSofie is on Instagram, TikTok, Threads, Twitter and FacebookAbby is on Instagram, TikTok and ThreadsBUY SOFIE'S BOOK WILL I EVER HAVE SEX AGAIN? HERE!EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanSPECIAL PRODUCERS Lillie and MamaWambaJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK by Sofie Hagen (temporary, don’t worry)

A little snippet, or, a teaser, from our Patreon and Subscribers ONLY exclusive content. Abby gets us in legal trouble with Disney and then we begin answering a listener question but get sidetracked by talks and feelings about GENDER. Abby is also uncharacteristically problematic in this episode, and Sofie (who's writing this) can only apologise.For the full episode, subscribe on Apple or sign up on patreon.com/helphole

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chödrön, supplies the context for this episode, and was in no small part inspired by a staggering act of kindness Abby experienced in her own life.One of the inevitabilities of life is that at some stage or another, things will fall apart, so how can this book teach us to survive and learn from these times? Main source:When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times a book by Pema Chodron.Also mentioned on the podcast:Zen and the art of stand-upMore about Pema ChödrönBecoming Pema A List of All Our Books HereSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!Help Hole is on Instagram and TikTokSofie is on Instagram, TikTok, Threads, Twitter and FacebookAbby is on Instagram, TikTok and ThreadsBUY SOFIE'S BOOK WILL I EVER HAVE SEX AGAIN? HERE!EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanSPECIAL PRODUCERS Lillie and MamaWambaJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK by Sofie Hagen (temporary, don’t worry)

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Today's episode of Help Hole sees Sofie and Abby take a moment, and attempt an exercise in self compassion, but can they learn to love themselves with the help of Dr Kristin Neff's book ' Self Compassion', or do the rules only apply to everyone else?Main source:Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff https://self-compassion.org/ Also mentioned on the podcast:Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness: Practices for Safe and Transformative HealingBy David A. TreleavenA List of All Our Books HereSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!Help Hole is on Instagram and TikTokSofie is on Instagram, TikTok, Threads, Twitter and FacebookAbby is on Instagram, TikTok and ThreadsBUY SOFIE'S BOOK WILL I EVER HAVE SEX AGAIN? HERE!EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanSPECIAL PRODUCERS Lillie and MamaWambaJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK by Sofie Hagen (temporary, don’t worry)

A little sneak-peak into a BONUS EPISODE. If you want access to the full episode, go to patreon.com/helphole and sign up.

In this episode of Help Hole, Abby and Sofie combat resistance and look at what holds them back from creativity with the help of 'The War of Art' by Steven Pressfield. Let battle commence. Main source:The War of Art by Steven Pressfield Also mentioned on the podcast:Julia Cameron: The Artist's Way Rob Delaney: A Heart That WorksA List of All Our Books HereSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!Help Hole is on Instagram and TikTokSofie is on Instagram, TikTok, Threads, Twitter and FacebookAbby is on Instagram, TikTok and ThreadsBUY SOFIE'S BOOK WILL I EVER HAVE SEX AGAIN? HERE!EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanSPECIAL PRODUCERS Lillie and MamaWambaJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK by Sofie Hagen (temporary, don’t worry)

In today's Help Hole, Sofie and Abby look at ways to build better habits from existing patterns, and what these subtle changes could mean for their lives. Main source:Atomic Habits by James ClearAlso mentioned on the podcast:Sahil Blooms Curiosity Chronicle The Power of Habit by Charles DuhiggA List of All Our Books Herehttp://www.helphole.com/booksSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!www.patreon.com/helpholeHelp Hole is on Social Mediawww.instagram.com/helpholepod Sofie is oninstagram.com/sofiehagendktiktok.com/@sofie.hagenhttps://www.threads.net/@sofiehagendkAbby is oninstagram.com/abbywambaughhttps://www.threads.net/@abbywambaughBUY SOFIE'S BOOK WILL I EVER HAVE SEX AGAIN? HERE!EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanSPECIAL PRODUCERS Lillie and MamaWambaJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK by Sofie Hagen (temporary, don’t worry)

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In this episode, Abby and Sofie look at Sober Curious by Ruby Warrington, and question their own relationships with alcohol and explore what it means to be 'sober curious'.Main source:Sober Curious: The Blissful Sleep, Greater Focus, Limitless Presence, and Deep Connection Awaiting Us All on the Other Side of Alcohol By Ruth WarringtonAlso mentioned on the podcast:The Small Bow Newsletter: The Small Bow | SubstackArticle of sobriety books: 8 Books About Sobriety to Help You Drink Less, or Quit Altogether - The New York Times (nytimes.com)Sober Powered (Sober scientist podcast) Sober PoweredA List of All Our Books HereBooks — Help Hole PodcastEmail us!hello@helphole.comSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!Help Hole's Help Hole | We help you help yourself by reading books to help ourself(s) | PatreonHelp Hole is on Social MediaHelp Hole Podcast🎙️ (@helpholepod) • Instagram photos and videosSofie is onSofie Hagen (@sofiehagendk) • Instagram photos and videosLog in | TikTokSofie Hagen (@sofiehagendk) on ThreadsAbby is onAbby Wambaugh (@abbywambaugh) • Instagram photos and videosAbby Wambaugh (@abbywambaugh) on Threads

Here you go. A little 20 minutes'ish clip for you, from our Patreon Bonus Episode. If you want to hear the rest, you'll have to cough up the goods. £3 a month at a minimum, which, let's be honest, is less than £1 a week. So enjoy a little mini-freebie and we'll see you again SOON. Go to patreon.com/helphole to sign up.Find us at instagram.com/helpholepod

In this second episode, Sofie reads Flirtology - Stop Swiping, Start Talking and Find Love by Jean Smith and explains it to Abby and you, our listener.Main source:Flirtology - Stop Swiping, Start Talking and Find Love by Jean SmithMore information on flirtology.comA List of All Our Books Herehttp://www.helphole.com/booksEmail us!hello@helphole.comSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!www.patreon.com/helpholeHelp Hole is on Social Mediawww.instagram.com/helpholepod Sofie is oninstagram.com/sofiehagendktiktok.com/@sofie.hagenhttps://www.threads.net/@sofiehagendkAbby is oninstagram.com/abbywambaughhttps://www.threads.net/@abbywambaughEXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK by Sofie Hagen (temporary, don’t worry)

In this very first episode of Help Hole, Abby reads The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga and explains it to Sofie and you, our listener. Main source:The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake KogaAlso mentioned on the podcast:How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale CarnegieA List of All Our Books Herehttp://www.helphole.com/booksEmail us!hello@helphole.comSubscribe to our Patreon for extra bonus episodes!www.patreon.com/helpholeHelp Hole is on Social Mediawww.instagram.com/helpholepod Sofie is oninstagram.com/sofiehagendktiktok.com/@sofie.hagenhttps://www.threads.net/@sofiehagendkAbby is oninstagram.com/abbywambaughhttps://www.threads.net/@abbywambaughEXECUTIVE PRODUCERS Sofie Hagen and Abby WambaughPRODUCER AND EDITOR Amanda RedmanJINGLE by Nicky ElsonARTWORK by Sofie Hagen (temporary, don’t worry)

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