The Alchemy Experience

Christopher Lembke

In these episodes we dive deep into the challenging aspects of life, in the pursuit of making some sense of this thing we call life. Our concept is to have an open discussion with the public that offers a variety of viewpoints and approaches to any topic we delve into. It also allows us to hear questions and experiences from every day walk of life from our listeners and we then share them live on the show. On occasion we will have guests with specific knowledge join in by invitation to widen our topics. You will also find that we will treat more metaphysical and esoteric subjects as well as the ones more towards mindfulness. We will also try to bridge the polarisation that exists in society today. The only way that we see this being done is by being role models and showing up in public as such. You can expect to hear guests of opposing views having civil and compassionate discord during these episodes. This is what we feel is needed at every level of society today and less of the fear mongering that goes on. We strive to help our listeners to live their lives as the optimal versions of themselves, that is our calling and our mission. Enjoy! To learn more about us please visit https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/
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Blind Spots and Denial
1 hr 8 mins
Blind Spots and Denial
"If you desire healing, let yourself fall ill, let yourself fall ill." - RumiThe aspects of ourselves that we refuse to accept and that hide from us remain in our blindspots. The denial of our whole person; the good, the bad and the ugly, without that kind of judgement nor labelling is the resistance we exercise preventing us from moving into flow and our greateness.  Blindspots and denial are the unconscious and conscious aspects of the same process. Our limiting beliefs and blockages are sometimes quite plain for us to see, but we aren't aware of their impact on our lives. However, they can also reside in our subconscious stemming from experiences of which we have no conscious memories.  They are revealed through our words, thoughts and actions, especially when we are triggered by experiences. Which is why we mustn't waste a good trigger, they are the clues to finding the optimised version of ourselves. Whatever triggers us, an aspect of that is held unhealed within ourselves, so observe your experiences and how you respond to them. When you are triggered, ask yourself, "Interesting, I wonder when I experienced this fear the first time?". First of all you interrupt the negative thought process by a inquisitive thought and by asking a question, you subconscious is compelled to give you an answer. If you are observant you will then get the path towards healing that aspect within yourself that was triggered by your external experience.  Be mindful of the dismissal and denial of the memories that might surface. What you may process as benign in adulthood, could very well be the original wounding that is the source of the energy that is holding you back. Your experience as a child is going to be from a completely different perspective than that of you as a person with a fully formed brain. Hence, view your experience from that younger perspective with compassion, acceptance, forgiveness and gratitude. Also, acknowledge and recognise the experience of your younger self for what it was, and ask that aspect of yourself it is indeed ok for you to let go of it and move on from it. When you are working through these aspects of yourself it is important to treat yourself with authenticity, compassion, love and kindness. We tend to become defensive and lashing out, but try to move into a space of raw acceptance of who you are and the experiences you've had. The defensiveness is there as your protection, and it has protected you until now, so show it gratitude and compassion, but allow it to be released. Surround yourself with authentic people that you feel safe to have honest conversations with to start discovering the whole of you. Start working with yourself understanding what makes you tick and what you desire for yourself. Practice being aware of all aspects of yourself all the time. By creating new patterns that serves for you to becoming the optimal version of yourself, you replace the old patterns that have served to protect you from the perspective of your core wounding.  The more of these patterns you release, the less of these blindspots and denial will be there for you to discover. However, there will always be these aspects and it is important to work with others who can help us reveal them, but they will be easier and easier to work through as you become more and more resourced to deal with them.   Support this podcast
1 hr 8 mins
Choices And Accountability
Realising your accountability for your choices will shift your world“A man is whole only when he takes into account his own shadow.” – Djuna BarnesIf you embody nothing else, take this in; choice is a superpower. You choose how you think, speak and act, the three only things you control in life. Every choice activates a chain reaction of consequences for which we can only be accountable for our choice. However, being accountable for our choices does not equate to apportioning blame, it means you are aware of your choices and accept them and, if needed, forgive yourself for making them.  One malady coming from ignoring our own choices and accountability is the “Actor-Observer” cognitive bias. This bias is when we blame all “bad” experiences on outside factors and attribute all “good” things to ourselves. When we avoid accountability we give up our power to direct our life where we want it to be and to the experiences we want to have. Being accountable means taking back our power and understanding what we can control (listen to the podcast https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/podcast-control/ (Control) to gain a deeper understanding of this concept). The beautiful paradox is that, understanding that we can’t control our external environment and turning our attention inwards to the three things we can control; thoughts, words and actions, gives us full control of our journey.  Attributing blame outside ourselves only result in frustration, conflict, division, separation, and ultimately, lack of resolution to the challenge. With accountability we allow ourselves to see the bigger picture, we can uncover and heal our core wounds, start seeing ourselves in others, move into a state of flow, understand our role and the the role of others in our lives, and approach our experiences with https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/compassion-podcast/ (compassion), https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/acceptance-podcast/ (acceptance), https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/forgiveness-podcast/ (forgiveness )and https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/gratitude-podcast/ (gratitude).  