Unfolding with Kathy Varol

Kathy Varol

Unfolding with Kathy Varol: Each episode shares one perspective - in 3 to 20 minutes - that will let you see yourself and the world better. One perspective at a time we’ll pull back layers of conditioning to find the truth underneath. A change in perspective has the power to change everything. If you feel stuck, if the boxes no longer fit, it might be time to try on a new perspective. This is the art of unfolding into the fullest expression of you. Your vastness is waiting. Pull up a seat, the journey is now. read less

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1. What’s this podcast about? Let me tell you.

1. What’s this podcast about? Let me tell you.

Perspectives shape how we see the world. If you feel stuck, if things aren’t fitting, if you’re not fitting, it might be time to try on a new perspective. This podcast shares perspectives that have been profound on my journey of unfolding into the fullest version of myself. A journey that continues each day. I created this podcast for a younger version of me. The version of me that was struggling to figure out how she fit into the world. The version of me that was struggling to find her voice. The version of me that was struggling to feel like she was enough. In each episode, I offer you a new perspective. Try it on. If it fits, take it. If it doesn’t fit, leave it where it is. That means it’s not for you. One perspective at a time, we’ll grow together. We’ll peel back layers of conditioning to find the truth underneath. Your vastness is waiting. Pull up a seat my love. The journey is now.

Episodes

S2 E18. The Importance of Frequency for Behavior Change

S2 E18. The Importance of Frequency for Behavior Change

Finding a way to have frequency/repetition for practicing a new habit is incredibly important for creating lasting behavior change. If it only happens once a month, the change you’re trying to create is hard to remember and almost impossible to keep top of mind. In a relationship, find ways for the new pattern to take up more space - an out-weighed amount of space - so it can be practiced and become the auto-response.

S2 E17. To the Eternal Optimist, Remember, the Sun Is Blinding

S2 E17. To the Eternal Optimist, Remember, the Sun Is Blinding

Always being a ray of sunshine has its downsides. Remember, the sun is blinding.

S2 E16. The Entrepreneurial Journey Is a Spiritual Journey

S2 E16. The Entrepreneurial Journey Is a Spiritual Journey

Entrepreneurship is a spiritual journey. I don’t think this is talked about enough. The spiritual aspect of jumping off the corporate cliff took me by complete surprise. Let’s dive into why the entrepreneurial journey is a spiritual journey.

S2 E15. The Addiction of Worry, and What to Do About It

S2 E15. The Addiction of Worry, and What to Do About It

Worrying about the future can become addictive. Believing you can control what happens by worrying and thinking about it enough. If you find yourself stuck in a worry loop, it’s important to find a way to step outside of it, so you can gain a new vantage point.

S2 E14. Spanking as a Form of Discipline - My Evolution of Thinking

S2 E14. Spanking as a Form of Discipline - My Evolution of Thinking

When I grew up, spanking was a common practice. Now, many countries have outlawed spanking children (the USA isn’t one of them). Here I share my personal experience with being spanked as a form of discipline, how my views on it have changed, plus some science.

S2 E13. Self-abandonment and an Invitation to Be Selfish

S2 E13. Self-abandonment and an Invitation to Be Selfish

When you have practiced the habit of self-abandonment, to break out of those deep worn patterns, you need to allow yourself to move to the other side of the spectrum. Give yourself permission, an invitation, and a challenge to be selfish. More selfish than you’ve ever been. Try it out. Try it on. See what feels right, and what doesn’t through your lived experience. This intentional practice will enable you to break your old self-abandonment patterns and start moving into a place of alignment - finding a spot to settle somewhere between the spectrum of self-abandonment and selfishness.

S2 E12. Scars on Our Physical Body and Our Energetic Body

S2 E12. Scars on Our Physical Body and Our Energetic Body

Meditating this morning, an analogy between scars on our physical body and scars on our energetic and relationships bodies surfaced. I’d love to share it with you.

S2 E11. Redefining Empathy

S2 E11. Redefining Empathy

For everything in life, there’s a tipping point where more is worse instead of better. Empathy is no different. Identifying too strongly as an empath can have its pitfalls. When empathy becomes central to your identity, you may start to over-empathize. This creates a risk of neglecting your own lived experience. This can make setting personal boundaries challenging.

S2 E10. Your Unhealed Parts Don't Only Hurt Yourself

S2 E10. Your Unhealed Parts Don't Only Hurt Yourself

Not healing ourselves doesn’t just hurt our own ability to fully engage in the world, but it hurts those closest to us too. Our armor cages out and contracts our partners as well. One of the most important things we can do for our loved ones is take time to heal ourselves.

