11-05-2023
The Unintended Consequences of Blame and Criticism
Harry, 9, is an impulsive, Integrity kid* reacting, as kids do, to how he has come to view himself—not good enough, not as loved as his sister, a problem, bad. His parents have raised him by the common myth that ordering and criticizing a child for bad behavior will cause that child to change that behavior—and that one should never give positive attention to negative behavior. Harry has developed a strong defense of clownish yet aggressive and hurtful “silliness”—a defense that protects his belief in himself. Tune in to learn where Harry’s resentment and anger comes from and how his mother must first see Harry differently before he can see himself differently. Other podcasts about Integrity and Harmony kids: Episode 12 – Oct. 6, ’20 The Orchid Child and the Dandelion Child Pt. 2Episode 13 - Oct. 13, ’20 Stubborn Kid, Frustrated ParentsEpisode 34 – March 18, 21 The Squeaky Wheel Gets the Most but Wrong Kind of AttentionEpisode 40 – April 29, 21 Controlling the FightEpisode 49 – July 1, ’21 “Parenting him is like a full-time job”Episode 73 – Dec. 16, ’21 “This behavior has got to stop!”Episode 89 – April 7, 22 Dealing with Emotion ExplosionsEpisode 99 – June 16, ’22 “Why don’t I ever get to decide?” Helping an Integrity Kid Feel HeardEpisode 124 – Dec. 15, ’23 When It Feels Like You’ve Lost Control without PunishmentBonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparentingWebsite: bonnieharris.com Email: bh@bonnieharris.comProduced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.comUse this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook on AudibleWhen Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It🚨 New offer for Tell Me About Your Kids listeners!! 🚨 Join Thrive Market and Get My Special Discount https://www.tkqlhce.com/click-100687948-15329496 Earth Mama Organics https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=177850&u=3330166&m=22557&urllink=&afftrack=