Realising that we have a choice is an awakening. The choice is not necessarily as to what we do or how others see us, but rather how we perceive our experiences. One of the principles in Buddhism is the pursuit of non-attachment/non-judgement. So, your choices lie in how you perceive your experience and how you you are going react to it. We also have choice in how we react to choices we have made that lead to the outcomes of our experiences; it is we who judge them “good” or “bad”. Especially when we have experienced trauma, reconciling that our choices had an impact on the outcome, is a tough pill to swallow, not to mention forgiving ourselves and others and finding the gift of a lesson in it. Again, we go back to non-judgment, whether someone chooses to find the gifts and learn from trauma or to continue to suffer under the weight of victimhood, we accept their journey for what it is, but that is also a choice that we make as individuals.  Often, when we look back at our choices, we tend to become hesitant to make choices, it can paralyse us, because we might mainly have made choices that led to challenges. However, the more work we do on ourselves and listen to our inner guidance, we will find flow and peace in our choices, because we accept them and their outcomes as purposeful. Remember though that before you are given validation for that you can https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/trust-podcast/ (trust), you need to embody trust and have faith in that your journey has lead you to where you are so that you are optimally prepared to move forward to where you are going.  Support this podcast
1 hr 10 mins
Science of Consciousness - With Allyn Evans and Bob Holbrook
The definition of Consciousness has eluded science thus far. As you will discover in this conversation, when we go into a state of expanded consciousness the ability to measure the brain activities stop. However, this fact does tell us when a person goes into that state, i.e. the lack of measurements is the clue, we can tell where the gate is, but we cannot peer through it with technology, we can only experience it within ourselves. Subtle energy changes with the expansion of consciousness, and that we can measure, so there are ways we can start to connect the dots. Of course to satisfy the terms of what is empirical data and isn't, we need to prove the means as to how we are connecting the dots and their validity. This episode is a first look into the "Science of Consciousness" and I hope to bring you more interviews with other perspectives on this topic. About the Monroe Institute (https://www.monroeinstitute.org/ (https://www.monroeinstitute.org/)) The Monroe Institute is the world leader in human consciousness exploration. Founded in the early 1970s as an educational and research organization by Robert A. Monroe, our experiential programs are offered on our main campus in Faber, Virginia USA as well as 12 additional countries and online. Using specially designed binaural beat audio-guided technology, originally developed by Bob Monroe, you will learn valuable tools to explore, navigate and use non-physical aspects of your own higher consciousness. Join the tens of thousands of people who have attended our retreats and awaken your consciousness to discover a new more compassionate perspective about yourself and others—what and who you are and why you are here. About Allyn Evans (Interim Executive Director and President, allyn@energymedicinesquared.com) Allyn, earned her BA in Psychology from the University of Mississippi and an MBA from Texas Tech University. She has been a beloved Monroe trainer for more than a decade and was instrumental in helping to launch Monroe’s virtual programming. She also played a key role in helping develop content for Monroe's new meditation app, Expand. Allyn is currently also Monroe's Chief Program Officer and trains Energy Medicine, not only at the Monroe Institute, but at locations around the world hosted by Monroe's international trainers. About Bob Holbrook (Technical Director, focusfreest8@aol.com) Bob Holbrook has been a student of consciousness for most of his life. He is an anthropologist with experience in South America, Africa, the Middle East and the United States. Bob studied Anthropology and Psychology at Ball State University, Indiana University and the University of Chicago. He studied Archaeology with the University of Michigan. Bob is an active member of the Society for the Anthropology of Consciousness, The Institute of Noetic Sciences and a certified provider with the Institute of Heartmath. He is presently working with individuals in the areas of addiction and post traumatic stress disorder. Support this podcast
1 hr 30 mins
Law of TransformationFearless Entrepreneurship with Shaahin Cheyene
Nothing motivates you to move forward in life as when you have lost everything. However, once you taken yourself out of the swamp, you can with the right mindset, you can also move through life without fear of having nothing, because you know you got out of it once before, and you can do it again. Shaahin Cheyene epitomises the journey “from rags to riches”. From making himself homeless at the age of 15 to putting drug barons out of business on the rave scene with his legal Herbal Ecstacy pill, to inventing the Vapir Vaporizer, to now teaching people Amazon Mastery. Our discussion spans the psychology of motivation and drive, origin of personal fear, perfection paralysis, definition of success, Vikings (no not the NFL team, the real Scandinavian ones) and much more. Check out the links to Shaahin’s various projects below and don’t forget to buy his book, “Billion – How I Became The King of The Thrill Pill Cult”. Shaahin is a master story teller, so you won’t be disappointed. All our listeners also get a special free gift from Shaahin, a free introductory course in to Amazon Mastery (value $200 (not exchangeable or transferrable)). Just send him an email with the subject “Alchemy” and he’ll send back instructions how to access the course. He promises there won’t be any need to give up any card details or similar. Shaahin’s email: darkzess@gmail.com Book: https://www.shaahincheyenne.com/book (https://www.shaahincheyenne.com/book) Hack and Grow Rich Podcast: https://www.shaahincheyenne.com/hack-and-grow-rich-podcast (https://www.shaahincheyenne.com/hack-and-grow-rich-podcast) Amazon Mastery Course: https://freecasestudy.fbasellercourse.com/home-amazon-mastery (https://freecasestudy.fbasellercourse.com/home-amazon-mastery) Support this podcast
1 hr 27 mins
Free Will and Potentialities