S2 E9. My Subconscious Mistake in Picking Previous Partners (Hoping to Keep My Heart Safe)

S2 E9. My Subconscious Mistake in Picking Previous Partners (Hoping to Keep My Heart Safe)

In the past, I was compromising with the partners I chose, because I thought I was a compromise. And I thought over-compromising - if the “pros” in my list were more than the “pros” in their list - would keep my heart safe. But it doesn’t work that way.

S2 E8. Let's Talk About Energetic Grounding. Try This.

S2 E8. Let's Talk About Energetic Grounding. Try This.

I recently heard a definition of grounding that resonated deeply. I hadn’t heard it explained this way before. In this episode, I’ll share that definition with you, and offer a new visualization to try in your grounding practice.

S2 E7. If You're Feeling Fragmented and Ungrounded

S2 E7. If You're Feeling Fragmented and Ungrounded

Each of us has a gravitational force. When you allow yourself to sink into the depths of your being, and call all of your energy back into you, you become a force that is felt deeply. Not only by yourself - allowing yourself to be cocooned in your gravity - but also by everyone who encounters you. But when you allow your energy to be pulled into a million directions - toward all the shoulds and expectations - you become fragmented. You feel fragmented because your energy is fragmented.

S2 E6. Grief - Honoring the Loss of a Pet

S2 E6. Grief - Honoring the Loss of a Pet

I recently went to a wake held for the passing of a friend's dog. It got me wondering why wakes for pets aren’t a common thing. Pet’s become true family members, and yet their loss is usually marked in relative isolation. Grief is a hard, heavy, and ferrell emotion. Community is a key part of being supported through the grief journey.

S2 E5. Dystopian Energy and the Rabbit Hole of Global Doom

S2 E5. Dystopian Energy and the Rabbit Hole of Global Doom

Dystopian story energy (Aliens, mad max, horror), is the same frequency as the doom and gloom addiction to the future and current state of our world. Many people fall into an addictive trap, feeling compelled to know about all the suffering in the world and embody it. This addiction causes an unrooted overwhelm that’s driven by guilt, a sense of responsibility or duty to things you can’t control at the expense of what you can control.

S2 E4. Do You Have the Capacity to Hold Space Right Now?

S2 E4. Do You Have the Capacity to Hold Space Right Now?

It’s important to ask others before unloading on them if they have the capacity to hold you in this moment. This question acknowledges that as humans we don’t always have the capacity to support others. And it’s important to check in with yourself - if someone doesn’t check in with you first - to see if you have the capacity to show up for how someone is asking you to show up. When you are an emotional holder for others, you’re allowing them to energetically pour into your cup. It’s ok if your cup is too full.

S2 E3. Chemistry Is Like Magic and Each of Us Is a Magician

S2 E3. Chemistry Is Like Magic and Each of Us Is a Magician

Each of us holds the potential to be a magician. Consider how we influence those around us. Our energy shapes meetings, events, and interactions. Our actions trigger responses. The frequencies we operate on ripple out, leaving an imprint around us wherever we go. To harness this power, you must be intentional about the reactions you wish to ignite.

S2 E2. Are You Unintentionally Bringing Into Your Life the Thing You Want to Avoid?

S2 E2. Are You Unintentionally Bringing Into Your Life the Thing You Want to Avoid?

Many times the way we contort ourselves to behave in an aim to prevent something, causes that thing to happen. Once you become aware of this counterintuitive truth, you start noticing this mind-boggling pattern everywhere. In this episode, I share an example of how I was bringing people who wanted to see me fail into my life.

S2 E1. Season 2 Kick-off

S2 E1. Season 2 Kick-off

Welcome back to the Unfolding podcast! It’s been a bit of a break, and I’m so excited to share new perspectives with you, starting with this season's kick-off reminder about how uniquely extraordinary, delightful, and awe-inspiring you are. Anytime you need a reminder of how special your you-ness is, listen to this.

108. End of Unfolding Season 1

108. End of Unfolding Season 1

What an amazing season of Unfolding. 108 episodes delivered three times a week. This podcast has been a remarkable journey for me. I hope it’s been a delightful journey for you too. As we wrap up this season, I wanted to share my thoughts.

107. The Longest Journey Begins With a Single Step

107. The Longest Journey Begins With a Single Step

A thousand-mile journey sounds daunting, even impossible. At the start, when the path forward is filled with uncertainty, there is an equal measure of doubt. But the truth is, each of us will complete multiple thousand-mile journeys in our lives.