"When I discover who I am, I will be free." - Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man"Do not let the memories of your past limit the potential of your future. There are no limits to what you can achieve on your journey through life , except in your mind." - Roy T. Bennett, The Light In The HeartThe concept of "potentiality" goes back to Aristotle, looking at "Actuality, or Activity" and "Potentiality". Intellectually it is not too challenging to understand the concept on its face value, i.e. what is your potential and what is what you actually manifest from that potential. However, when you start looking at where the potentiality of your life lies, it gets more complex. The potentiality lies in dimensions beyond our immediate perception and it is our own limitations that dictate what actuality you manifest from it. This is where "Free Will" comes into the equation. We may not perceive it, but we have free will as to what we draw from our potentiality into our physical expression. What you manifest lies in your mindset and ability to perceive. However, from what aspect of yourself are you exercising free will? Are you consciously aware of that aspect of yourself from where you direct your free will? I will venture to say, "you do not", in actual fact very few of us do. I am yet to fully connect and be aware of that aspect of myself, but I know it is there and I seek to come into alignment with it. My hope is that you are given some new perspectives and start to asking yourself some of the big questions to release you from the boundaries of your own limiting beliefs. Enjoy! About Luigi: Luigi Sciambarella is a Monroe Institute trainer in the UK and a hypno-psychotherapist. Since 2010, Luigi has been teaching and giving talks on meditation, lucid dreaming and personal development around the world to thousands of people who are interested in exploring the many different facets of mind (conscious, unconscious and everything in-between). This has led Luigi to develop a deep understanding of the waking, dreaming and sleeping mind and the phenomena of lucid dreaming, out of body experiences, sleep paralysis, insomnia and the various parasomnias that can disturb a good night’s sleep. Monroe Institute: http://www.monroeinstitute.org/ (www.monroeinstitute.org) Monroe Institute UK: http://www.monroeinstituteuk.org/ (www.monroeinstituteuk.org) Day and Night Therapy: http://www.dayandnighttherapy.com/ (www.dayandnighttherapy.com) Monroe Institute’s Expand app: https://info.monroeinstitute.org/get-expand-app (https://info.monroeinstitute.org/get-expand-app) Contact Luigi either at: luigi@monroeinstituteuk.org or luigi@dayandnighttherapy.com The Infinity Life If you want to get to the bottom of releasing your limiting beliefs, please also have a look at our 8-week training programme to help you develop tools and practices that can help release your core wounds and energetic blockages. www.theinfinity.life Support this podcast
1 hr 49 mins
Who am I?“The outer world is a reflection of the inner world. Other people’s perception of you is a reflection of them; your response4 to them is an awareness of you.” Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the HeartIf you are familiar with psychology, you can compare authenticity to Carl Rogers’ identification of the “Organismic Self”. With that he refers to that aspect of ourselves where we spend our lives trying return and express. It is the original true self that we were before we started taking on conditionings from our external world and processing them into our perception of our surroundings. Carl Jung’s equivalent would the “Self”. It is where we develop from. Spiritually leaning minds will refer to our authenticity as the soul aspect of ourselves.  Irrespective of the conceptualisation, our authentic selves is that aspect of ourselves that is pure and without any influences from the outside. This aspect starts to be covered and hidden as we start experiencing the world and making conscious judgements as to what it means to us. If we had the wisdom to only learn about ourselves from our experiences and know that the outside world is only there as a reference point for us to experience ourselves, we would remain enlightened and authentic from birth, but then where would the fun be in that? However, it is concept important to keep in mind as we start peeling back the layers of the onion in pursuit of our authentic selves, it gives us a roadmap to find our way back to our organismic selves.  If you have read any of my musings you will know that I consider most of humanity to be asleep, and in this respect most of us are unaware of our pursuit back to our authentic selves. In fact, in our blind unawareness we strive to react to the conditionings we have layered on top of our authenticity, which causes us to resist the path back to our origins. Waking up to this Indiana Jonesesque adventure only requires one thing and that is to sincerely and deeply ask the question, “Who am I?”. As you may know, once you ask a question with a sincere quest to find an answer, your entire being is compelled to give you an answer. You may not be your authenticity, but you quest to find your answer will be lead by the way of your authenticity and thus you will find it as a biproduct of your quest. However, once you find “it” and you discover other truths of who you are you will discover new aspects of your authenticity, thus you will only ever find your authenticity as it relates to the moment where you are perceiving yourself through your experiences.  With “the question” you also begin a process of shifting your attention from an external to an internal locus of evaluation. Your perception is not; “who do others think I am?”, to “who am I projecting to others?”. When we then start to process our core wounds and how we act out from them, we can also start healing our original sensitising events (traumas). Through this healing process we uncover more and more aspects of our authentic selves. It is hard work and it is a lifelong process, but the rewards are immeasurable and will gradually come to you as you heal.  So, as yourself the question, “Who am I?”, with a pure desire to wanting to know the answer. Good luck! Support this podcast
1 hr 1 min
Spend time in someone's darkness“Sometimes all a person wants is an empathetic ear, all he or she needs is to talk it out. Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for his or her suffering can be a big comfort.” – Roy T. BennettEmpathy is the ability to put oneself in the situation of another experiencing emotions, ideas or opinions of that person. Whereas, sympathy is feeling bad for someone’s suffering, but cannot feel or resonate with the actual feeling of that person. In order to be empathetic we must have experienced the feeling that the other person is feeling, and even better, recognise it for what the emotion is, i.e. name it. If we lack the spectrum of emotions we are not likely to be able to be empathetic. In society we see this in the division and the inability to empathise with the perspectives and opinions of others; by and large humanity today lacks the emotional intelligence (EQ) to be empathetic. The good news is that this merely a lack of practice.  We grow up learning and being conditioned that emotions are something to fear and avoid. As a result we react by being sad, upset or pissed off, we simply do not know how else to react to our emotions. Hence, the first step to empathy is to improve one’s EQ. Behaving empathically is where we come upon the grey areas. For me it comes down to taking a compassionate perspective and accepting someone’s experience and path, irrespective of my mind’s opinion of that might be. One must recognise that any action one takes involving oneself in the experiences of others, one has to also take the consequences of that action. Consider some examples, a close relation who’s struggling with addiction, some one we love choosing unorthodox healing options to deal with a serious illness, or some other very challenging situation. I can think of many different options for action, or inaction, that all would cause severe consequences for an individual not directly involved but in a position to act. I need to mindful if my discomfort of holding empathic space for someone influences my motivation to act in one way or another. If that is the case, I am no longer empathic, I am acting to avoid my own pain. It is a challenging to sit in someone’s darkness without trying to brighten up the space in someway, but that is the empathic path.  Are you always following the empathic path? Support this podcast
48 mins
Pay attention, there is gold in them there hills“I do believe in an everyday sort of magic – the inexplicable connectedness we sometime experience with places, people, works of art and the like, the eerie appropriateness of moments of synchronicity; the whispered voice, the hidden presence, when we think we are alone.” Charles de LintThe concept of “synchronicities” was popularised by Carl Jung in the first part of the 20th century. As a definition, a synchronicity is the acausal connection of two or more psychic and physical phenomena. It is in essence a connection between your deepest feelings and experiences with a physical event or occurrence in the external world.  Today, synchronicities are probably more synonymous with spirituality than psychology. However, whether you are coming from a theist or an nihilist perspective is irrelevant, the concept of synchronicities applies equally.  For the spiritual person, synchronicities can be messages from guides, the universe, God, angels, etc. While, for those how do not believe in any higher power, synchronicities are psychological triggers as to what one holds in one’s subconscious. Synchronicities can be explained using the Reticular Activating System, the internal body clock, the neuropathways, and the various centres and rewards systems in your brain. Essentially, what draws your focus has a match in your subconscious and requires your attention. At any rate, they aren’t mere coincidences and you ignore them at your own peril.  Irrespective of one’s belief system, when we resonate with a synchronicity, it is important to observe the experience and pay attention to one’s intuition to understand what is being conveyed to us. If you look up synchronicities on the internet you are bound to find all sorts of interpretations to various common synchronicities; such as angel numbers, power animals, feathers, etc. Freud himself had a system of interpretations of dreams, even though they mostly lead back to that you were in love with your mother. I have found, however, that, because of our unique make up, one cannot determine what a synchronicity means to any one person by a system. Sure, all things hold various vibrations and frequencies, but when they resonate with you, they take on a unique character and meaning. I am a proponent of interpreting the meaning of synchronicities from the perspective of the individual, not from a system. My advice is, listen to your intuition and take the meaning you look up in the many sources out there with a pinch of salt.  Start to pay attention and question everything. Once you ask the question, your mind is compelled to give you an answer, but you have to make the first move.  Support this podcast
57 mins
Guilt and Shame
Being able to feel guilt and shame is good“Watch out for each other. Love everyone and forgive everyone, incluyding yourself. Forgive your anger. Forgive your guilt. Your shame. Your sadness. Embrace and open up your love, your joy, your truth, and most especially, your heart” – Jim Henson, Creator of the Muppets.David R. Hawkins (https://veritaspub.com/) his scale of consciousness in his book “Power vs. Force”, more commonly referred to as the “Hawkins Scale”. It measures one’s level of consciousness, by a function of emotion that you hold in your body, on a scale between 0 and 1000. We can measure this by the single emotion that traverses your body or the embodiment of emotion that you hold. Guilt and shame are the two emotions, or rather energies, that hold the lowest frequency and are the most damaging to ourselves. Psycho and Sociopaths lack the ability to experience these emotions, but contrary to popular beliefs, sufferers of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) experience deep levels of shame, it is one of the starting points for that condition. However, they do not experience guilt. Guilt and shame are useful as communication tool from ourselves to let our consciousness know that we are doing something or behaving in a way that is out of alignment with our authenticity. As described earlier, if you lack the ability to feel these emotions, I recommend you see a mental health professional.   The major problem for most people is that we do not realise that we have a choice in letting go of shame and guilt (shame being “I am bad” and guilt “I did something bad”). Some might realise their choice, but find reasons why they should choose to hold on to these emotions. Hold on to them long enough and they become embodied. These choices are always, in the end, based on an external factor, such as “If I don’t hold on to it, who will?” or “If I don’t feel shameful or guilty, people will think that I am callous and don’t care”. More often than not these thoughts are based on assumptions of the expectations of others. Again, more often than not, these assumptions are false, there is, in fact, no one judging you. However, even if there is, does that force you to make a choice whether or not to hold on to guilt and shame? You can learn more about your relationship with judgement in the article and podcast called “https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/judgement-podcast/ (Judgement)“. The bottom line is that others judging you has more to do with their experiences than with you. The choice is yours.  The length of time that you hold on to the emotion is up to you, but a rule of thumb is that when you have understood and embodied the lesson or the communication that the emotion is there to give you, it will release itself. At that point you have already accepted the experience and forgiven yourself. That could be 10 minutes or 80 years, or anything in between and beyond, it is up to you. When you do release these energies from your body, you will feel lighter and more free as they tend to hold you tightly wound and tied to them.  Working through core wounds and emotions takes practice. Starting with shifting your mindset and the way you view your emotions. Start practicing observing your emotions from the perspective of your awareness without judgement. This will allow you to experience your emotions without attaching to and acting out on them. You will also be able to change your thought patterns from perpetuating the emotion to understanding them. Showing yourself compassion for your experiences, accepting them and forgiving yourself and others will then lead you to understanding why that experience was there and how you can learn about yourself from it. The Infinity Life (https://theinfinity.life/ (theinfinity.life)) has an 8-week programme that gives you the tools that can help you clear your core wounds and the energetic blockages you hold. At The Alchemy Experience... Support this podcast
59 mins
Core Wounds
It's never too late to choose life“To avoid experiencing the anxious quiver at the core of our being, where we might feel the chaos of uncertainty or the pain of unhealed wounds, we weave a protective cocoon of beliefs and identities.” – Ezra Bayda, At Home in the Muddy Watter Many of us have one or several main core wounds and a bunch of minor ones. In psychology they are also known as “Original Sensitising Events” (OSE’s). These are all based in experiences from the past where we were left with an impression that stayed with us. This impression then became a basis for a belief, which in turn became a pattern and part of our personality. The impression might have been; “It is not safe for me to express my opinion”, “If I fail my family might not love me”, “I can’t do anything right”, etc. That impression is often formed at a time in our childhood where we are yet to develop the concept of “individual thought”, which is usually between 9 and 11. Before then we have this idea that if I think “I am not loveable”, then everybody else has that same thought. Hence, if you have a thought that, if someone else has that same thought, would be a threat to your livelihood, you develop defence mechanisms to prevent that from happening, i.e. we might over compensate. For example, if you core wound is “abandonment” there might be several beliefs resulting from that and you would then go out of your way to ensure that you aren’t abandoned again, which might result in people pleasing, pushing people away to not give them a chance to abandon you, being guarded so that people don’t get to know you because they might then abandon you, etc.  As with all aspects in life, this topic is very complex in how the core wound appears, manifests, how we act from it and eventually, hopefully, identify and clear it. The core wounds are lodged very hard in our system, they are hard wired because of how intrinsic they become to our programming and conditioning. This is why it is so difficult to even be able to identify these patterns, and even more challenging, identifying their root causes. You might also recognise these as karmic energies. Our brains will use our programming and conditioning to search out experiences to validate what we believe. Our subconscious doesn’t know what is for your best, it only enhances and enforces what it is fed. This is why it is so important to realise our superpower of choice; we are the thinkers not our thoughts. With that in mind we can take charge and release our core wounds’ hold on us.  Alas, the first step is to recognise and acknowledge there are patterns that derive from your core woundings. Once you are able to identify these patterns, the triggers that you experience that set off your defence mechanism are your clues to your core woundings. There are many different ways people deal with their core woundings, whether that is through psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, energy healing, aroma therapy, meditation, etc., there are many ways of getting to root of one’s problems. One techniques is called “The Infinity Life”, which is a course where you learn tools to help clear your core woundings and energetic blockages preventing their release. It’s an 8 week course that you can then become qualified to teach yourself. To find out more, https://theinfinity.life/?ref=1 (click here “The Infinity Life”) (transparency disclosure, the author is a founding member). The point is that we hold the vibrations of our core wounding and part of the solution is to raise our frequencies beyond the negativity of our core woundings. I am not suggesting her, by any means, that you practice spiritual bypass (to learn more about it, check out the episode on https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/spiritual-bypass/ (“Spiritual Bypass”)) and supress or dismiss the work and the emotions coming up around it. To the contrary, fully acknowledge and recognise your shadow self and integrate it into your being is, in my... Support this podcast
1 hr 3 mins
Is your glass half empty or half full?“The eye only sees what the mind is ready to comprehend” – Robertson Davies, Tempest-TostThe general attention of your mind is your mindset or bias. Some common biases are: Positive Ambivalent Negative Aggressive Defensive Controlling Submissive These occur through establishing patterns and behaviours based on our experiences. For example, the brain does not know the difference between fear and excitement, it is our perception based on our experiences that determine whether the signals go to the the amygdala or the nucleus accumbens. It has been said that “brain cells that fire together, and your bias is determined how your brain is wired. The good news is that you can rewire it if your bias is not working for you.  The challenge is that we tend to end up in these self-confirming loops. We have the core wounding, or original sensitising event, that plants plants the seed for the pattern and the interpretation. As new experiences will come up reminding your brain about the original wounding, you will then be further validated that the thoughts you had around the original wounding are correct. Your reticular activating system will then be on the lookout for aspects of your experiences to further validate the original wounding. And around it goes.  Your connection to the core wounding are your emotions, which you can’t control. However, if you understand that you don’t need to engage with your emotions, but rather observe them from you awareness, then you can also observe your thoughts arising with the emotion, and your thoughts you can control, so you can direct them where they can reflect on the emotion rather than perpetuating it. If you can find your way back and heal the core wounding and direct your thoughts, then you can alter your bias. However, mind yourself, because unless you have self-actualised and become enlightened, you are likely to end up with a new bias, perhaps one more in alignment with your authenticity, but a bias all the same. Support this podcast
1 hr 4 mins
Collective Consciousness
What's your contribution?“Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full, to talk about. Ideas, language, even the phrase “each other” doesn’t make any sense.” – RumiThe collective consciousness was very much the territory of philosophers, mystics and spiritualists up until the late 1970’s when research started out, slowly to begin with, to progressively build up in density among projects over the next 50 years; and counting. With such prestigious organisations as Stanford University, University of Virginia, Princeton University, et al, having conducted, and in most cases, are conducting, research into the collective consciousness it is becoming increasingly difficult for the antagonists to shout “pseudoscience” from the roof tops as is customary. The emerging prominence of quantum physics has contributed a great deal to the inclusion of this field of research into the inner echelons of science. Quantum physics intersects in many areas with philosophies of consciousness and thus the collective consciousness, which gives us some possible markers to start explaining the collective conscious from a scientific perspective.  In here and in the podcast we will approach it from the philosophical and experiential perspective. We know and can measure the Gravitational, Electric and Magnetic fields, but in the beginning of the 20th century there were theories emerging relating to the Morphogenetic field. This is a force field through which cells can communicate to establish what type of tissue a particular group is supposed to become and where they go in the body. Until recently we have not been able to measure this field, we just know it is there. A very exciting experiment led by Michael Levin from Tuft University shows how interacting with the morphogenetic fields of cells, they can alter what part of a body is grown and where it is grown. Watch this TEDtalk for the full story https://www.ted.com/talks/michael_levin_the_electrical_blueprints_that_orchestrate_life?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare (https://www.ted.com/talks/michael_levin_the_electrical_blueprints_that_orchestrate_life?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare). What it shows is that with interaction we can change the regenerative process of cells. Anyone involved in any healing modalities, such as Reiki, Acupuncture, etc. works with this in an intuitive and metaphysical level. What we are addressing here is the energy, or subtle, body, and it is important for the discussion about the collective consciousness because it is, in my experience, the conduit for our consciousness to interact with the collective. Most people are unaware of their subtle bodies and how their consciousness interacts with the collective. However, when we are conscious about our own energy and consciousness we can direct our energy to allow our consciousness interact with the subtle bodies and consciousness of others. These are called fields of influence: Learning/Creativity Creation of order/coherence Intapersonal and collective entrainment Healing Social Impact Perception We can interact with these fields through, what’s known as, Psi or Tele-prehension, or, more colloquially, psychically.  “I came to the conclusion that we should aspire to increase the scope and scale of human consciousness in order to better understand what questions to ask. Really, the only thing that makes sense is to strive for greater collective enlightenment” – Elon MuskThe collective consciousness is thus, the field that makes up all the consciousness or all living things and we all interact with it. However, consciousness is fractal by nature and thus, if you have a family or a group of people at work or a team, they all form collectives that feed their unique energy signatures in to the bigger collective. It is this... Support this podcast
1 hr 20 mins
Loss Aversion
Avoiding our greatness out of fear“Tim and again, we let the fear of loss overpower rational decision-making and often make ourselves worse off just to avoid a potential loss. Psychologists call this loss aversion, and it means we often tend to prefer avoiding losses at the expense of acquiring gains” – L. Jon WethereinYou may be familiar with the saying, “Better the devil you know.” This mindset of keeping ourselves small prevents us from moving on to becoming better versions of ourselves. We rather keep ourselves in a job, relationship or other situation that makes us miserable than cut our losses and seek our happiness. On the more extreme side of the spectrum we have the situations where someone is challenged with long-term mental or physical illness. In these cases it is common that the limitations of the illness or condition becomes part of their identity and ingrained patterns. Anyone on the outside of this experience will find it hard to understand the challenges people suffering from pathological loss aversion. They might cling to their secondary or tertiary “benefits”, which will appear as if they are clinging to their condition. They can also suffer from grief if they recover from their condition. On the surface, all these manifestations are mostly incomprehensible to anyone not suffering from this type of loss aversion. The bottom line is, moving on from what you know to the unknown is scary and it takes great courage and self-awareness to do it. If the environment we have operated within hasn’t killed us, it appears safe, which is more than we an say about the future that we know nothing about. Essentially, loss aversion is a safety mechanism meant to keep us safe from death. We also tend to be stuck in our mindset and when we lack the ability to assess our own situation and experiences, we cannot break out of the pattern. Patterns do get ingrained in our psyche and become part of who we are and how we respond to the environments and experiences around us. For example, our brains don’t know the difference between fear and excitement, it is our perception of it that determines the neuropathways that the brain will fire through, so if we continuously assign it to fear, we build up that pattern and our subconscious will then run that programme for us. Changing that programming will take for us to; a) wake up to the fact that we are running the programme, b) commit to change, and c) do the work to change, all while there are no guarantees that it will be better than where we were. If we have done the work and continuously heal our core wounding, and follow our intuition and guidance from our higher selves, we will always end up in a better situation. Making the tough choices often times are for the best in the long-term. That is not to say that making rash, spur of the moment decisions are necessarily going to make life less challenging. However, we tend to analyse our future based on our past experiences and not listen to our guidance and view it from the perspective where we want to be. Some key concepts and tools to help us with loss aversion are: Developing a perspective of our own mortality. Trying to see that whenever that time comes that it is going to be ok and it is nothing we control, accept that it is going to be what it is going to be. View how change has been in our previous experiences when we’ve made the tough choices. Gain perspective on our experiences that they are there to teach us about ourselves and anything else relating to the experience is impermanent. Use visioning and future pacing to experience the future in our present moment. How does it feel to step into the shoes of the experience that we desire? Establish a mindfulness practice and practices to develop our intuition and higher guidance. Accept our choices and hold ourselves accountable without judgement or blame. Often times it is beyond our own resourcing to move past loss aversion, so working with professional... Support this podcast
1 hr 11 mins
Do you trust yourself to know your boundaries?“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack which they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behaviours or a choice.” – Brené Brown, The Gift of ImperfectionContrary to popular beliefs, boundaries are not hare borders nor fences. We tend to put them up before anyone even threatens them; our fight or flight systems are perpetually firing pumping out harmful cortisol in our bodies. We use any transgression to show our strength and power to those around us. These perspectives result in the perpetuation of anger, hate, power, division, etc. As with many other of these aspects of humanity we act from our experiences with our external world, whereas we experience the world from outside our body, not from a self-reflective perspective. We insist on viewing our experiences as opportunities to learn about our our environment and people around us, not to learn about the only consistent factor in all our experiences; ourselves! They are not tripwires for us to react to, but rather opportunities to observe and learn about ourselves.  Boundary work is an ongoing practice and requires patience and trust to succeed. Your boundaries are fluid and dynamic and change with every moment and experience you have. They depend on every conceivable element that you or anybody you interact bring along to the experience. It is far complex for us to work out for ourselves how to modulate our boundaries in any given moment. Only your work on your own baggage will determine how well you modulate your boundaries. How you react to your boundaries being violated are measurements on your ability to remain mindful and present in your moments. How do you respond to your boundaries being crossed? Do these reactions serve you? We can maintain our boundaries and still act compassionately. Communicating your boundaries authentically from your space of compassion is all you need to do. Others can then choose to respect or violate our boundaries; this is out of our control. We can only control our thoughts, our words and our actions. When we don’t trust our boundaries, or rather that we know where our boundaries are, we go into fear mode and start operating from our core wounding and conditioning. The work we do on ourselves will reward us with increased trust. The more we respect and love ourselves, the better we will know ourselves, and, thus, the more we will trust ourselves.  Know thyself and you shall know your boundaries. Good luck with your work.  Support this podcast
55 mins
To trust or not to trust, that is the question“Intuition is really a sudden immersion of the soul into the universal current of life.” – Paulo Coelho, The AlchemistTo me Sonia Choquette is one of the more prominent teachers of intuition specifically. She divides intuition into three areas: Red – survival and instinct Green – creative opportunities and ideas White – purpose and calling Red intuition you will probably have heard of being referred to as your “gut feeling”. It is when you have a “bad” feeling in your abdominal area about a situation, something just doesn’t feel right. Often times, for those who actively communicate with their intuition, it is also where the answer “no” resides. You can try this out for yourself; say no in a very negative way over and over again and tap into where “no” resonates in your body, if not in the abdomen.  When you have a idea or impulse of creativity, you may feel this warmth and buzzing feeling in your heart space; this is very likely what Sonia calls “green” intuition. In difference to your red intuition warning you “no”, this green one is all about possibilities, opportunities and shouting “yes” from the roof tops. Try the same exercise as above, but now say “yes” to yourself with as much positivity as yo can and feel where it resonates in your body, I would venture to say it resonates in your chest, or, if you like, your heart space.  White intuition is a little different in that it is more of a communication from another, higher, dimensional aspect of yourself; your higher self. For these purposes, your white intuition guides you in your big relationships, life decisions, purpose, and other life path/journey related decisions. One of the originators of modern Psychiatry, Carl Jung, had a name for his; Philemon. In his “The Red Book” he describes his pursuit and engagement with Philemon. Sonia also recommends building a relationship with your white intuition/higher self, starting by asking him/her/it for a name. From there your begin the conversation.  Building up a working relationship with your intuition requires preparation, in terms of a continuous practice, and patience. You build up a knowledge of how your intuition communicates with you, and the language being used. The language and means of communications are aspects that are unique to you based on your experiences and your frequency. Intuition rarely comes through as instructions in your local language, it communicates in symbolism based on your frame of, mainly, subconscious reference. Spend time talking about, and sharing, your intuition with others. Bring it into your reality through your physical expression. Your friends and family will probably think you are bonkers when you suddenly start talking about intuition, but it is worth it. A note of caution, don’t discount other people’s intuitive experiences in favour of your own. You trust yours and let others trust theirs without judgement or criticism.  Another important step in your preparations is to know your “baseline”. Anyone who has been part of my Psychometry classes will be very familiar with this. This practice is about training yourself to observe your experiences from your awareness without judgement or criticism. Your experiences in this case refers to sensations, emotions, thoughts, smells, tastes, visual and auditory impressions, etc. If you are aware of your baseline in every moment you know when there are changes in your experiences and you can then with your awareness and observation ascertain the purpose and objective of this new “energy”, if it is your intuition, you will then be fully aware of it and take appropriate action. Learning how to observe your experiences from your awareness is best done through mindfulness meditation.  Two other key concepts are discernment and trust. When you first start out, you are likely to misinterpret much of the information and perhaps even picking up information that... Support this podcast
55 mins
Consciousness Experienced - With Luigi Sciambarella from The Monroe Institute
"Who am I?", is most probably the question people ask themselves once they have an out-of-body experience (OBE). Imagine, you are fully awake, laying in your bed, eyes closed, and suddenly you feel your whole body vibrating like a train is rocking through your room. You find yourself more curious than afraid, but just as suddenly as they began the vibrations are gone, but now you are "standing" on the floor next to your bed looking down on your body. This reality appears more real to you than the on you experience while in your body, how is this possible? It is real and it has been going on for, at least, as long as we have recorded history. Psychology and scientists have attempted to explain it as physical phenomena, but it is unlikely that those people actually experienced it, or anything that wasn't available to them in their external world. Like many other things that science can't explain in the metaphysical field, these are experiences that people have to have for themselves and the individual becomes the scientific evidence for themselves. In this episode Luigi Sciambarella and I are discussing consciousness, the philosophies, the science, what happens when you direct it and much more. If you are intrigued by this subject and hope to have your own experiences, please check out the contact details below for Luigi and the Monroe Institute. About Luigi: Luigi Sciambarella is a Monroe Institute trainer in the UK and a hypno-psychotherapist. Since 2010, Luigi has been teaching and giving talks on meditation, lucid dreaming and personal development around the world to thousands of people who are interested in exploring the many different facets of mind (conscious, unconscious and everything in-between). This has led Luigi to develop a deep understanding of the waking, dreaming and sleeping mind and the phenomena of lucid dreaming, out of body experiences, sleep paralysis, insomnia and the various parasomnias that can disturb a good night’s sleep. Monroe Institute: http://www.monroeinstitute.org (www.monroeinstitute.org) Monroe Institute UK: http://www.monroeinstituteuk.org (www.monroeinstituteuk.org) Day and Night Therapy: http://www.dayandnighttherapy.com (www.dayandnighttherapy.com) Monroe Institute’s Expand app: https://info.monroeinstitute.org/get-expand-app (https://info.monroeinstitute.org/get-expand-app) Contact Luigi either at: luigi@monroeinstituteuk.org or luigi@dayandnighttherapy.com Support this podcast
1 hr 59 mins
"Don't sacrifice too much, because if you sacrifice too much there is nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you." - Karl LagerfeldIf you sacrifice yourself to your own detriment, you are a hero; that is the societal norm. However, the problem is that when you sacrifice yourself without any self-care you deplete yourself and you end up needing others to come to your rescue, by which time they will be used to you sacrificing yourself and now that you need help they will not accept the change. This is why, when people wake up to their own selves, and they start filling their own cup and setting up boundaries, they are seen as strange and selfish. Whereas the fact is that by fully practicing self-care they can then give by the order of magnitude with their full power and passion.  From our own points of view, it is always easier to help others than ourselves, there is immediate internal and external gratification. However, practicing self-care takes work and we usually suffer initial, and in some cases, sustained, backlashes from our existing tribes.  Self-care is a holistic practice where you tend to the needs of your: Physical body - nutrition, exercise, hydration, sleep, etc.  Mental body - perspective, awareness, emotions, sleep, etc.  Spiritual body - purpose, connection, understanding, etc. Energy body - energy hygiene, meditation, energy healing, etc.  Of course there is a balance between self-care and selfishness. If you suddenly drop all your responsibilities without any forewarning, you will have to suffer some significant consequences, that are going to make your self-care practice truly challenging. Find your balance and bring your practices on gradually and allow responsibilities to naturally release, rather than ripping them all off like a plaster. The goal is for you to become the VIP of your own life, and part of that is having the balance with self-care and supporting others.  Are you busy living or dying? It is your choice.  Support this podcast
1 hr 4 mins
Core Wounding on You Are Amazing TV
From a child's point of view, it doesn't matter how consciously aware a parent is, there is always going to be trauma and core wounding appearing as we go through childhood. Children grow up in an an adult world, which is an entirely unknown dimension as far as the child's mind is concerned. As unique individuals we are always going to, at some level, feel like we don't fit in or that we have to work hard to be "normal". Often times we grow up and look back with comparative eyes thinking "I have nothing to complain about my childhood, it was good". However, we retrospect with our now adult eyes and compare our lives to others, while the wounding experienced by the child version of ourselves does not have that luxury and the trauma is experienced as a unique occurrence. We all have our core wounds to work on, some more and some less, but it is there, not to be ignored. Some of us have the fortune to realise this as we grow older and we address our core wounds and seek to heal them. Our discussion in this episode is centered around recognising, assessing and healing our core wounds. This episode is simulcast on the "You Are Amazing TV" channel hosted by "The Best you TV". You will find it onhttp://youareamazingtv.com/ ( http://youareamazingtv.com/), Roku, AppleTV, Google Play, Amazon Fire Stick and The Best You TV App (https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.onestudio.thebestyoutv&hl=en_GB&gl=US (Android) and https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-best-you-tv/id1530606320 (Apple)) On You Are Amazing TV you will find other episodes like this one as well as wonderful and inspiring stories from real people creating real change for themselves and humanity as a whole. The pane guests this time are: Barbie Layton: Speaker, healer, psychic and teacher extraordinaire, as well as owner and hostess of the "You Are Amazing TV" channel on The Best You TV. http://youareamazingtv.com/ (http://youareamazingtv.com/) Glenn Evans: Currently transitioning from a very successful career in the engineering trades to helping men work through their traumas and challenges. https://www.instagram.com/907wabisabiaf/ (https://www.instagram.com/907wabisabiaf/) Karol Kosinski: hypnotherapist, coach, instructional designer, academic developer and meditation teacher. https://www.karolkosinski.org/ (https://www.karolkosinski.org/) Support this podcast
1 hr 49 mins
Carte Blanche: Visioning
In this epispode Barbie Layton and I discuss "Visioning". Visioning is different from visualisation in the way that you tell the story and the energy you build up to fuel the manifestation. With visualisation techniques, the visuals are the focus, whereas with visioning the visuals are a means to an end. They are used to build up a story that excites you and evokes the embodied feelings that you desire when you have the experiences that you visualise. It is important in visioning to use your language, body and speach to build up the excitement. The excitement is used as booster for the embodied feeling. You start where you feel comfortable and then build it up from there, i.e. you start the story where you can believe it. In visualisations you hold the visuals, but in visioning you detach from the visuals when you have evoked the feeling so that you don't end up attaching to the visualised future. Visioning also allows for the story to evolve as you combine your intuition and imagination to build up the visioning, further amplifying the excitement and boosting the embodied feeling. Visioning helps to alleviate the tendency to worry about how to acheive your dream and preventing to attach to the end results, both of which will have counterproductive results for the manifestation. This episode is simulcast on the "You Are Amazing TV" channel hosted by "The Best you TV". You will find it on http://youareamazingtv.com/, Roku, AppleTV, Google Play, Amazon Fire Stick and The Best You TV App (https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.onestudio.thebestyoutv&hl=en_GB&gl=US (Android) and https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-best-you-tv/id1530606320 (Apple)) On You Are Amazing TV you will find other episodes like this one as well as wonderful and inspiring stories from real people creating real change for themselves and humanity as a whole. Support this podcast
1 hr 16 mins